-----------------------------This article is going to upset a lot of women. They are going to be angry with me and tell me that I am ignorant and don’t know what I am talking about. They are going to refuse to accept responsibility for their role in the game, instead pointing the finger of blame while angrily declaring that MEN are the ‘ho’s, not women. This article is good for you ladies, kinda like cod liver oil (not too good going in, but if you take it, you’ll see the positive benefits!) It is going to set women straight about the many secretive, yet serious tests run by men to screen females they meet. It will tell you which women pass the tests and go on to become respected partners and wives in committed relationships with men that truly adore them, and which are lied to, cheated on, stood up and generally treated like… well, like ‘ho’s. I am not going to discuss HOW women ‘ho and the differences between being an incidental ho and a professional who has made ho’ing a lifestyle choice. I’m just going to stick to a very narrow subject matter - how men test to see if you ARE a ho or not. Why Are Women Tested? Though its true that women choose the men in their life, a man that has been around the block is not desperate, and he is not going to allow you to catch him if he doesn’t want to be caught! He may date you FOR YEARS but won’t agree to advance the relationship. Men have more power before a relationship is firmly established while the women in his life try to get him to meet their emotional needs and commitment expectations. Women tend to have more power within a relationship once the man has fallen in love and becomes attached to her. And the reality is that ALL MEN WILL TEST A WOMAN – nerds, players and even “the marrying kind,” however each of their tests has a different focus or intent: Players test women to see how desperate they are and what a woman will take just to have him around. Every woman in his world serves a strict purpose and he always has room for some other sucka to give to him. He tests to see how weak you are, what your expectations might be about the men in your life, what he can get away with and how easily you might be manipulated and used. A guy that has been hurt badly before, been cheated on or used by women, or that has been told stories about or seen his friends and relatives being lied to, cheated on or used is very apprehensive about loving. He doesn’t want those horrible things he’s heard bout to happen to him! And he is extremely defensive and leery of commitment and being used. His tests will be focused on what is wrong with you and why he is justified in ruling you out as a suitable mate. Since he is wounded and not ready for a relationship, his tests run primarily to validate his belief that all women are trifling like the one or several that hurt him previously. A man that is seeking a mate will test with the intention of judging you as a down woman. He is also testing to screen you out, but it’s with the goal of finding a woman that he can settle down with because HE is ready for it. But first, he needs to know what your expectations are of the man in your life and if he can meet those expectations – mental, emotional, physical, financial, sexual. He wants to know intelligent you are and if you recognize game being thrown your way; how assertive you are about expressing yourself and establishing acceptable boundaries – not only for his behavior but for the men who have been in your life previously. He will test to see how honest you are; what kind of person you are; if he can trust you around his friends or other men; and how well you hold up to the pressure that is going to be exerted by other men about your figure or beauty. A “good man” will test you because he needs to be extraordinarily sure you are the woman he needs and wants in his life before committing himself and opening up his heart, home and wallet. He has to have trust in you and feel secure that you won’t betray, violate, trick or purposely hurt him. He wants someone that his mother and sisters and aunts will welcome into the family with open arms - not pull him aside and ask him what the hell he is doing! He needs to know you will be an asset that brings him contentment and satisfaction over a long period of time, not a worrisome liability that COSTS him in some big way. Passing The ‘Ho Test A man is not going to tell or warn you in advance that he is running the ho test - that defeats the whole purpose of the pop quiz! And there are no rules or guidelines for execution of the ho tests either. Some of the tests may seem harsh, unfair, and perhaps indicate the existence of a double standard with regards to sexual expression. Don’t waste time fighting and arguing about it ladies, instead learn the enemy… arm yourself with KNOWLEDGE! The bad thing about the women in the skits above is that they (a) didn’t know they were being tested; and (b) don’t KNOW they failed the tests and have been labeled certified low class, trifling, cheating, lying, or money grubbing ho’s. The men that ran ho tests now know that these females are either stupid or desperate, as they have no strength, determination, focus, morals or standards for performance for the men in her lives. He may begin to treat her in a manner that suggests she should be bagged up and set out at the curb for trash pick up. In the second half of this article I will outline some of the many tests men run and how you (if your goal is to be viewed as a woman worthy of respect, admiration and commitment by a mature man who has his stuff together), must respond to them.
Category: Women's Issues