Some of you love to talk about how fucked up BM are (and quite a few of us fit that profile), but the same applies to a lot of BW as well. The key for both genders is to not put everybody into one category based on the actions of a few. I don’t like it when statements like this are made about BM or BW.

Now, Tyree seems to be an educated and good man, but it’s only words to me, and I don’t know him (remember I have learned to NOT trust words.)

Also in response to one post, white culture did not set the standards, Jesus taught the standard as it is written in the Bible. It was written to protect people of all colors from the chaos that you see today, the blaming, the aids, lying, and destroyed lives. Matthew, Chapter 7 in the Bible explains how you know people by their fruit. You can tell who a person really is by their ‘fruits.’ That is what they have done in the past-their track record, NOT what they tell you.

In my honest and non-biased opinion, is it predominantly black men who seem to value making self-destructive choices. Is this a tradition they are taught and carrying on? becasue I really don’t get it. I have tried to understand and think it’s sad. Life is very hard for everyone regardless of color and it is a constant battle to learn and grow.

Respect is earned and takes time, it doesn’t just come to you, and not earned by how many touchdowns you make or how many HOs you sleep with. (In my opinion this makes you a worse person, not better.) I would truly like to hear what they have to say.

They love to tell Black women that we don’t have the right to want anything in a man that we don’t have already, yet the same men will advertise their wealth (if they have any) to non-Black women in hopes that they will be willing to sleep with them for their money. *Holds up right hand to form an L*

I wonder if they think we should reject men who don’t have vaginas too? Lol. The cold hard truth about MOST Black men is that they only want equality with Black women when it concerns money. They don’t want equal RESPONSIBILITY for anything… EVER!

The common thread is that the girls have no father and the boys have no father….and how is that possible? Because the black man has left the equation. Not the black woman….9 times out of 10, she’s there….carrying the load. The guy gets to jet and do whatever the hell he pleases.

To fix the problem that you so eloquently revealed is that the men need to stay and help raise the children that they’ve created then girls will know what to look for in a man and boys will mature into real men.

How come these men who claim to be so ‘different’, they cook, clean, and they are not like the typical brother, yet they have an ex-wife. If they were so great, why did their marriage fail? If they were so different, why are they single and have such a ‘problem with today’s sisters? Why can’t they get and keep a woman happy? Because they are only as ‘different in their own heads’. In fact, they are the typical guy, they just can’t see it, nor want to admit it. But every dude likes to think of himself as atypical.. He’s always ‘not like all the rest. *shrugs* figures.