Deborrah

Veteran social researcher, relationship advice columnist, author and radio host. Author of hundreds of articles on American and black culture, gender issues, singles, dating and relationships. Author of "Sucka Free Love!" , "The 24 Types of Suckas to Avoid," "The Black Church - Where Women Pray and Men Pray," and "Why Vegan is the New Black" all available on Amazon.Com. Her unique voice and insightful commentary have delighted fans and riled haters for 20 years. Read her stuff on SurvivingDating.Com and AskHeartBeat.Com.

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Black men and dating: Who should pay for dates?

. 04/24/2012 . 58 Comments

Who should pay for dates? Many black women believe they should pay half because when a man pays he expects something in return or that it gives him power. I disagree but what do you say?

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Dating Tips: What Questions do you Ask During the First Date?

. 04/14/2012 . 4 Comments

How to handle first date getting to know you questions. The machine gun rapid fire questioning might not be the best approach, and here’s why.

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Should a Woman Ever Tell Her New Man About a Past Abortion?

. 04/14/2012 . 32 Comments

Discussion of the pros and cons of telling the new man in your life about past the sexual adventures, an abortion, or STDs. If its in the past, that’s where it should stay and a woman should never tell her secrets Deborrah says. What’s your stance?

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If he doesn’t want a relationship what can I do to change his mind?

. 04/12/2012 . 0 Comments

How should a woman handle a friendship that turned sexual with a guy she’s known for years when he has no real interest in moving things along to a true committed relationship?

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Black Women in Interracial Relationships Get Their Swirl On!

. 04/11/2012 . 2 Comments

Swirling is a new relationship guide for black women looking to make the jump into the world of interracial relationships. Full of tips for success and answers to the questions you’ve always wanted to know the answers to but were afraid to ask.

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April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month : The Rapist Checklist

. 04/07/2012 . 0 Comments

Besides being forced to give a man sex at knife or gunpoint, are there other coercive behaviors that men use that constitute rape? The answer is YES! Read this list and learn what men do and say that means they are raping you.

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Men Want to Know: What is it that Women Want from Us?

. 03/24/2012 . 0 Comments

What do women want from men and relationships? Survey collects the desires, thoughts and opinions of women about what makes them happy and what they wish men would understand about making their relationships better.

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Dating Tips: Ladies, Never Stop Accepting Gifts From Men

. 03/18/2012 . 1 Comment

No matter what your reason is for giving a gift, it is not the woman’s responsibility to prevent YOUR spending, or to anticipate YOUR unrealistic expectations. Dating costs must be borne by men, and any gift given must be given freely without expectations of a return.

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Why Do People Lie So Much?

. 03/07/2012 . 0 Comments

Discussion of the reasons people lie, the frequency with which lies are told, which gender lies the most (scientific research study bears this out!), and how to tell by observing voice cues and body language if someone is lying to you.

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Swagga, Macho and The Streets – What Makes a Black Male a Man?

. 03/03/2012 . 1 Comment

Are black men socialized to focus on swaggar, macho and street-thug behavior as their measure of manhood? What behaviors and attitudes constitute manhood to Black men? What makes a Black man a man?

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I’m Single Because – The Civil War Between Black Men and Women

. 03/02/2012 . 0 Comments

Is there a war between single black men and women? Director Adam Butler believes there is! He stops by the show to talk about the state of single men and women in Black America, and what he hopes his film project will accomplish in healing that rift.

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Street Dudes Thugs and Players Are Not Relationship Material for Single Black Women

. 02/28/2012 . 10 Comments

Thugs and players are exciting, fun, sexy men, but not for everyone. Unless you know how to handle yourself and protect your heart from the games and heat of passion, you could end up baby momma road kill.

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