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Child Sexual Abuse in the Black Community – Survey Results
No one wants to talk about it, but child sexual abuse is the biggest “dirty little secret” in the black community, and has been for generations. This landmark study, with more than 8000 responses, gets to the heart of the matter of sexual abuse amongst African Americans.
Passion Has Left Our Marriage – Is She Cheating on Me?
What should a young husband do when the passion seems to have left his relationship, and he and his wife have sex once per month if that? However his chief concern isn’t the marriage falling apart but: “is she cheating on me?”
What do I do when he won’t take no for an answer?
Young woman experiences harassment from a guy she has no interest in dating, and asks what to do when a man won’t take no for an answer.
First Hand Accounts of Female Slaves
Learn the history of black female slaves reading this informative book on the tragic realities of life as a female slave in Far More Terrible For Women.
What Makes a Man Afraid of Commitment?
There is nothing wrong with saying you are afraid of something! Fear is a normal human emotion just like being angry, being sad, being happy. But the bottom line is women are AFRAID of being abandoned and behave accordingly, and men are AFRAID of commitment and losing options, and they behave accordingly as well. Each gender finds reasons to justify their behaviors and reasons for running away from commitment.
Manhood is Not Automatic: What Makes a Male a Man?
What is manhood? What do women really need to see to know that a male has the qualities and attitude necessary and is worthy of being bestowed the title “man?”
When abortion is the smartest choice for all concerned
Involving innocent children in adult silliness can have catastrophic effects on a child’s life. Sometimes abortion is the smartest choice for all concerned.
Single Women – Get Up on Game for Smarter Dating
A series of videos which examine the games black men run on single women and girls to get you to stay with them hoping for more, giving to them in a vacuum, focusing on them in a one-sided relationship, and worrying about keeping THEM happy while they do little to nothing in return for you. You deserve to have a loving union which is fulfilling and supportive…not some one-sided pimp player crap masquerading as “a relationship” that leaves you feeling empty and depleted.
The “What Other People Said About You” Game of Emotional Abuse
In video #18 of “The Manipulative Things Black Men Say to Make Black Women Jump Through Hoops!” series, veteran relationship advice columnist and author Deborrah Cooper breaks down the goals of the “lemme tell you what folks said about you” game of emotional abuse. What is emotional abuse? I define it as any words or […]
The Dirty Dozen – My Top 12 Dating Pet Peeves
I loved the fantastic war movie The Dirty Dozen. If you haven’t seen it before, try getting it for your next Blockbuster night. Exciting action drama, espionage, comedy, lots of stuff blowing up, sex, death, hope and redemption – it’s all there! But just like in dating, the story SOUNDS like an exciting adventure, so you sign on for the mission. It’s only after you get started on the journey that you find out that it is gonna be hard to make it out alive without losing a limb, or getting ventilated with bullet holes. What follows is my top 12 pet peeves, which I have affectionately dubbed The Dirty Dozen Dating Pet Peeves!
When Black Men Bring Up Butthurt and Bitches from the Past
His goal? To control your behavior towards him, and manipulate you with jealousy into bending over backwards and jumping through hoops to prove that you aren’t like those other bitches who hurt him. He has set you up to be in competition with his past, so you (unaware of the game) commence to doing too much to prove that you’re better, more down, a serious ride or die chick that knows how to treat a man!
Fixing the Black Community and the Flawed Logic of Black Men
Guest blogger Shadid Mack questions the logic of black men who blame the downfall of the black community on black women and single parent homes – asking black men how they can expect black women to perform a miracle in a vacuum and a hostile environment? He lays out the problems and possible solutions.
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