I honestly don’t understand why a man OR a woman feels like they need to “lead” the relationship. I guess I don’t want a husband after all – I want a partner. I want someone that supports me and that I in turn support. I want someone that has their own strengths and qualities that they bring to the relationship that complement what I bring to the relationship. I reject the patriarchal notion that men have to be in control of families and male-female relationships, but I also don’t see how swinging the complete opposite way benefits anybody either.

I’m a man and I gotta disagree, brother. I want a woman to keep it real, not placate me. That’s sad if that’s really what some brothers want.

To all,

I keep seeing the words “educated”, “education” floating around. What constitutes being educated? Surely not just going to college?! You could go to college and not learn to apply any of it to the real world. You’ll come out and lack any consciousness. You’ll be well trained like a circus animal.

There is something called a TYPO which is when a person makes a grammatical mistake (punctuation, spelling, etc) and doesnt realize it. Its not always a sign of lack of education or intelligence, especially if the rest of the writing doesnt demonstrate those inadequacies. They are quite common when texting, IM’ing or posting online, as folks tend to not be sticklers for grammar, and communicate in an informal and relaxed fashion. Your trying to discredit my entire post by focusing on one misspelled word shows me a few things, which are rather self explanatory, and need no explanation.

I may be many things, have many faults and lack many skills, but my intelligence, ability to reason and communication skillsets are in tact, sweety. It is very typical of you to try to trump my ‘femaleness’ with accusations of intellectual or educational inferiority. How cliche.

I. AM. NOT. THE. ONE.

Lets keep this thing sophisticated. Must we try to discredit each other based on diversionary tactics which are pedestrian, at best? Can we keep the topic relevant by discussing the TRUE issues, or must we spend time addressing silly commentary.

Sheesh. when will you guys grow up?