You are missing the entire point here. Hopefully now that I have explained it, you can go back and read the article with fresh eyes and ears, and better grasp the concepts.

Where does BDSM go into on this?

Reading over comments, I’m a little perturbed at the ‘One way or the Other’ line of thought that seems to be so prevalent.

I have a happy, healthy relationship with my girlfriend. It’s not perfect, but we’ve worked together and have made great strides in our respective careers. Marriage is something of a topic beneath the surface, but that’s a mox-nix. We may or may not.

But, asides the point really – We’ve both made compromises in our personal lives. I quit smoking and cut out some (with hindsight) very bad ‘friends’ whom I didn’t need in my life.

I’ve gotten her into dancing, made her go easy on the drinking and we’ve both set up a regular work-out routine for the two of us.

Is the fact she’s submitted or even compromised to some things I’ve asked of her make her a submissive, spineless woman? I have to say, if you honestly believe that to be the case, you’re going to sound a little radical.

Now, that’s all just IRL, our personal and professional lives out in the day.

As for the bedroom? – She happens to have a kink for light bondage, whips, etc. Mild to Moderate BDSM. And a LOT of women (and even some men) happen to have this kink. They’re all ‘socialized’ brainless drones?

I’ve only forced my GF into doing something she didn’t want to do ONCE due to a mistake, I reconciled and made up for it soon afterwards and felt terrible about it.

Now, I’d also ask you to take two seconds to go actually read up on BDSM – any experienced individual will tell you that it is the SUBMISSIVE who holds the power there, they’re the ones who have the power to say NO. To hold the safe word and whether they even wish to partake in it or NOT.

Judging from some of the other comments I’ve seen on this. – I’d get the idea you all think I’m some sort of serial rapist. At least some individuals would gleefully jump to that conclusion.

Just oei.

Speaking for myself at least, I keep my Bedroom and Professional life private. My girlfriend is able to make her own decisions, and we work together on harder things. (I.E. – One of our larger discussions in marriage (or NOT) is that her company offers a better health package than mine.)

Blagh. – Anyways, Yes I’d agree there are some weak, spineless men out there who pretty much want the fictionalized ‘Yes maid.’ – Have you watched Hentai or other such things? Good god, they start taking that shit as a fact.

The only other thing I’d ask is that you try to be a bit more subjective. – I don’t think you’re being inflammatory to promote discussion, some of your comments reek of misandry, on a personal level. If I’m wrong, feel free to cite how and why.

But really, extremism on either end is just cancerous to everyone.

According to the bible, which was written by men, not only are we born sinful, but we are even sinful in the womb. And according to the bible, which was written by men, “the wages of sin is death” (i.e. everlasting doom in an eternal furnace). Quite a monstrous fate when one considers miscarriages, still births, infant deaths, and the death of young children.

The problem with subscribing to any man-made religion (and a more accurate description would be “political system”) as an unquestionable dogma, is one must accept all of it; not pick and choose. Oh wait! I know! Quick! Somebody find an “age of accountability” scripture! Surely we can reinterpret SOMETHING so we don’t have to send our kiddies to Hell!! Sadly, there is no such scripture. Hmmmmmmmm.

BTW, yes, I am fully aware that this is a discussion about “submission,” but I think I made my point about dragging the “good book” into it

How interesting that you chose to capitalize the word “Man,” but not “woman.” Or did someone else make that choice for you?