Veteran social researcher, relationship advice columnist, author and radio host. Author of hundreds of articles on American and black culture, gender issues, singles, dating and relationships. Author of "Sucka Free Love!" , "The 24 Types of Suckas to Avoid," "The Black Church - Where Women Pray and Men Pray," and "Why Vegan is the New Black" all available on Amazon.Com. Her unique voice and insightful commentary have delighted fans and riled haters for 20 years. Read her stuff on SurvivingDating.Com and AskHeartBeat.Com.

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Ghosting – The Slick Way to End a Dating Relationship

. 03/20/2017 . 0 Comments

Ghosting is the favorite technique of the single to end things when they don’t want to deal with a bunch of drama and emotions. Ghosting explained in both definition and practice.

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MANSPLAINING – Mansplaining Defined

. 03/15/2017 . 0 Comments

What is mansplaining? When men attempt to redefine women’s use of language and nullify women’s experiences with their own vision, you’ve seen mansplaining in action.

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The Mother-Son Relationship: Men With a Mother Complex

. 02/09/2017 . 0 Comments

Dr. Peter Milhado explores the mother-son relationship in which the mother has been wounded, and forms an unhealthy attachment to her son.

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True Forced Independence – Black Men FORCED Us to Not Need a Man

. 02/06/2017 . 0 Comments

Black men have created a situation where they removed themselves from the equation of black families and black communities and made themselves obsolete. So now that black women have learned they “don’t need a man” to survive, black men are angry. Huh? You are responsible for true forced independence.

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Do Black Men Want a Momma Figure They Can Screw?

. 02/05/2017 . 0 Comments

Infantilized black men are rampant in the black community these days – men who seek to avoid the responsibilities and obligations of adulthood by depending on single black women women to take care of, spoil and nurture them as a replacement momma.

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Educated Lames, Classic Men, True Forced Loneliness, and Whining Ass Black Men

. 02/02/2017 . 0 Comments

Educated lames are men with degrees who have no skills with women at all, and are therefore single, angry, horny and lonely. They blame women for their “true forced loneliness” an affliction they claim that women give them by ignoring their needs. I say they are all full of crap and here is why.

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Feminine Energy is Nothing But Bullshit

. 02/01/2017 . 5 Comments

Do women have to pretend to be or actually be weak, passive and vulnerable (feminine) so that men can feel strong, action-oriented and invincible (masculine)? It certainly appears that way.

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Black Women – Stop Nurturing Grown Ass Men

. 01/29/2017 . 13 Comments

Black women think it is their job to provide nurturing to grown men in relationships; however I believe such behavior is contributing to the growing number of immature adult babies masquerading as men that fill the Black community and prisons.

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Husband Calls Wife Slut and Whore for Creative Sex Life

. 01/14/2017 . 0 Comments

Wife creates exciting sex life with fantasy stories, but judgmental husband condemns her with vile names like slut and whore.

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Red Flags of Dating for Single Black Women

. 01/12/2017 . 0 Comments

Are jealousy, insecurity and verbal put-downs considered red flags in a new dating relationship?

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Child Sexual Abuse in the Black Community – Survey Results

. 01/11/2017 . 0 Comments

No one wants to talk about it, but child sexual abuse is the biggest “dirty little secret” in the black community, and has been for generations. This landmark study, with more than 8000 responses, gets to the heart of the matter of sexual abuse amongst African Americans.

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Passion Has Left Our Marriage – Is She Cheating on Me?

. 12/06/2016 . 0 Comments

What should a young husband do when the passion seems to have left his relationship, and he and his wife have sex once per month if that? However his chief concern isn’t the marriage falling apart but: “is she cheating on me?”

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