Black Men Blame Black Women For Unwed Pregnancies
Deborrah
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And your point is? So because White men do it too that makes it okay? What kind of crazy nonsensical thinking are you doing. It’s NOT okay I don’t care who does it. But since this site focuses on Black relationships, we focus on Black men and women.
why is this a race issue white men do this all the time
Women have been saying how irresponsible men are for decades possibly hundreds of years.. Isn’t it irresponsible to sleep with someone you know isn’t responsible without protecting yourself?
You miss the point. Some people don’t use birth control, sure. But many times it IS used and fails. Or the guy sneakily removes the condom. There have been cases where men removed a woman’s NuvaRing during the act as well. And men pressure women to have sex without using birth control because it FEELS better. Young women give in because they are used to the submission concept where a woman is supposed to do what her man wants. Bullshit and fuckery, that’s what that is!
Oh lord, I love you woman! I’ve got to say, a lot of men aren’t like that (my husband, for one), but geeeeeze, far too many are! It takes two to make a baby, and it takes two to raise and support it. If you’re grown enough to lie down, you’d damn well better be grown enough to stand up. Kudos on this one.
Newsflash! Unprotected sex has a high likeliness of making babies! Take this fact and behave accordingly.
Yup this is why all of my Male friends have come to the conclusion that we’re better off pleasing ourselves…..we can’t trust women to make adequate decisions with regard to choosing a stable man to have children with and settle down with so we’ve come to the only conclusion we can….we’re removing ourselves from the market because the advantages of Pleasurable enjoyable sex with a woman these days is no where near worth the disadvantages that occur if the condom breaks, her pill doesn’t work e.t.c. sex 4 me nowadays will have to be an emotionless act purely for the creation of children with the woman I think will be a good business partner……anything else that involves emotion of any sort is a liability waiting to happen.
Garvey: “.we’re removing ourselves from the market because the advantages of Pleasurable enjoyable sex with a woman these days is no where near worth the disadvantages that occur if the condom breaks, her pill doesn’t work e.t.c”
I think that’s a splendid idea one that I wish more men would do. I also think if men want to have pleasurable enjoyable sex and not risk making a baby, they ought to take responsibility of getting rid of their sperm by having a vasectomy. That way they know beyond a reasonable doubt, that they are not able to ‘make a baby with any woman regardless of what birth control method she is using.
Garvey: “sex 4 me nowadays will have to be an emotionless act purely for the creation of children with the woman I think will be a good business partner……anything else that involves emotion of any sort is a liability waiting to happen”
You can always adopt a baby, plenty of babies in the system need adopting, although I wouldn’t think you’d make a decent father with all that talk about being emotionless and I certainly wouldn’t recommend you adopt a daughter with your obvious contempt of women, and perhaps a son either because you’d end up just passing along your fonky attitude to an innocent son and he’d become no more worthy of making a woman a decent mate than you are. But if you want a baby without emotion, try for surrogacy. Barring that, my recommendation is for you to get a pet dog and call it a day.
I’m thinking a dog is above him. Dogs require an emotional connection to their owners, and this guy isn’t going to offer any. He would do better with a pet snake or goldfish – something that has no ability to connect emotionally and merely tolerates his presence, much as he would be tolerating that of a female in his life.
Deborrah: “I’m thinking a dog is above him. Dogs require an emotional connection to their owners, and this guy isn’t going to offer any. He would do better with a pet snake or goldfish– something that has no ability to connect emotionally and merely tolerates his presence, much as he would be tolerating that of a female in his life.”
Exactly! Males who put out little in the emotional stakes don’t think about accepting their own trifling behavior. So yeah, he’d be better off with a cold reptile that duplicates his lack of emotions.
Real talk. From both you ladies.
wow.
I absolutely agree. Men try their best to sweet talk a woman into dropping their panties. If she get’s knocked up it’s her fault and the man just hops on to the next conquest.
I guess sperm is just floating around in the air and the woman inhales and BAM she’s pregnant.
kimberly: “I guess sperm is just floating around in the air and the woman inhales and BAM she’s pregnant.”
Hahaha, yup men will do anything but own up to the fact that sperm comes from them and doesn’t magically appear inside of a fertile womb unless a man ‘makes the choice’ to put it there.