Comments on: Can Dating Standards Be “Too” High?

By: Deborrah

Deborrah — Wed, 25 Apr 2012 02:19:09 +0000

Those are the standards for some women, just as looks and a body are the sole standards for some men. Usually the very young and immature. But most, by the time they hit 35/40, look for something more, something deeper and richer. Those men in their 40s still trying to date 20 something women will experience rejection based on their bellies and bald spots. Oh well, date women your age whydon’tcha. Women also have standards of attractiveness, just like men. If you don’t turn a woman on, no matter how in shape or attractive you think you are, it won’t work. She might like dark haired men with dark eyes while you are blond/blue. Won’t work. She might like tall men while you are 5’5″. Won’t work. She might like muscular men that work out while you have the skeletonized body of a computer geek. Won’t work. You might have a big belly and a beard while she prefers trim men with no facial hair. Won’t work. You might speak with an accent while she prefers a straight American. Won’t work. She might want a man that has no children while you’ve been divorced twice and have a baby momma. Won’t work. There are a lot of reasons that women reject men and vice versa. Don’t worry about it – just move on to find someone else that likes you just the way you are.

By: indyjones16

indyjones16 — Mon, 23 Apr 2012 15:51:53 +0000

Good grief, this article is insane! As a Christian man every single item on this list is a no-brainer for me! No sex before marriage = that makes condoms, children, and moving in together out of the question.

By: JoeSpennato

JoeSpennato — Sun, 22 Apr 2012 09:24:50 +0000

The only standards that matter for women are money and looks. Protestations to the contrary are a ruse designed to deflect beta men. Furthermore, women will constantly revalue their standards upwards whenever they meet a potential man. Basically again this means American men cannot date American women unless they are rich, hot or convicted felons (that is the bad boy factor). If you disagree, you can kiss my ass.

By: Bea

Bea — Sat, 03 Sep 2011 17:26:39 +0000

I agree with Raz that what you’ve described is common sense for women.

I’ve always been told that my standards are too high when I ask for a man who is intelligent, honest and hardworking. People are always telling me to drop my standards, and its becoming disheartening.

If I described all my own personal qualities and achievements, they would far outshine my basic standards for a man, yet why do people always insist we aim lower, because “Mr Perfect does not exist”?

By: Erin

Erin — Tue, 30 Aug 2011 02:05:10 +0000

Great article!! Though to me these points don’t sound like high standards but simply good self esteem! I have let people walk all over me and do nearly all these things because I didn’t think I deserved much… now I’m a little older and a little wiser, I don’t tolerate any crap. I would far rather be single for a lifetime than go through any of that again…

And I disagree that women with low standards are making it harder for women with good stadards. Sure men will always use weaker women but a lot of men go crazy for women with good self esteem and who respect themselves. You attract bigger fish with better bait

By: Kelly

Kelly — Wed, 16 Jun 2010 16:57:05 +0000

I think that these standards are necessary, because I am in my early 20′s and I am dating and I find that if you don’t have high standards than the men you meet don’t even come close. I have those standards because in my eyes I am worthy of meeting someone like that. It might take me a while to find them, but I will and I really think that the more patience you have the sooner it will happen. Patience is the key to finding someone you might spend the rest of your life with. Being single, I think it is work to find someone like that but I feel it is a must.

By: Raz

Raz — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 02:01:29 +0000

Great article. It is sad that what is considered to be ‘high standards’ with women really should be ‘normal standards and common sense for women’. But as the article stated, the dating world is turned up on it’s head these days. This article is on point. Water seeks it’s own level and the level of least resistance. Women with low standards makes it harder for women who do have standards. Guys don’t have to rise up to meet them when they can just go around the corner to sallysue who is ready to meet the guy on his level…..sigh. Guys have very little incentive to be better men and better mates/partners to women these days because there are far too many accommodating women out there meeting them on ‘their low level’.

By: Rose M.

Rose M. — Tue, 01 Sep 2009 18:17:55 +0000

This post is the absolute truth and the conclusion is laugh out loud funny.