Why Women Ignore Men
With nothing intelligent to do with my time, I decided to wander into a local eatery for a happy hour snack and beverage. I’ve discovered that happy hour is a great place to meet people, and it provides wonderful opportunities for me to ask questions and stay abreast of the astonishing things going on in the minds of single men and women in the dating world.
So I parked my bodacious butt on a stool, and ordered nachos and a margarita. Recognizing me from a few weeks ago, a gentleman ran over to my table to ask how my research was going and what fascinating things I’d learned about the opposite sex since we last spoke. He and I chatted for a few minutes, then he whispered that he had a question for me.
“Shoot!” I said.
“Women seem to spend a lot of time intentionally ignoring men, not giving eye contact, paying zero attention…being totally self-absorbed, etc.” he said. “How do you notice guys? Does a guy ever catch your eye?”
[Did I say astonishing? Perhaps “jaw droppingly unfuckingbelievable” would be more appropriately descriptive.]
Taking a big swig of my tasty beverage, I had to explain to the young man (who was at least 35 and should know better) that women are not self-absorbed, men are.
Really, for him to think that because he showed up there should be a drum roll, house lights would dim, and all eyes would be on him is a fantasy and a dream.
Apparently he believed because he was there and wanted female attention, women were supposed to drop whatever they were thinking about or doing and make him the focus of their existence. Talk about a sense of entitlement!
It took every ounce of control I had not to laugh in his face. Sometimes I even surprise myself with my restraint.
Politely I asked him where he got the notion that he was a God. What I really wanted to say was “what a dork, can you get a clue?!”
Guys need to understand this – Women look at men when they are interested, and completely ignore you when they are not.
If a woman is not looking at YOU, that means she is not interested in YOU for whatever reason she has. She could already have a boyfriend, a husband, or someone she is focused on making her boyfriend.
Could be that she is thinking about the job interview she has in an hour, the hot date she has tonight and what to wear, worrying about her sick mother, the cost of her upcoming vacation, when the Midol is going to kick in and these cramps go away, or be fighting back tears as she is upset about the fight she had a few minutes ago with her sister.
Believe it or not, women have a lot to think about that does not have anything to do with men.
What men also don’t understand is that women have “check you out” skills that are comparable to light speed. Unlike men, we don’t have to stare for 5 minutes to get the whole picture. A woman can glance at you and in less than 3 seconds assess your confidence, body build and fitness, attitude, hygiene, marital status, intelligence, health, physical prowess, social skills, financial status, and thus, her interest.
If she looks then looks away and NEVER LOOKS AT YOU AGAIN, you didn’t make the cut. Move on.
Now if she looks at you a second time, she has questions and is looking deeper.
If she looks a third time and smiles, you’ve caught her eye and you need to seize the opportunity presented. Women will make eye contact with men they feel are on their level, and prefer not to encourage those that don’t stand a chance.
Accept that women’s worlds do not revolve around men and no woman owes you her attention, time, conversation or even a smile. If you get a woman’s attention, feel blessed. Single women are not here to make every guy feel better about himself, only the man she deems worthy.
And that may or may not be you.
Deborrah
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It was stated earlier, woman assess in milliseconds.
And you guessed it, guys do too.
Just like I can tell from a mile away if a woman is too fat and ugly for my liking.
I’ll just stare at the hot babe or not look at her so she doesn’t think I’m interested in her even though she believes all men want sex so all guys must want her.
She’s a complete stranger and I rejected her a mile away, same with girls.
I’ve seen too many ugly men with woman, I can’t say the same for the opposite sex.
Razzy Razzy, although it’s rare, women are guilty of the same crime. I know because I’m lucky to be a good looking man and women have become angry at me simply because I did not act on their romantic advances. I’m taking, “how dare you refuse me!” attitudes. Some turned into stalkers, others wanted to dish out harm, and then you have the ones who attack a man’s character by claiming he’s gay in order to shame a man into accepting their advances.
