In June 2012, right after Creflo Dollar was arrested for abusing his 15 year old daughter, I penned an Open Letter to his wife Taffi. In the letter I denounced her “stand by your man” behavior which sacrificed the physical and emotional health of her daughters in favor of Creflo’s violence.
All over the web the incident was discussed. I was astonished that so many black women – many mothers themselves – were the primary supporters of violence against a female child. The alleged Christian women were vicious in their accusations and judgments, going so far as to accuse the girl for somehow being responsible for Creflo hitting, choking and knocking her to the floor.
Really, I should not have been surprised because black women usually support males in a situation where it is male vs. female – especially if said male is a pastor or minister.
In support of Creflo, black women quoted what they said the bible instructs parents to do in order to control unruly children. He was right to hit and choke her because he was just doing what any God-fearing good father would do…
“Spare the rod and spoil the child!” they said with glee.
Amazingly, not one of those read their bible enough to know that the quote “spare the rod and spoil the child!” is not at all from the bible but instead from a poem entitled “Hudibras,” by Samuel Butler (1613-1680).
In his poem, Butler coined the phrase “Spare the rod and spoil the child,” PROBABLY a modification of a Biblical injunction about child-rearing given in Book of Proverbs: “He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes” (Proverbs 13:24). In the context of Hudibras the phrase is a bawdy metaphor suggesting the best way to curtail amorous passions or, through double entendre, to prevent conception:
If matrimony and hanging go
By dest’ny, why not whipping too?
What med’cine else can cure the fits
Of lovers when they lose their wits?
Love is a boy by poets stil’d
Then spare the rod and spoil the child (Part II, Canto I, ll. 839-44).
So you see, the line “spare the rod and spoil the child” in context has nothing to do with spanking or punishing a child for misbehavior, but is instead talking about using a bit of pain as a form of birth control to cool lovers’ passion… thereby spoiling the likelihood of a child being born from a sex act.
It’s funny that those so vehemently defending Creflo’s attack of his young daughter would quote Butler in Creflo’s defense since he was two things Christians hate the most… gay and Atheist! (http://www.glbtq.com/literature/butler_s.html)
Don’t you think that’s interesting how few people claiming themselves to be devout Christians have ever investigated the statements they’ve been “told” are Biblical and verified them to be so? Just going on blind faith, believing every word of what their pastor tells them, black women in droves believe in lies and regurgitate them over and over again as facts.
Though in the dark ages of man’s ignorance, the word chastise meant to beat, we now live in the Information Age. In today’s world people of all races and socioeconomic levels know how to read, and can communicate their thoughts clearly in both spoken and written form. Chastising children now means that one uses their words and calls a child to the carpet, reprimands, lectures, reproofs, scolds, or chews out the kid. There is no reason to attack a child and beat on him or her in a manner reminiscent of a street brawl. We also have laws that punish parents and others from committing crimes of violence against children.
So if you believe that “spare the rod and spoil the child” is biblical, understand that you have been lied to. Understand that is not the only lie you’ve been told about what is in the bible. It is also not the only way your mind is being manipulated to believe what men say without question.
Read the book! THE BLACK CHURCH: WHERE WOMEN PRAY AND MEN PREY
Click here to read the Open Letter to Taffi Dollar