You Too Can Start a Black Church!
Some say a church begins when a group of Believers get together for prayer and to praise Jesus Christ. If you believe that, I have a great deal on a bridge I’d like to tell you about…
smarter dating
If You Didn’t Provide it For Yourself, It’s Not SELF Esteem!
Women with low self-esteem make poor choices in men out of fearful desperation. Positive relationships with men begin with establishing positive relationships with ourselves. Women must stop allowing men to impact or control in any way their self image, and thereby damage or control their SELF esteem.
Can Exes Be Just Friends?
Can exes be friends? Sure they CAN, but what would be the point? Someone is just going to try to cock-block or get back in where you don’t want them to be, flip out with jealousy, or be all up in your business. When its over, let it be over and move on.
If You Didn’t ‘Get’ How The Black Church Keeps Black Women Single…
Though somewhat surprised by the intensity of the debate on my article on The Black Church, I am not at all shocked at the shake up the article has caused. Always a maverick and unafraid of either contentious criticism or debate, who but Deb Cooper would have the gumption to question the motives of an institution held so dear by millions of Black people across the nation? After all, if one is an avid church-goer, how likely are you to question your church on your own?
social issues and culture
Beware of the Verbally Abusive Man Hiding in Plain Sight
It really doesn’t matter why a man is verbally or psychologically abusive towards females, nor does it matter if the undercover abuse is purposeful or not, the damage to a woman’s self esteem and emotional stability if she listens to that bullshit is exactly the same, and it can be quite considerable.
You Too Can Start a Black Church!
Some say a church begins when a group of Believers get together for prayer and to praise Jesus Christ. If you believe that, I have a great deal on a bridge I’d like to tell you about…
Black Feminism and The Black Men’s Rights Movement
Many Black men believe that all hell broke loose in America when the 1970s feminist movement came into being. These men feel that the dysfunction in the Black community – the collapse of every institution such as our churches, schools, families and communities – is due to the distortion of gender roles brought about by feminists. Looking back fondly on the apron wearing homemaker of the 1970s, Black men long for the caretaking and attention they didn’t get as children. If a woman prefers a career to staying at home with children all day, shouldn’t she have that right with no problems from her husband? Does marriage still mean property ownership of the female?
for the ladies
Single Black Men Insist on Open Marriages?
An advice seeker asked me to explain the reasons why so many young Black men are insisting that their prospective bride agree to an open marriage – or there will be no wedding.
When He Won’t Take ‘No!’ for an Answer
No! is a complete sentence and easy enough that anyone should understand its meaning. Yet when told “No!” by a female, most men’s response is not “okay then” but instead “well, why not?” or “how come you said no?” or “you don’t mean it!” or “but you’ll like it if you try it.” Such responses put females on the defensive and are nothing but denials of a woman’s right to say “NO!” and be taken seriously.
WTF Are You Having That Nothing Ass Man’s Baby For?
Being a mother comes with huge financial responsibilities as well as mental/emotional obligations. Providing food, clothing and shelter is just the tip of the iceberg. Children brought up in broken family units or one that has only one parent in it right from the start, tend to have more social and behavioral problems as compared to those who were raised by both parents. Statistics show that individuals, who are single parents are more likely to live in poverty, especially “baby mommas”, as they tend to be younger and less educated.
for the fellas
Exposing Black Male Privilege
I’ve repeatedly heard Black men express the belief that they are victims of a matriarchial society, that they are denied rights and privileges and the opportunity to “be a man” by “strong Black women.” I’ve heard grown men whine that women need to be responsible for men’s attire (sagging pants), teen pregnancy amonst 11, 12, 13 year old girls (who are actually victimis of child molesters, not willing adults making a choice for sex), and assign to women the responsibility for changing the Black community. With women being blamed for all that, what the hell is it that Black men are going to get off their asses and do?
How Nice Guys Can Develop The Player Edge That Women Love
Despite what the media says, women don’t necessarily look for men with nice, sensitive personalities. Women look for romantic intoxication. In plain language women go for men who can turn them on!
Why “Nice” Guys Suck and Women Don’t Want You!
Being a “nice guy” does not win you any brownie points in the dating game! Never has, never will. You win at dating when you give the opposite sex what they want.
dating advice from MsHeartBeat
His Ex Emailed to Say She is Pregnant with My Man’s Baby!
We’ve been together 7 months, but recently a woman he dated for only 2 weeks sent an email to say she is pregnant with his child. Help! Do I stay or go?
How Will I Know if a Guy is in Love With Me?
How will I know if a guy is in love with me? What kind of signs will he show?
Fussing and Fighting is Not Love
When a new dating relationship has drama all the time, should the couple stay together and try to ‘work it out’ or leave it alone?
broadcast events
9-14-2010 Dependency Issues in Relationships
How do you avoid slipping into codependency with a partner wrestling with chemical or alcohol dependency or some other addiction?
8-31-2010 Ladies, Can You Pass “The ‘Ho Test?”
We will discuss how women ‘ho and the differences between being an incidental ho and a professional who has made ho’ing a lifestyle choice. We’ll also discuss how men test to see if you ARE a ‘ho or not!
Feminism, Black Men & Black Relationships – 8/22/10
“You’re a feminist!” is a phrase uttered with the utmost disdain by Black men, and being called a feminist is right up there with being called a bitch. What is it that feminism means to Black men and women, and why are so many African Americans against feminism?
other recent articles
Texting Got Him Put on Nignore
He asked her to come by his house for a date by text and has the nerve to be surprised that he got put on NIGNORE?
Drama Dating an Ex-Convict
She feels she has finally met the smart, affectionate man of her dreams, however his very dark past is creating problems in their relationship.
Actions Speak Louder Than Words?
Which should a woman give more weight to… a man’s actions and behavior, or what he says?
My Girlfriend Thinks I am a Snoop
He got dumped after snooping through his girlfriend’s cell phone. Can he get her back?
Why Men Worry About Your Past
When will women learn that men can’t handle hearing about past lovers?
Single Moms Dating Pedophiles 8/14/2010
Does love make women blind to possible dangers of assault on their children, or are these women knowingly sacrificing their children’s physical safety and mental health for a man in their bed?
Men Are Not Qualified to Lead Women or Relationships
Men feel that they should lead women because that is “how it is supposed to be.” But if we remove religion from the equation, what is it that makes men feel they must be the leader? Not intelligence, drive, ambition or skills! And if it is true, as some men say, that men are destructive when left to their own devices and need women to lead them in other directions, then who is the real leader here?
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