So you meet a Black man that has good credit, an education, owns a home, and has a viable and legal source of income. He hasn’t been in prison and he is looking for a wife. Perfect, right? Well… he considers himself to be “on point” and therefore, superior to other men. Part of his belief [...]
An “on point” man has his shit together and doesn’t care about your investment portfolio, your education or your resume – he wants only to know if you are willing to pick up a bat and play on his team. Can a professional, educated Black female ever trust a man to lead?
Women with low self-esteem make poor choices in men out of fearful desperation. Women must stop allowing men to impact or control in any way their self image, and thereby damage or control their SELF esteem.
Ladies, watch out for men that present themselves as saviors and advisors for Black women. They blame the black woman for the demise of the black community, sexual promiscuity, single parent homes, fatherless children and for everything negative they can think of when it comes to the breakdown in relations between black women and men without assigning any accountability to the black man.
Women write the “Dear Ms. HeartBeat” advice column frequently, seeking help understanding why their latest “relationship” went sour. Most times after digesting the facts, it’s clear as the nose on your face that there WAS no relationship at all. Therefore, the writer’s expectations of fidelity, commitment or involvement were totally misplaced. In other words, don’t get [...]
Can exes be friends? Sure they CAN, but what would be the point? Someone is just going to try to cock-block or get back in where you don’t want them to be, flip out with jealousy, or be all up in your business. When its over, let it be over and move on.
My advice to women is if you are with men who come from the intellectual ivory tower, mentality you may find someone who lacks feelings/emotions and ability to make emotional connections. They are emotionally walled off (to varying degrees some more than others). Depending on the severity of their emotional disconnect, they can break your heart as they never put the emotion into the relationship that you do. Women often feel drained dry.
Though somewhat surprised by the intensity of the debate on my article on The Black Church, I am not at all shocked at the shake up the article has caused. Always a maverick and unafraid of either contentious criticism or debate, who but Deb Cooper would have the gumption to question the motives of an institution held so dear by millions of Black people across the nation? After all, if one is an avid church-goer, how likely are you to question your church on your own?
Following on the heels of recent interviews with CNN, The Tom Joyner Morning Show, Michael Eric Dyson, Inner Light Radio, and a dozen other media outlets, Cooper asks again: Is the church truly meeting the needs of Black women or is it a drain on female energy and resources? Why are so many church going Black women on their knees for years and years, praying and waiting for a husband that never comes?
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