A woman’s anger from being rejected is due to the fact that women hardly ever experience rejection from men, and women always get their way with men, so when a woman gets around a man who says NO, they don’t know how to handle it because it never happened to them before, and so they take it personally.
As far as the rest of your post, although you’re right, the underlying frustration from the men posting here is that women like you, and others, lack compassion and basic civility. We can’t help it that we’re attracted to you! It just happens, and we should act on our curiosity as to why a particular woman catches our eye, but it’s tragic that American women rather respond in such a negative, rude way instead of being gracious that a male approached her and either let us down easy or offer up a single friend as consolation.
This is why I rarely approach American women anymore and why I’m now dating women from overseas; foreign women graciously accept advancements from strange men, and they’re not rude.
One point I disagree on with the author is the woman, “check you out skills”. For example, if women could tell how healthy a man is just by looks then why are so many Afro American women contracting HIV?
As a man, I agree with the author, particularly in how a woman makes the choice to chose a particular man over others. Most men think they have “game”, but they fail to realize ( due to huge ego) that the woman was in control the whole time because the female has the final say. “Game”, or the new “pick up art” that’s popular these days is simply the process of SUBMITTING A BID in a stylish manner to convince a woman to say YES.
@zz777 “He has no NEED for a woman to complete him—”
Nobody ever said he did. However when a dude sees a woman he is attracted to, in that moment, he has every “NEED” to try to meet that woman. His attraction for her drives his need to meet her. She’s not obligated to reciprocate his wants/need/desires just because he feels them no matter how much masculinity he radiates’.
It is still up to the woman to respond. She is either interested in him or she isn’t. Maybe his masculinity isn’t turning her on so she brushes him off. Maybe another dude’s masculinity turns her own. Guys don’t control that.
@Razzy
You are right–a woman has no obligation whatsoever to reciprocate when a man pursues, but a man has no obligation whatsoever to pursue just because a woman has given him an invite–he may be attracted to numerous women and he may be able to “turn the tables” and cause the women that he is interested in to pursue him and take the risk of rejection, — if he is strong enough. –so guys do not have any control over a woman`s right to reject when they pursue–but they do have the power to change the pursuit dynamic if they have enough belief in themselves!
@DocSavage like men are doing any better. I’ve seen and heard plenty of guys pass up women for many superficial qualities. and are you sure they are really dating losers or you assume they are because you don’t have what it takes to attract women so you’re butt-hurt? typical male response.
I don’t understand all the men showing up to argue about this topic. The fact of the matter is this: a woman will either be interested in a man who approaches her or not. That’s the long and short of it. No one – male or female – is OBLIGATED to be interested in anyone else. No one has a RIGHT to be a part of someone else’s personal life. Those who are too damaged to accept this fact will probably get themselves either arrested or shot.
Concealed carry laws are sweeping the nation, and I know quite a few BW in my town who are planning to take advantage of that law as soon as it passes here, so that they no longer have to live in FEAR of the “Let me holla at you” / “Give me you phone number OR ELSE” psychopaths anymore.
The smartest thing that a man can do, if he is GENUINELY interested in meeting women for a relationship, is ask his family members and/or friends to set him up on blind dates. THAT is how you meet interested women. Simple and safe.
@Ian123 honestly, it’s not belittling behavior. She was merely pointing out how some men feel “owed”. Men make snap judgements about women and act just as shallow. You sound more butt-hurt that women should get to know a guy she isn’t interested in… as if she has no right to reject any unwanted favors. That’s how it is! With everything people make judgements of you before you speak. Your cries of “misandry” are just ways to silence a woman whom you disagree with. Save it for a real cause.
@topaz627
@topaz 627 I don’t think you understand me. Anyhow, I continued my discussion with @Razzy further up if you’d care to take a look.
@topaz627
I think you’ve ignored what I wrote above. I was being sceptical of the claim that women are better than men at judging the opposite sex. I was not supporting the idea that a man is entitled to a woman’s attention or that people don’t make snap judgements.
Anyhow, I continued my discussion with @Razzy further up if you’re interested.
