Dating Tips: What Questions do you Ask During the First Date?

. 04/14/2012 . 4 Comments

Some people believe its best to ask a barrage of questions (some of them very personal) on the first date or within the early dating stage.

They want to know things like if you’ve been married, why you aren’t any more, how many children you have, how many mothers/fathers you have for those children, how much you make, when you graduated from college, where you see yourself in five years, what your flaws are, your health issues, family mental health issues, if you are looking to get married soon, etc. All on the first date or two! They say they want to know if you are what they are looking for before they get emotionally involved.

That’s great, but what about the person that feels intimidated or pressured to talk about things they may not be comfortable discussing with you on a first date? Do we really need to focus on our questions, or should we be focusing on making our date feel comfortable enough to provide information to us readily?

Do you agree with this “direct question” dating philosophy or do you prefer a more conversational approach?

Is it feasible to think about a commitment and a relationship with a person before you really know who they are and if you even like them?

If you were asked these pointed questions on the first date by a stranger, how would you feel?

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