MR. TG: I could never figure out why women love thugs so much, but I guess low self esteem does contribute...I also wonder why they wait until they have their babies before they vilify them....at that point it's a little late....life has begunHe's right, life has begun and these girls messed up. Big time. Their mess ups were 100% avoidable though, if they only had an older female player schooling them on how the game is properly played. Messing With Thugs - The Five Golden Rules There are two rules to getting your swerve on with what some people call 'thugs' (I call them street dudes because their culture is street-based not academic, not professional, and certainly not religious). The reality is that most young girls will at some time or another succumb to their sexual attraction, the blood pumping excitement, the allure of the hypermasculine street dude. Why? Because the street dudes know how to talk to women in a smooth, sexy way that is mentally engaging, fun and physically exciting. Men must remember that when women are young, most aren't looking to settle down and be a diaper changing, floor scrubbing, bill paying Mrs. Somebody Or Other. When young, females are looking for the man that makes their heart pound and their imagination soar - not stability and a mundane existence in the suburbs with their husband. The young women that come from more sheltered backgrounds are especially vulnerable to the players and street dudes because they have not been prepared mentally to deal with these types of guys. Their parents do them a disservice by sending them to school, music lessons and summer camp while never telling them the real deal about the other half of Black culture. With her limited (if any) experience with the opposite sex, she goes off to college excited to break free of the chains that have bound her behavior and choices for the past 18 years. A dame that knows the ropes isn't likely to get tied up! -Mae West She finds out, like thousands of other young Black women before her, that street dudes don't go to school to get an education, they are learning much more practical skills - how to get women and how to fuck. These fellas can throw down in bed and make a woman feel ecstasy and see Jeezus. They are usually cut up, lean and fine as hell at least in the body, if not body and face. That's real talk. But there are certain rules a girl must follow if she is going to satisfy her freak with a street dude. The rules are: #1 Always protect your body - from disease and from pregnancy. You do not have babies by broke ass, or drug dealing, or boosting, or jailbird street dudes. Let me repeat that in case you didn't get it - you do not get pregnant or have a baby by a street dude. If you should accidentally get pregnant, you immediately head to the nearest drug store for Plan B, or you hit up the nearest abortion clinic. You are not here to breed the genes of someone that you and the child have no future with. You don't want lifelong drama from what is supposed to be a good time. You fuck the dude, and then you leave him where you found him. #2 You do not commingle your street dude with your bougie friends, your employers, and certainly not with your family. If you are used to going to four star restaurants on your dates with Roderick Hewitt Smith-Rossiter III, you will now be going to Red Lobster, Fat Freddy's Fried Chicken and Fish, or Big Burgers with your street dude.. if you go anywhere in public at all. Really not recommended (better to lay in supplies at the crib and fix him a sandwich or burger right quick, but you might get hungry one night when you forgot to go shopping). #3 You do not try, hold, transport or even touch anything illegal like guns or drugs. Don't sit around having fantasies of yourself as Bonnie & Clyde or some such dumb shit. You are there for the dick - that's it and that's all. You are not his partner - in crime or in any other way. #4 Don't do romantic things with thugs, players or street dude. That means no lingering glances, no hand holding, no walking with your arms wrapped around each other, no romantic kisses sneaked in while waiting for your fried chicken order. You are not a couple, remember? Don't let your mind wander into relationship fantasy land. Stay focused. You are there for wild, off the chain dick, and then you will leave him where you found him. #5 You do not fall in love with or marry a thug street dude. You dilly dally and play with them for a minute or two then you move on. They will teach you things you need to know about life and how to handle yourself. You will actually learn a lot about yourself as a woman, what you like and don't like in bed, how to express yourself freely and without judgment. They encourage you to be who and what you wanna be in bed and will try anything. When you are done with him, you will be a much wiser, more sensuous, more in touch sexually woman. But remember, you fuck them and then you leave them where you found them. You Don't Confuse Sex with Love The problem is that young Black girls confuse a good time in bed with thugs and players... some serious get down slap yo momma lust, with love. Then you all wanna try to make a relationship out of sex! When young girls fall in love, they idolize the man they love and create expectations of happily ever after because that is of course how young girls are socialized. I'm here to tell you that there is a time and a place for those dreams, but in the arms and bed of a street dude is not the place nor the time. You must keep in the front of your mind that sex and love are not synonymous. If you cannot separate the two acts, then you must remain a virgin or damn near one until you get older and meet a man with some sense. If you know you will fall in love and "want more", that means you do not have the personal fortitude or the mentality to handle dealing with a street dude. They are full of tricks, games and manipulative half truths. If you don't have tricks, games and ability to mind fuck folks yourself, you will end up a road kill baby momma with a broken heart and possibly a case. Neither is a good look.
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