It’s Really None of Your Fucking Business!

| 11/03/2012 | Comments (0)

When I was growing up, my Aunt Alma and my Daddy both warned me about telling men all my business. My father was ADAMANT that more women need to learn to shut the fuck up.

He used to laugh at the stuff women would tell men just because the men asked – things like how many men they slept with, the size of a prior lover’s penis, freaky sexual things they did with other men like threesomes or wife swapping, the amount of their bonus, how much money their friend makes or the life insurance her Dad has for $1 million.

Blabbing Can Cause Problems for Friends and Family

Women would also give men vital financial information and even personal information about their friends and family members. Pops told me that there are a lot of cats out in the world that get information on women’s friends and family to set them up to be fleeced and gamed on.

Sometimes they would be getting the information so they would know how to get at the friend because they liked her better. Their goal was to get the inside scoop so they would have the fast track to the woman they REALLY wanted to be with. In other words, these guys wanted to break up with the current girlfriend and get with her friend. Blabbing women would help them do it.

Most often though he’d be learning your friend’s net worth and vulnerabilities so he could set up a friend of his with your girlfriend and together they would take her for everything she has.

However, most of the information women give to men they give voluntarily and without prompting. I used to have a friend that I later discovered would tell her husband almost everything we talked about.  Yup, even about the men I dated and slept with – things I told her in confidence. Then her husband started giving me “the eye” because she had shared information about me and my sex life that he had no reason to know and should never have known. Had I followed through on his flirtations and got busy with him, she would have been upset and angry at ME, when in reality it would have been her fault. She planted that bug in his head by opening her big fat mouth.  SHE was the reason her husband was intrigued with me and started wanting to get in on some of the juicy action he was hearing about. She was too stupid to understand that talking to her man about another woman’s sex life is about the dumbest thing a wife or girlfriend can do.

Stop Being so Trusting

Most women are very naive and too trusting of men. Just because you are sleeping with someone doesn’t mean he needs to know your business, your momma’s business, your sister’s business, or the business of any of your friends. Your family and friends all trusted you to keep their confidences, and here you are volunteering details about their lives to some man just because you and some dude are sleeping together?

Wow.

What to Tell Men That Nose in Your Business

My Daddy told me that instead of giving idiot men information and answers to questions just cause they asked, women should have been telling their dudes:

  • None of your fucking business!
  • Stop asking me questions about shit that doesn’t concern you.
  • What the fuck you need to know that for nigga?
  • What I look like, stupid?
  • Stay out of my business muthafucka! Just because we fucking doesn’t give you the right to be all up in my Kool-Aid.
  • How you gonna fix your lips to ask me some stupid ass question like that?
  • What the fuck is wrong with you… asking me information about some other bitch?
  • I know you did not just ask me about my girl/momma/sister/cousin like you trying to get at em!
  • You’re a fucking idiot.
  • Blank stare.
  • Etc.

My Dad’s final words: “Shut up!!! Stop talking to men and telling every single thought in your head. Women just talk too damn much. Period. To each other and especially to men. Guys are predators… its our nature to conquer and win. Understand that men are constantly running game and should not be trusted with info they can use against you later. You can love him if you want to, just don’t be telling him your business.”

Do you agree? Have you ever regretted telling a man information because it ruined your relationship or injured someone else?

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Deborrah

Veteran social researcher, relationship advice columnist, author and radio host. Author of hundreds of articles on American and black culture, gender issues, singles, dating and relationships. Author of "Sucka Free Love!" , "The 24 Types of Suckas to Avoid," "The Black Church - Where Women Pray and Men Pray," and "Why Vegan is the New Black" all available on Amazon.Com. Her unique voice and insightful commentary have delighted fans and riled haters for 20 years. Read her stuff on SurvivingDating.Com and AskHeartBeat.Com.

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