YAWN! Oh please ya big whiny he-motional he bitch baby, grow up. You just mad because a fool like you could never pull a woman who has it all together in her life and you don’t measure up. This post shows that you can’t handle rejection.. You just threw a whiny tantrum in your response lolol. A rejected no pussy having idiot who is at the bottom of the heap with the rest of the rejects.. Nobody wants to be touched by you and that’s why your dumb butt is so mad. LOL, I actually had to laugh at your rant.. A whiny baby mad because nobody wants him.. Dry your tears now…You want a lolipop?

You are trash and clearly hate men. Who are the men who “cant keep up?”. Also any person who defines himself by money is truly not worth knowing. The hatred in your post coms thru so clearly. You have a superiority complex and seem to get off on this lie about women somehow being inferiror to women. Of course all of this is based on ‘education’ as if academia or someones level of social conditioning represents ‘education’. Your comments are so typical of angry man hating black women. You just spew hate. I am HAPPY for the man you rejected. I am sorry that he bothered to try and chat with you. He saved himself much heartache. Perhaps he went and found a white woman who does not have these man hating notions of female superiority in her head. Obviously its you who do not love yourself Raz, perhaps you love your money or the degree that defines you. Clearly that is where you get your self worth from. And how pathetic that is. I wouldn’t touch you with 40 mile pole. Pure disease and a disease to all black men who struggle in a system that is truly stacked against them. You play your role very well in it. How is your white jewish husband doing? Or do you not have one?

Men’s groups can be instrumental in advancing men’s understanding of themselves and their emotional connection (or lack thereof) to women and children. Until men can understand that the value of life lies not in what you own and can brag about to other men, but in the relationships they have with others, men will continue to live in emotional wastelands.

This article highlights that the lack of support among men dealing with frustrations is a problem that I believe could lead to depression and high stress levels in general. Women don’t help in this either, since women for the most part expect men to never show sadness or frustrations, since women (as well as men) see these emotions as a sign of weakness.

Good article.

A clean cut rejection is better than the jagged edges that a lot of people take when they take the path of least resistance to ‘them’ and just flake out and not get back to that person. But ultimately regardless of how someone rejects you, the dumpee has to have the inner resolve to not let someone else’s rejection of them break their spirit. They have to pick themselves up and keep pressing forward. Hopefully they will meet someone who will love them in the way they need and want to be loved.

“Self-Love Is the Best Love Did we focus on the “outcome’ of what we wanted instead of the ‘process’ of getting acquainted? Each of us must love ourselves more than we love any other. And just because someone whose steps have crossed our path doesn’t share our love of ourselves does not mean that each of us isn’t worth loving”

This part excerpted is HUGE! Often people approach potential relationships with the thought of what they can ‘get’ rather than what they can give. This mindset provokes the sense of ‘entitlement that Deborrah mentions. It is coming from a selfish standpoint. We act as though just because we want something from someone we are entitled to get it. We don’t stop to think about what we have to offer this person and why should this person give us what we want just because we want it. Nor do we invest in ourselves enough to make us attractive to others to get what we want?

Guys are especially guilty of this. You’ll see a guy who on a scale of 10 they are 2 or 3 and they want to date the hottest women they see on reality tv shows but have they invested in their bodies to provide the hot bodies to the object of their attraction? They expect women to overlook their less than physical offerings but they want the ‘arm candy’.

Women often times play into this as well when they want men to ‘take care of them financially (but this is lessening to a degree as more and more women are out there making their own money and are often bringing home the bacon in greater numbers and it is the men who can’t keep up). Amongst Black men and women, black women are more educated and far more likely to make equal to more money than their male counterparts.

My recent experience where I rejected someone left me feeling a bit sorry for the person. However one thing that stood out with me is he kept saying, “I just want you to like me’. Which made me wonder, ‘Did he really like himself? Regardless of if someone else likes me or not, I have to like myself.
So self love and a healthy self esteem will help one take rejections as a part of life.