@Ian123 I’ve ignored nothing, please tell me why you don’t have an answer? or are you gonna play more games? I said what I said for a reason stop playing dumb and being a condescending dick. lol god you’re sad.
Men approaching strange women for romantic interest, hmm? Yes that’s what it’s about in most situations but it’s not always the case. Sometimes guys are actually looking to help or are in need of help from what we consider to be a friendly face. For instance:
The time I pulled up next to an attractive woman at a stoplight. I’d noticed something about her car and wanted to point it out to her. I gestured to her to roll down her window and she refused. I tried again and she reluctantly rolled it down and barked ‘What?’ I said ‘you left your gas cap off Ms. Friendly’ and pulled away. Sure, it could’ve been a bad day for her but we all have them and there is no reason to be rude from the start.
Another time I was in a food quarters near my job and happened upon an attractive lady’s ID badge. I picked it up, saw the photo and then looked around to see if the lady was nearby. I noticed a woman a few seats down sitting alone and assumed that it was her. I said ‘Excuse me Miss’ and she turned around and quickly turned away. Again, ‘Excuse me, ma’am…are you ___ Lin?’ Very annoyed she turned around and said ‘Yes, but I just want to be left alone.’ I say ‘OK’ and placed the ID on the table and walked away. There were no apologies for her rude behavior, no ‘thanks stranger’ nothing but a chilly attitude.
While I agree that it is wrong to assume that when men don’t get attention from women for whatever reason to simply label them as bitchy or self-absorbed, I also believe it is extremely self-absorbed for women to assume that the only reason unfamiliar men seek their attention is because of romantic interest.
Oh yeah…
I agree that women are great at assessing a man’s body build and fitness, confidence, hygiene, marital status (left hand, duh) and possibly their physical prowess within a few seconds. Men are pretty good at this too (maybe even better). For ANYONE to suggest that they can accurately assess the attitude, intelligence, health, social skills and financial status of a person just by looking at them is laughable.
@frankjum12 For ANYONE to suggest that they can accurately assess the attitude, intelligence, health, social skills and financial status of a person just by looking at them is laughable.”
Men can’t do this but women (especially observant intelligent women) can easily do this. Men can’t do this because when they are looking at an attractive woman, they observe her through the ‘eyes of their dycks. And we all know a dyck has no eyes.
“I also believe it is extremely self-absorbed for women to assume that the only reason unfamiliar men seek their attention is because of romantic interest”
Your *two* examples of the time you sought out women to give a helping hand that was not romantically (according to you) motivated does not invalidate the facts that most times men do seek out women for romantic reasons. (Men may not even admit this to themselves). When you found the badge, why didn’t you turn it in to the people in the store instead of seeking out a woman sitting alone and ‘assuming the badge was hers?” When you saw the ‘attractive woman’ driving down the street, why didn’t you just leave it alone? Most cars these days have attached gas caps and the gas hole inside of the car is closed, so even if one leaves a gas cap up, that won’t mean gas will leak out of the car. The woman would have discovered this sooner or later.
Even you won’t admit to yourself the ‘real reason’ you sought out those two women. Women get hit on ALL the time by men, many times a day. They get tired of it. For many
men the main reason they approach a woman to ‘help’ her is because they found her attractive and was hoping to get her attention/interest even under the guise of ‘helping her’. Women can tell just by looking at a man’s eyes, his face, she can see the ‘personal interest and attraction he feels for her coming through loudly and clearly because you guys broadcast that interest even when you aren’t aware that you do. Women can tell just by how a guy looks at her and she can tell it at a glance.
So whether you like it or not, 99.999% of the time, when a man approaches a strange woman, it’s because he finds her attractive.
Ok two more laughable things here:
1) The extremely lofty ‘statistic’ pulled completely out of thin air…99.999%? C’mon now.
2) Your argument from authority…’men can’t do this but women can…blah, graphic accusation, blah, blah…’ Basically, this is how it is because I say so! C’mon now. This is a healthy conversation that deserves a more detailed explanation of where you’re coming from.
