Debsterisms – Wise Quotes to Date and Live By

| 03/29/2012 | Comments (0)

You’ll never find wisdom like this in The Four Agreements, but there is truth that can be applied to life in each and every one of these bon mots. Debsterism quotes from the mind of advice columnist Deborrah Cooper, collected from her posts around the web!



There are two kinds of people in the world – those that can be controlled through fear, and those that cannot be controlled under any circumstances.

Relationships for women are not based on logic or reason, and they are not based on what men THINK a woman should want. Relationships for women are based on what men do and say, and how what men do and say makes a woman feel.

Do not walk behind me. Do not walk ahead of me. Do not walk beside me. Just leave me alone.

I was just thinking about something. I suggested on a thread that we look for partners that have traits and skills we don’t in order to create a whole. But that would mean I’d have to get with someone ugly and stupid.

It’s always darkest before dawn. So if you’re going to steal your neighbor’s newspaper, that’s the best time to do it!

I am a warrior. Warriors are not here to make FRIENDS, we are here to make CHANGE!

You dictate your true worth and no one else. Anyone that gives that power over to others or thinks others already have it to bestow upon them are suckas. No one has the power to make you be anything. You alone have that right. You alone can claim greatness or mediocrity, success or failure, joy or pain, beauty or suffering. You decide how you will interpret the world and the things and people in it. Just you

Always remember that you’re special and unique… just like everyone else.

Never test the depth of the water with both feet.

I was preparing to write an article on lying and all the different kinds of lies folks tell. Then I realized when you boil it all down, there are really only two kinds of lies: those you get away with telling, and those you get caught telling. Sometimes my analytical brilliance astounds even me.

If you think nobody cares if you’re alive, try missing a couple of car payments.

Ask the hard questions. Accept the answers that may not always be what you want to hear. That is called having wisdom. Being romantic and ignoring such realities is called stupidity.

Before you criticize someone, you should walk a mile in their shoes. That way, after you criticize them, you’re a mile away and you have their shoes.

We cannot go through life jumping through hoops and bending/flexing to get or keep the approval of others. That means you are placing your self-esteem in the hands of Other which is not where it belongs. DO YOU. Others come and go throughout our life. Some love us and some do not. But we really shouldn’t really pay too much attention to what other people think about us. Most people don’t really know how to think anyway.

If at first you don’t succeed, then skydiving is not for you.

If you lend someone $50 and never see that person again, it was $50 well spent!

Fear of God’s anger keeps the majority of Black people in a behaviorial chokehold. Those that seek to game on you find you to be predictable and malleable. Like shooting fish in a barrel

If you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember your story.

Needy is a subjective measurement. Each relationship and person is different. There is no standard for neediness, no measuring stick, no chart. There is only people that like more emotional closeness in their romantic relationships, and those that do not.

In some relationships you’re the bug; and in others you’re the windshield.

Everyone seems perfectly normal until you get to know them better.

The quickest way to double your money is to fold it in half and put it back in your pocket.

A closed mouth gathers no foot.

It is impossible to find logic in the illogical. It is equally impossible to find sanity in the thoughts or actions of the insane.

Generally speaking, you aren’t learning much when your lips are moving. You have two ears and only one mouth, that means you should listen twice as much as you talk.

Some women feel that they “need closure” when a relationship ends. I think they’ve been reading too many dumbass romance novels. You have closure the second that fool walks out the door and you close it behind him. Closure.

Experience is something you don’t get until right after you needed it.

As long as you like yourself so much that you smile proudly at the image that you see in the mirror each and every morning and give that person two thumbs up, then you are doing something right!


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