Comments on: Why Men Hate Dating Single Mothers

By: graniteball

graniteball — Thu, 03 May 2012 17:43:44 +0000

Sadly, not all “baby daddy’s” do what they are suppose to. I date a single mother, I can’t stand how the child’s father can’t handle his own business. He can’t go a day with his child without bothering the mother. She had to get an OOP and now he goes the route of the grandmother and best friend. He doesn’t want to give up more custody bc he doesn’t want to pay child support.
Checklists are nice, but they don’t always work out in the dating world. As much as a 20 or 30yr old man would love to find a stable, single woman without a child, it isn’t always an option. It “seems” that a lot of good, stable attractive, date-able woman have actually been in long-term relationships and have had children in those relationships. I have met many attractive, single woman that just aren’t date-able. They “seem” to have a screw loose. Which might explain why they have been able to stay single and attractive so often and so long.
Please note: I put “seem” in quotes because it’s just my opinion. I am talking ab the majority. Not the special case scenario. I have heard that the Blue Whale is not extinct and some Irish are actually sober.

By: Jacqueline_Homan

Jacqueline_Homan — Mon, 30 Apr 2012 02:03:44 +0000

“And the women are always into their kids or fighting with the ex or emotionally suffering…I don’t need this…Oh yeah, I’m half Black…LOL”Half Black, half White, half sky blue pink — it doesn’t matter. For all your blathering on about single mothers and “women who “give their bodies to bad men”, you forgot to check your UNEARNED MALE PRIVILEGE before running your mouth like a self-serving idiot that ought to be arrested for possession of brains with intent to use. Here’s a clue, Sherlock: Women don’t “get pregnant”; women are impregnated by MEN.

Unless you’re a 40 year-old virgin (which I doubt), you have parted many a woman’s thighs in your day — without ANY concern for what YOUR orgasm might have cost her.

And you probably didn’t even make sure she enjoyed the sex as much as you by at least going down on her first so she could get an orgasm out of the deal for all the risks and trouble for her in putting out for you to satisfy YOUR “needs”, am I right? (You know I am!)

You had no concern whether or not any of your bed victims even survived pregnancy and childbirth without permanently disabling injury or death in a country with Third World maternal mortality rates, a country where POOR women have not had access to birth control and abortion and have even less access now while men get a free license to tom-cat around with no reprisals. You see women as nothing but disposable sperm receptacles and incubators with a limited shelf-life that owe you free sexual and childbearing service; something for males to use, control, and then discard once we lose our value as ornaments.

You don’t want a “good woman” or a “wife”; you want a bipedal house pet to gestate your genetic material without having to give anything in return.

You act as if your genetics are superior to everyone else’s when you’re not that special and when there are plenty of children in this world without hope and without family that you could adopt. NEWSFLASH: Women are NOT reproductive chattel so get over yourself!You degrade women whom you feel superior to since you’re a legend in your own shallow, self-centered, narrow mind.

I don’t care how much money you’ve got, or how many letters of the alphabet you’ve got racked up behind your name.

You may not know who you are, but I know WHAT you are: a 100% self-entitled, spoiled, narcissistic ASSHOLE that doesn’t deserve to get laid even if you crawl up a chicken’s ass and wait. I don’t like ANY man that disses women of ANY race when we get enough hate dumped on us — just for our ability to give birth. Oh yeah, for the record I’m 100% White.

By: Deborrah

Deborrah — Mon, 02 Apr 2012 05:12:46 +0000

That is one of the chief reasons for this article really, to explain to women how the situation is perceived from the other side. Some guys are just very fearful of the unknown, and if a woman knows WHY, she may be able to allay his fears and have a very nice relationship. But you can’t do anything to help him see the light if you don’t know what it is he is hesitant about.

Not only that, women have to be very careful when they have young children because there are a lot of crazies out here that are child molesters. They intentionally seek out women with children in their target age group. Even if you have sons, that is no protection because just as many little boys are raped as little girls these days.

By: Deborrah

Deborrah — Mon, 02 Apr 2012 05:09:10 +0000

Women do not corral in a husband. Even when a woman is married, there are many reasons a man will cheat, or leave on his own accord. Sometimes there is abuse, drugs or other addictions, babies out of wedlock with other women, down low issues, and repeated adultery that drive a couple apart. There was no plan to raise the child or children alone, but shit happens, ya know?

It’s nice that the females in your family have men that are (at the time of writing) still with their wives. But you could wake up tomorrow and that be a different story. That is how relationships go – no one has control over what another person does.

Now someone that intentionally goes into a situation with someone that they aren’t really with and who shows no signs of being an interested father… well, I don’t know what to say about that choice. To me that is what abortion clinics are for, but some women really don’t want to have an abortion and would rather struggle along for 20 years trying to support and raise a child they cannot afford.

By: Deborrah

Deborrah — Mon, 02 Apr 2012 05:04:23 +0000

@YolondaRTaylor The difference is that the women usually have custody of the children, while the men are occasional parents on alternating weekends. Men still have plenty of time to establish and maintain relationships, sometimes with more than one woman at the same time while STILL BEING A DADDY. That isn’t the case for the woman, unless she is not the custodial parent.

With the majority of children in baby momma or divorces living with their mothers, this article holds much more validity and is much more useful to women than talking about the mere 5% of men that have full-time custody of their children. However, we love to run articles of quality here that other people write. So if you feel that strongly about anything you read on this website, feel free to write at least 500 words about it and submit it using the Contact Us link above.

By: micheledelvallevega

micheledelvallevega — Sat, 24 Mar 2012 05:53:05 +0000

@YolondaRTaylor So very true…My 40 yr old male cousin has 9 kids from different women and I still can see how he still manages to get laid….

By: micheledelvallevega

micheledelvallevega — Sat, 24 Mar 2012 05:51:25 +0000

I’m a mother of 4 with one divorce and another in the thinking…..and I totally agree! XD

By: YolondaRTaylor

YolondaRTaylor — Wed, 15 Feb 2012 01:41:04 +0000

With all due respect towards this article, I am a 40 year old woman who is educated and working to better herself, has married only once with NO KIDS. All I can say is while all fingers are pointed at the women, let’s put this subject on the flip side.. which is a TWO-WAY street. There are some MEN out here in the exact same position and with that said how do you all think women who are in positions like myself feel??? Just making a solid point…