You mocked my *two* examples of how some women can often behave way too impersonal, chilly and yes…self-absorbed, but where is your evidence of how ANY woman can accurately assess attitude, health, social skills and financial status? I’ll take video, quotes from books on the subject or simply a good old fashioned story.
Why did I seek out the person instead of giving it to the store? First of all, we were in a food court so….? Second, even if we were in a store I say giving it directly to the person, if possible, is actually the safest and most logical course of action. We generally tend to trust our own eyes and ears first and foremost.
And the gas cap? ‘The woman would’ve discovered this sooner or later???’ I agree, still nothing wrong with pointing it out. I do the same thing when I see people with their lights off at night to avoid being pulled over. It’s called being a caring person.
A few questions: Are you suggesting that men go through life avoiding interactions with attractive women unless they are romantically interested in them? How about when I asked the overweight, bad hair day girl if she wanted my seat on the bus the other day what was I doing? Does my reasoning change upon the level of the girl’s attractiveness? Do you consider yourself attractive? Do you base all strangers’ interactions with you off of your theory? If so, I believe you may be just as egotistical as the guy who assumes that women are self-absorbed because they ignore him. “I’m so fine that I choose to ignore each new man that I come across.” The choice is indeed yours. The reasoning behind it is flawed.
If women actually did know how to decipher all these things from the giddy-up I think it’s fascinating and would like to see it put to the test. Still, it flies in the face of hundreds of thousands of surprise deaths, breakups, divorces, bad marriages and women who plain ol catch the Vapors (see Biz Markie) all over the world. If women truly think like this then we have a lot of female Special Agent Dave Kujan’s out there. Women who are far too judgmental for their own good.
By the sheer number of your replies to comments here I take it you are the writer of this article. Good job because I actually really enjoy the debate it’s sparked. Still, your approach to this suggests that you have an Us vs. Them mentality when dealing with women/men issues. Be careful because this can lead to arguments driven from mere circumstance (whether you are a male or female) and with that none of us learn.
@frankjum12 As Shakespeare said, “The lady doth protest too much, methinks” or in your case the ‘man” or as some folks would say ‘ A hit dog will hollar.’ Bottom line is this; Women ignore men they aren’t interested in. Accept that fact and keep it moving. If you’ve been ignored by a woman you’re attracted to, accept the fact that she wasn’t interested in you for whatever reason that matters to HER and move on. All this back and forth rhetoric doesn’t change that. You aren’t entitled to a woman returning your interest or attraction just because you want her.
@Razzy Right on! Although every situation is extremely unique! Women: the complex, intuitive, and sensitive creatures that they are– also ignore men that they are VERY interested in! That is where the intrigue gets really hot–not overreacting to her feigned disinterest (if your intuition is accurate)and letting her know via the same subtle vibe that you know what is going on beneath appearances! Now that is truly Romantic is it not? 🙂
@Razzy Alrighty then. No man’s entitled to a woman’s attention. A ‘no shyt’ fact of life that no one here is arguing. To paraphrase your statement, if ‘hit dogs are hollering’ that much then even you can admit that most men actually do keep it moving every day. I can accept that obvious truth even if you can’t accept the obvious truth that men aren’t always trying to hit on strange women that we attempt to interact with.
So indeed let’s move on to what I was actually asking/saying.
You never supported you’re outrageous claim (my REAL argument against your suggestion that women have varying levels of ESP) which only further tells me that you cannot.
Your previous claims imply that typical women are so shallow that they only have the time of day for strangers that they may possibly be interested in romantically. I don’t buy that at all. Your claims also imply that men (99.9% lol) only seek discourse with female strangers because of potential romantic interest. That would make men (99.9%) remarkably shallow. If that’s what you are saying then yes we are done here.
BTW you’ve made more comments on this topic here than anyone else so I think the Shakespeare quote works better for you. No gender tweaking necessary.
