Why oh why do black men get all sensitive when a black woman criticizes their behavior?
First they attempt to reject her statements of fact as untrue by saying “well that’s only the men YOU know.” By the time dozens of women chime in about men they’ve dated, worked with, met in networking events, been accosted by on the street, are related to, used to be married to, met online, interacted with on social media who behave in the manner described, they shut the hell up.
The next tactic is to demand that any post critical of black men use the word “SOME” to spare their wittle feelings. That shit is SO not gonna happen in this lifetime or the next. Ain’t nobody got time that!
I’ve always wondered why black men cannot seem to separate themselves from black men they KNOW are not like them — not on their socioeconomic level, not married like they are, not a responsible father and husband instead of baby daddy, not educated, arrest free, etc. Many seem unable to eliminate a group think perspective on black men from their psyche.
I’ve also wondered why they never get upset about generalized statements made by black women when it comes to things like:
- Black men are good dancers.
- Black men have big dicks.
- Black men have nice cars.
- Black men love women with a big booty.
- Black men are hard working.
- Black men love white women.
- Black men are great businessmen.
- Black men are good at sports.
- Black men are great in bed.
Why do they not want to point out “No! That’s not all of us! Not all of us have big dicks!” or “No! That’s not all of us! Not all black men are great in bed!” or “No! That’s not all of us! Not all black men are good at sports!”
Nope, they get quiet as a church house mouse on that type of thing. Although they know the statements above are certainly not true for all of them, or even most of them.
But let a black woman say anything like:
- Black men are criminals.
- Black men are violent hypermasculine thugs.
- Black men abandon their children.
- Black men ain’t shit cause all they do is lie, game and cheat on women.
- Black men drop out of school at alarming rates.
- Black men are physically and emotionally abusive to women.
- Black men luh dem hoes.
- Black men refuse to use condoms when they have sex and are responsible for spreading STDs and HIV to women.
Then suddenly it’s all bad and you want to raise hell about it. Then you want to say that the black woman saying these things obviously hates ALL BLACK MEN, and that she shouldn’t say ALL black men.
I think black men are oversensitive and be way deep in their feelings too damn much. All this emotionalism is definitely feminine in nature. These modern black males are unable to separate the truth of the critical statements (backed up with news reports and statistics), that apply to a large segment of the black male population, and instead sit around crying about it instead of passing it on by since it doesn’t apply to them.
Grouping yourself in with folks you KNOW are not like you is ridiculous. Get over yourself!
And understand that no one is going to waste their time writing SOME for you in everything they post on the web to assuage your ego.
If something you read doesn’t apply to your dusty ass, then it doesn’t apply. Let it go.
Just like if the discussion were about good looking black millionaires, since that doesn’t apply to you either.
Category: Men's Issues