Black Womanhood in America

| 10/23/2011 | Comments (2)

One of the hardest jobs in the world is to be a black woman. We do not get paid our worth and are generally treated like shit. Some might disagree with this premise but I bet my last pair of draws that whoever disagrees with me is not a black woman. It seems like no matter how much we achieve, it is never good enough.


Even with a black First Lady in the White House, in the past couple of years, black women have been relentlessly attacked for their looks (average looking Asian man writes an article on the undesirability of black women and gets famous), their educational aspirations (how dare you black bitch have the nerve to get educated!), mothering skills or lack there of (black women either have more children out of wedlock and or more abortions than any other racial group according to whatever new group with an agenda comes out) and we cannot get a break.

From the moment we were brought to this country as broodmares, we have been used up and tossed aside like trash by not only the majority but our own people. Some of our men have taken to the Internet to discuss how trifling and unattractive black women are without realizing that every time they open their mouths; they are talking about their mommas. Some of our women, trying to curry favor with black men, will diss a black woman from the top of her head to the tips of her toes, even her own black daughter to look good in their eyes, not understanding that they are black women too.

From the moment a little black baby girl is born, her psyche will be inundated with negative stereotypes about black women. She will grow up hearing about the exploits of Sapphire, Mammy, and Jezebel who are the older sisters of Skeezer, Bust-Down, Hood-Rat, Gold-Digger, Baby Momma, Welfare Queen, and Crack Whore.  She will learn that the life of a little black girl means nothing and that is she goes missing or dies, the media will not pay attention and her body might not be found for months, if ever.  She will be told that she is an ugly, fat, nappy headed bitch and to go sit down in a corner somewhere until someone decides to fuck her. Due to this “you ain’t shit” brainwashing, some of our little girls grow up believing that the only thing they have of value in this world is their sexuality.

Unfortunately, this is the life of a black woman in America but do not count us out yet. We have survived the hell of having our children sold off on the action block, watching our men get hanged in trees, and getting beaten within a inch of our lives while fighting for basic civil rights and still we rise.  Every person on this planet owes his or her existence to a black woman: Mitochondrial Eve.

So when society feels the need to degrade and devalue the existence of black women and you are a black woman, tell society to kiss your entire ass.

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Kathy Henry

Creator & Freelance Writer for The Black Feminista (www.theblackfeminista.com). Frequently contributes blog posts and writings to SurvivingDating.Com.

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  1. LotusBud says:

    One thing that black women can learn to do is not to recycle and restate the damaging messages. This infects everyone receiving them and it doesn’t work to promote healing and moving forward. Let’s just move on to the place where want to be. The past is the past and everyone will not always like us but we are losing our time here on this earth by resurrecting hurtful, damaging messages that demotivate us from the true, valuable work that we need to do as a group.

    1) How many of us are building our communities in some way?

    2) How many of us are rearing children in complete, happy, and healthy homes?

    3) How many of us have children who are excelling in school?

    4) How many of us are trendsetters for better health?

    5) How many of us live in a moral way?

    6) How many of us dress with self respect and decency?

    7) How many of us work hard to help others versus hurt them?

    8) How many of us are making this generation better than the last?

    9) How many of us are grooming our children for a higher life?

    I mean ladies, when all of us are doing these things, we won’t have time to worry about the trivial things that most of us get preoccupied with. Keep your focus on what’s important. I think the reason why we get so caught up into the insignificant matters is because most of us are living without a purpose. That list above are the only things that make our our lives valuable. Nothing else.

  2. LotusBud says:

    Who ever wrote this article is a loser. This woman has a victim mentality and doesn’t know how to navigate life well. No one’s giving you respect. When you look and live as a respectable person then people treat you that way. Writing this kind of self-sabotaging, crybaby articles isn’t going to change matters. Instead of complaining about how some people view you and treat you, learn to take the higher road by being so exceptional as a person that people want to be like you. Then, it won’t be about being black…it’ll be about how you can empower others despite your obstacles (which would be much fewer if bw took a different more constructive approach to every area of their lives). I’m black too but I know that everyone has struggles, it’s not just me and because I’m black.

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