@frankjum12 “You never supported your outrageous claim..that women have varying levels of ESP”
Look I don’t have to support shyt. Who cares if you believe it or not. You are not a woman. Whenever a woman says something a man doesn’t like here he comes with the ‘where’s the proof’ question. I’m not posting to show you support and I could care less if you believe what I say or not. Who cares. The few occasions where men show non romantic interest are more the exception rather than the rule. You are not a woman, you don’t walk in a woman’s shoes and unless you are gay, you don’t get men hitting on you all of the time so you would never know the reality of what a woman goes through in her dealings with men day in and day out. Nobody has to prove shyt to you. And none of that is relevant to the point of the article. Wise, intelligent, women can read a man, just like that dude on that TV show, the ‘Mentalist can read people. It ain’t rocket science. End of discussion.
@zz777 Women also ignore men that they are VERY interested in!”
Only a dude who is too cowardly to approach a woman who has shown her interest, to him would make an idiotic statement like this. Only a dude who can’t tell when a woman is interested in him and when she is encouraging him to approach her, who would take her subtle interested behavior to mean she’s ‘ignoring him’ would make this type of comment. (rolls eyes).
@Razzy @frankjum12 Don’t you just love it when certain people demand that Black women give them “proof” of their personal experiences and opinions? SMH.
@Razzy Baaaahhahaahahaaa @ End of discussion!
Much love to you sista!
@AndreaLThorsen @Razzy Actually I didn’t demand anything. I merely asked. I’m truly looking for insight here and to share whatever I know.
@frankjum12 @Razzy As a woman, I can tell you that more often than not the men who approach me are doing so because they are interested. Even men and young boys who mistake me as in their age group cannot speak to me without it being infused with sexual undertones.
@frankjum12 You never supported you’re outrageous claim (my REAL argument against your suggestion that women have varying levels of ESP)..”
This is a sticking point with you because you’re intimidated by this. You are intimidated even frightened of the fact that when it comes to dating and mating, men really have no control. You’d like to think that the opportunity you have to get with a woman is solely based on your actions. It’s not.
A woman is checking you out and you don’t even know it. If you do get a chance to approach a woman and she’s given you the green light, it is based on what she has already assessed about you, (her check you out skills) while you were oblivious. You have no control over that. A woman decides who she ‘allows’ to approach her, you don’t get to make that decision. You don’t even have to open your mouth.
All you have to do is walk into a room, and women are ‘checking you out’ and based on what THEY like or don’t like. Women do this all the time and guys know this. So if you walk into a room and an attractive woman catches your eye, realize that she is checking you out as well and based on ‘HER criteria, she decides if she wants you to approach her or not. Nobody said anything about it being ESP. It is about what that particular woman wants and either it’s you or not.
@frankjum12 BTW you’ve made more comments on this topic here than anyone else…”
So what? I can make hundreds of comments on this topic, what’s it to you? This ain’t your blog, if the blog owner Deborrah Cooper doesn’t care why are you keeping track?
@AndreaLThorsen @frankjum12
It’s obvious this is a rejected dude, still resentful behind a woman he liked and wanted who didn’t return his attention or affection so here he is whining and defensive. I get hit on just about every single day by dudes.. but according to him (a non woman), he’s supposed to know better about what a woman experiences at the hands of men, than women themselves.’. Don’t you just love how men set themselves up as more knowledgeable about what women go through in their dealings with men, than women who actually experience these things do?
@Razzy LOL!
I thought it was the ‘End of discussion.’
@frankjum12 My reply was to Andrea but since she replied to you, your name got tagged. But if you wish to no longer discuss on this topic, by all means exercise your right to end discourse.
@Morning Rain @frankjum12
@morning rain. This is so true. I get hit on just about every day in any innocuous situation. Men do it with their facial expression, their looks, even if they don’t say a word, they look at women in a sexual way and a woman can tell just by the way the man is looking at her that he is attracted. A woman who is not interested will quickly keep it moving, turn away. So whether dude wants to admit it or not, most times when men approach women it is because they are interested. The few times they are not interested is the exception rather than the rule.
