Is Polygyny a Viable Option for Single Black Women Seeking Marriage?

Yeah your probably right. I still think that it would be better than a lot of other places to meet a like-minded spouse. I attended H.U. for undergrad and I was pretty focused and didn't have any girlfriends, and of course I graduated in 4 years with a decent g.p.a. I know myself, and if I were to attend dental school I would be the same way. Black folk are hopeless on this subject of forming serious life-long relationships that lead to strong functional family units and thus vibrant communities. So, really, why even waste time thinking about this stuff. I agree with you that the women are all chasing after about 10% of the black men and funny thing is, those top 10% (athletes and entertainer types included) usually make for the worst husbands and fathers. Look at Chad Ochocinco with his 5 baby mommas. There was actually a show on which women competed to be with him. I for the most part consider myself blessed not to have tangled my life up with some woman!! I sincerely doubt that most women out there are worth the effort it would take to get to know them.

It's not that women quit, its that men usually do the cheating and messing up, and the women get sick of it and leave their butts. Men don't like to be the bad guy so they behave in nasty ways and back women into a corner so that she either accepts his cheating or she divorces him. So then he can say to his friends and family "she divorced me!" instead of focusing on the fact that he set things up so that she has no choice.

As for the polygyny, I agree with you. I don't see the point. I also agree that even this ghetto bastardized style of polygnous relationships many women are involved in does no one any good. There is no wealth building going on in these unions. The women are not better off with that husband than they would be pooling their resources and working together without him. I don't get it. I think I will listen to the podcast again, not working on the show... just hearing what people say. Then maybe I will have a different view. But right now I see it as nothing but a waste of time and energy.

On that point of the lack of wealth building going on in polygny, it made me think about something. I've applied to 2 predominantly Black dental schools (Howard and Meharry) and I'm single. So, I was thinking to myself, "What an ideal place to find my wife". It seems as if I would be assured of finding a woman of similar intelligence or at least academic ability as determined by the dental school. Most dental school students are still single, particularly black female ones. She wouldn't be a felon, as both Howard and Meharry require that you pay for a criminal background check on yourself and that it be submitted. And, she will in the future be making a good income that if pooled together with mine would enable some wealth building. I would think that if I were admitted to dental school this year (it frequently takes people 2 or 3 tries), that it would be a good place to find a wife for the aforementioned reasons. What do you think?

I agree with you about women not checking for brothers just because they're in dental school. Black women tend to be too dumb to check for brothers who are trying to make something positive out of themselves. But of course they'll be complaining 10 years down the road about there not being any good black men to marry. I think people get what they deserve in life and black women usually don't get a good husband and father for their children because they don't deserve either. Then they wonder why high-achieving black men date and marry any body but them. I attended H.U. for undergrad and have to tell you that your preaching to the choir about the need to be focused on school. I credit not being involved with women to a large extent on my graduating in 4 years with a decent g.p.a. I may be writing this stuff about dental school or some kind of higher education setting being a good place to find a like-minded compatible significant other, but knowing myself, I would probably go through all four years of dental school w/out a girlfriend just like I did undergraduate school. I'm coming to the conclusion that Black people are just hopeless when it comes to having good marriages and functional families, so it's better not to even waste time pursuing or thinking about either of these things. It's better just to focus on yourself. I mean with a divorce rate of 70% for blacks who marry blacks, it's not like black men are missing out on a good thing by not marrying black women. If anything they're missing out on a lot of drama and child-support payments by a woman who will probably use her children as pawns. Thanks for your comment Real1, I needed that dose of reality. Some times I get on this silly "I should marry a black woman and create a strong black family" kick.