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Are You in a Dead-End Relationship?
Certainly, not every relationship is meant to go the distance and conclude at the altar, but that doesn’t mean the relationship itself was a failure and has no value. When you’ve invested time, energy and emotions into a relationship it can be quite a challenge to let it go. Avoid unnecessary heartbreak and stop wasting time in dead-end relationships. Here are my top ten warning signs... [Read more]
The Decline in Black Marriages… Is Marriage for Educated White People?
Last week I did two shows on Black women and their desire to marry a man with a college degree. The first show (on Wednesday January 20th), was based on a PEW Research Center report New Economics of Marriage – The Rise of Wives which stated that more men are now marrying women who make more money than they do, mainly because there are more high-income women to go... [Read more]
Can Exes Be Just Friends?
A reader wrote to ask that question via the Skribit suggestion box. I’ve been pondering the issue from all sides as I look at couples and how they handled the "friendship" thing after a breakup. I’ve come to the following conclusions: Unless a couple has a child or multiple children between them that would require seeing each other intermittently over an... [Read more]
Don’t Waste Your Time on a Fearful Defeatist
Deborrah, I listened to your show yesterday when you were interviewing Dr. Catherine Cardinal and talking about the things women do that drive men away and her book Men To Run From. You two were so funny, just great together and I laughed through the whole thing. I agreed with everything she said, especially the part about women needing to feel safe and secure and that it was okay... [Read more]
10 Things Women Do That Drive Men Away
Back in 1997 when I first launched AskHeartBeat.Com, one of our contributing writers was William July II. William wrote two books that he graciously allowed us to post excerpts from – Brothers, Lust & Love: Thoughts on Manhood, Sex and Romance and Understanding the Tin Man – Why So Many Men Avoid Intimacy. In this post is an excerpt from William’s first book; you... [Read more]
Opposites Attract or Do You Attract Who You Are?
"You attract what you are!" is an oft-quoted phrase, most often used to put down a person that has discovered that their partner has violated the principles of their relationship and proven him or herself to be flakey and stupid. But I totally disagree with that nonsense. First of all, the people that tend to quote the phrase have heard other people say it and adopted the statement as... [Read more]
The 70% of Black Women Are Single Lie Exposed
There is a contingent of Black men online and in print media that love to quote the statistic: "70% of Black women are single!" This statement is shouted and repeated with the utmost excitement and conviction. It is usually followed by suggestions (aka demands) that Black women change what they are doing and how they are doing it, how they dress, speak, and what they need to be like in... [Read more]
Why Women Should Stop Having Children
It is my contention that every woman in the world of childbearing age should immediately get her tubes tied or get on birth control of the highest quality, and stay on it for the duration of her childbearing years. Apparently, most men are not qualified mentally to handle the responsibility, obligations nor constraints associated with fatherhood, to have the emotional intelligence to understand... [Read more]
Father’s Rights and Violence Against Women
by Dr. Michael Flood In this talk, I’m going to focus on the ‘fathers’ rights’ movement, and their impact on violence against women. Introduction: The fathers’ rights movement The fathers’ rights movement is defined by the claim that fathers are deprived of their ‘rights’ and subjected to systematic discrimination as men and fathers, in a system biased... [Read more]
Rejection and Dating – Why Rejection Hurts
Rejection…when it hurts, it hurts like HELL. For most humans, rejection leaves one swimming in a sea of diminished self worth, drawn up into a proverbial ball, licking one’s wounds. In our society rejection takes many forms and may be compounded by racial or gender slurs, religious or political conflict, and denial of legal rights to equitable housing, salaries and job opportunities.... [Read more]
When He Won’t Take “No!” for an Answer
Most women’s lives are spent in desperate pursuit of approval and love from, and relationships with men. Women anxiously ask themselves am I slim enough, pretty enough, are my hair and nails done well enough, am I freaky enough, am I pure enough? Many females are terrified about the possibility of becoming an Old Maid, though none of us has ever seen such a person and our only point of reference... [Read more]
Why Weak Men Want Submissive Women
For the past week I’ve participated in a lively exchange on the issue of female submission in romantic relationships. The source of the conflict was a V-log posting by Shanel Cooper (no relation … that I know of anyway) entitled Your Power is in Submission… Judging by the comments posted, I am apparently in the minority in my thinking. Many of the male posters cosigned in droves.... [Read more]
The Male Struggle for Control of Female Sexuality
My Internet Talk Radio show "The Power of the Pu$$y!" stirred quite a bit of controvery last week. The show actually ran 30 minutes longer than originally scheduled, due to the fact that we had so much ground to cover, and so many controverting opinions from the male listeners. Things got interesting and quite heated. My cousin Joy (a very thoughtful and articulate woman), joined me... [Read more]
What Black Women Need to Be Happy
A confused male poster on a forum I visit sometimes wrote: "Black women will never be happy with Black men. Black women would find fault or a reason to complain and whine because she has been convinced that no matter what the Black man does, good or bad, he will never measure up to her real idol, the White man. The White man did a wonderful job confusing the Black women about what ‘a... [Read more]
Men That Don’t Take Responsibility For a Pregnancy Are Punk Bitches!
It’s time to address an issue that has come up repeatedly – that of out of wedlock babies and who is to blame. It’s been on my mind for months while I heard arguments from both camps and listened to the excuses from both sides. Though both parties were less than mature and responsible, it bothers me that Black men seem to feel that it is the woman’s responsibility to... [Read more]
The Three Types of Black Men
I have been around a few decades. Socially and through my work, I’ve interacted with hundreds of thousands of men from all over the world. I’ve come to the conclusion that there are three types of Black men: #1 – Those That Do Positive Things and Make a Positive Mark On The World These are the guys that took the lessons of their parents and other adults... [Read more]
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