@Razzy Or maybe the Dude is just very selective, and chooses to approach when he wants to–not just because a woman gives him the go ahead signals. Some MEN also get hit on continually by women (it goes both ways) –they get bombarded with hint, innuendo, and subtle invites.(Womens way of approaching romantically) If the woman believes that the man has understood her intent, and the man chooses not to approach her or respond to her signals –many woman will then ACT disinterested (and they are superb actresses) as a means of saving face! So, a lot of men to thick to pick up on the initial attraction signals can only see the disinterest from the woman at this point ,and believe the woman actually dislikes them. They are only seeing half the picture, and unfortunately for them –the wrong half
@Razzy @frankjum12 It’s nothing more, or less, than gas lighting. People who engage in this behavior tend to hate my guts, because no one has ever been successful in making me question my own perceptions (not even my parents). I have never been wrong in my assessment of anyone’s character or intentions. EVER. Too many women allow themselves to be convinced that what they know to be true is wrong. Glad to see you are also “gas light” proof.
@zz777 “If the woman believes that the man has understood her intent, and the man chooses not to approach her or respond to her signals–many women will then ACT disinterested..”
As well she should. No woman should pant and act desperate behind some dude who has shown her that he isn’t interested in her when she has shown him that she is interested in him. She SHOULD act disinterested in him, keep it moving….NEXT. He ain’t the only dude in town. He has a right to make a choice, and she can accept it and turn her interest elsewhere, which means showing disinterest in him’.
zz777
Woman ignore men they are really interested in.
Woman act disinterested when they indicated interest and it was not reciprocated to save face.
I agree with both assessments.
Razzy
The guy may be in demand and the woman knows she isn’t the only woman who knows he has options, so he can be selective and/or hard-to-get believe it or not.
He might be a top-notch dude with the whole package and only a foolish woman would convince herself he really isn’t, which is self-rejection anyway.
You mentioned he’s not the only dude in town.
You’re right, just the most desirable one.
@Razzy What you said is so true.
So what do you suggest? Talking to every single person who ever tries to talk to you? You’d have no time to do anything else.
I truly believe that the way you present yourself has a lot to do with who you are as a person. If you present yourself as a gangbanger, it should not surprise you when the preppy girl ignores you…yet lo and behold the gang banger acts like she should be groveling at his feet.
@Razzy Right, it saddens me that when a woman acts uninterested she is “self absorbed” or a “bitch”
but when a man acts uninterested, he is “just not that into you”
society has brainwashed men into thinking they can and WILL have whoever they want and that women are nothing but slaves to men. Women are not allowed to have taste or standards, they are supposed to dumbly follow any man who gives them the time of day.
bobati
You have it opposite.
Society has brainwashed woman to believe that no man is good enough for them and she is only required to be beautiful to qualify for the best men, while the inferior men are always intimidated by her if she’s successful and independent.
Where are all the real men they ask.
You forgot that these men have standards that can’t be met by woman who ask where they went.
When a man radiates masculinity —he is radiating because that is who he is inside! The inner work that he has done to tame ego, increase kindness, give love, and develop a connected perspective , make him attractive to all people but especially so to women! So there is no “end of the day” for the man who RADIATES he is to busy living “in the moment of the day” to worry about outcomes — the abundance that comes from developing this living “in the moment” heart and mindset, (MOSTLY HEART) is more than his reward ,it is his constant companion! He has no NEED for a woman to complete him—- only a strong desire to share what HE IS with a woman who has made her own wise choices!
all very true ,but men have the right to be just as choosy in who they give eye contact to and in who they smile at. Social norms say that women are the prize that men must woo and win, but the tables can easily be turned when a man stops begging and starts radiating masculinity!
Bottom line here is the one asking why they get ignored is MALES. So everything you said to try to turn the tables is a joke. Women get attention from dozens of men all at the same time – most of it unwanted. So we don’t have to worry about you turning the tables because your dicks will make sure that NEVER happens. What you all cannot stand is that women have the power to make your dreams come true or not. And just because a guy expresses interest does not equate to him ‘begging’… it only becomes begging when a woman tells him she is not interested or doesn’t pay him any mind, and he starts doing magic tricks or other loser things to try to get her attention anyway. Let it go dude and move on to the next female.
