The Dreaded “What Are You Thinking?” Question…

. 05/26/2011 . 5 Comments

Dear Ms. HeartBeat:
I’m curious, when you are spending time with someone you are interested in and they ask the stinkin’ question “what are you thinking?”, what should you respond? Why do women ask men this question anyway?

I’ve noticed that this question seems to come from women who are not very secure with themselves. I usually respond with something like a “how busy tomorrow will be” even though you know deep down it’s a cry for the other person to say “how much I like you” or “how comfortable I feel around you” or “how wonderful you are.” Do you agree?

Signed,
Stinkin’ Thinkin’

Dear Stinkin Thinkin:
You are right on target dude. Because in my opinion, only stupid women ask that kind of question. “What are you thinking?” Get a clue woman! Guys don’t think anything! LOLOLOL!!

Seriously though, your answer is a good one. Deflect. Deny. Sidetrack. Derail.

Because if you give her any answer that even ALLUDES to you liking her, that you are thinking about a future with her, that you are thinking about more or even a date tomorrow – she will glob onto that crap like you have proposed or something and you will have drama galore on your hands.

The only woman you should ever answer that type of question for is your WIFE. Any woman you just met or are dating should be given some innocuous b.s. answer like “I was wondering if Barry Bonds paying for college for that guy that got the beat down will motivate other Giant’s team members to chip in and help that family out” or “why do you think so many people believed that the world was going on end on May 21st 2011?”And if you really want to derail her, mumble something like “do you think your mother wears thong underwear, boy shorts or old lady panties?”

You know, something like that which is totally unrelated to her or your relationship. I bet you she will never again ask you “babe, what are you thinking?” She’ll be too afraid of your answer!

 

Deborrah

Veteran social researcher, relationship advice columnist, author and radio host. Author of hundreds of articles on American and black culture, gender issues, singles, dating and relationships. Author of "Sucka Free Love!" , "The 24 Types of Suckas to Avoid," "The Black Church - Where Women Pray and Men Pray," and "Why Vegan is the New Black" all available on Amazon.Com. Her unique voice and insightful commentary have delighted fans and riled haters for 20 years. Read her stuff on SurvivingDating.Com and AskHeartBeat.Com.

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