@zz777 “but the tables can easily be turned when a man stops begging and starts radiating masculinity!”
What do you mean by a man ‘radiating masculinity’? Explain in detail.
A man can radiate all he wants (whatever that means) at the end of the day, who is he radiating for? A woman or a man? If it’s for a woman, then he still has to ‘attract her attention and hope that she responds to all of his ‘radiation’ (lol)
I think the writer is waaay being too extreme towards the guy who asked her the question. Seems he was simply trying to get some insight on why women seem to be very impersonal to men a lot of the time. I don’t think the guy meant that he expected women to fawn over him at all times.
This approach to answering a fair question reeks of the typical blog writer who goes out of their way to paint a shallow picture of a person, thing, subject, etc… simply to make their argument more appealing. The meat of her answer was excellent, her imaginary assessment of the guy’s reason for the question not so much.
A lot of communication takes place via body language, facial expression, tone of voice. You are privy to none of that hearing about it second-hand, which I understand. There is nothing about this situation that was too anything. He was an arrogant little fuck and he got told about himself. But thank you for responding.
@frankjum12 EXACTLY THATS WHAT I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO TELL THESE DUMMIES. THIS IS NOT HOW YOU ANSWER A PERSONS QUESTION.
YOU JUST ANSWER THE DAMN QUESTION U DONT GO OFF ON A TANGENT ABOUT HOW THIS AND THAT AND HOW HE EXPECTS WOMEN TO FALLOUT FOR HIM. THATS OFF TOPIC AND MISCILLANEOUS. IT ALSO MAKES UNREASONABLE ASSUMPTIONS ABOUT THE PERSON ASKING THE QUESTION. SHE WAS ASSUMING HE EXPECTS WOMEN TO FALL OUT FOR HIM YET SHE DIDNT ASK HIM THAT QUESTION AND HE DIDNT SAY ANYTHING ABOUT THAT BEING WHAT HE EXPECTS.
ITS LIKE THE WRITER HAS THE LISTENING AND REASONING SKILLS OF A 5TH GRADER OR SOMETHING.
@frankjum12 THIS ENTIRE POST IS EXTREMELY CHAUVINIST TOWARDS THE MALE IN GENERAL. THESE WOMEN ARE NOTHING BUT A BUNCH OF FEMINIST THAT HATE MEN IN THE FIRST PLACE.
THEY LIKE TO PLAY THE VICTIMIZATION ROLE IN SOCIETY YET THEY ARE THE MOST BUTCH OVERLY CONTROL FREAKS ON THE PLANET. (BLACK WOMEN).
JUST LOOK AT THE ADVERTISEMENTS ON THE RIGHT OF THE SCREEN ” THE BLACK CHURCH where women pray and men prey”
THIS IS NOTHING BOTH MORE MAN HATING PROPAGANDA ITS WORSE THAN THE NAZIS. THESE WOMEN ARE ON A SERIOUS EGO TRIP AND IT MAKES ME SICK TO MY STOMACH. THEY THINK THEY ARE SUPERIOR TO MEN.
We don’t THINK we are superior to men, we KNOW we are superior to men. 😀
@frankjum12 “Seems he was simply trying to get some insight on why women seem to be very impersonal to men a lot of the time. ..”
If that guy had simply asked the author ‘How do you notice guys? Does a guy ever catch your eye? Then that would have been a dude who genuinely wanted to gain some insight into about women. But this is not what that dude said. He had already made his judgement that women are self absorbed and they ignored men. He’d already made an assumption, that just because women didn’t respond to him because ‘he wanted their attention’ then they must be ‘ignoring him, or self absorbed’. So what do you make of his judgement of women? He does have a sense of entitlement. When a woman doesn’t give him the time and attention he wants when he wants it, he then attributes negative character traits to her. It does make him come off as arrogant and expecting women to fawn all over him just because he wants them to.