Black Women With White Men Interracial Relationships
Earlier today I created a meme which memorialized the battle fought in this country to legalize interracial marriage. The meme was created by me to show that legalizing interracial marriage in this nation… The right for black people to have their marital unions acknowledged for the love chosen, not limited by skin color, was fought and won by BLACK WOMEN AND WHITE MEN. I featured Pearl Bailey (who married Louis Belson in 1952), and Mildred and Richard Loving (who married in 1958). Both were instrumental in bringing the inequality of interracial marriage laws to the forefront of American politics; but Mildred and Richard took their battle for equality all the way to the top.
In case you are not familiar with the landmark case, here’s a brief history:
Loving v. Virginia, 388 U.S. 1 (1967), was a landmark civil rights decision of the United States Supreme Court which invalidated laws prohibiting interracial marriage.
The case was brought by Mildred Loving, a black woman, and Richard Loving, a white man, who had been sentenced to a year in prison in Virginia for marrying each other. Their marriage violated the state’s anti-miscegenation statute, the Racial Integrity Act of 1924, which prohibited marriage between people classified as “white” and people classified as “colored.” The Supreme Court’s unanimous decision held this prohibition was unconstitutional, overturning Pace v. Alabama (1883) and ending all race-based legal restrictions on marriage in the United States.
The decision was followed by an increase in interracial marriages in the U.S., and is remembered annually on Loving Day, June 12. It has been the subject of two movies as well as songs. Source.
As expected, several black women came along and criticized the meme for not displaying black men as being happy in interracial relationships. Rest assured, that was completely intentional.
Every single meme I’ve ever seen about interracial relationships featured black men and women of other races. They are all made by black men. Their goal is to try to hurt black women because the things they write in them are put downs of sistahs. All over airwaves, television, You Tube and on social media there are hundreds if not thousands of black men advocating that black males seek out women of other races because black women are no good, whores, not about them, etc. Their memes reflect that attitude. In other words, they don’t have pics of black women in them associated with anything loving, happy or joyful.
Therefore, I see no reason to do something to acknowledge them in my art when not one of the at least 300 memes I’ve viewed have done anything to uplift black women.
It never fails that there is always some soldering black woman that wants to put it on paper that she is about black men, and as I said, it was an expected response. That’s fine if you believe that because you are free to love, date, and marry whoever you please. But that option is one you CHOOSE. That works for YOU I guess, and if it does, that’s great. But you ladies and gents need to understand that not every black woman is all on that “black kang” shit. Not every black woman is going to limit her options for love based on paint job as you want to do. That doesn’t make her wrong or you either.. it just makes her different. People who expand their options, but maintain their standards are far more likely to get what they want – be it employment opportunities, a place to live, or a mate.
Bottom line, I made the meme I wanted to make. It presents the historical aspect of interracial relationships for black women, and the battle for legal acknowledgement of their right to love and marry the man they please. These are two sisters who jumped out there, took the heat of the world, and paved the way for us to have choices. Black women fought this battle and won — not black men!
So, if you want something else represented in a meme, have at it. My statement is represented by this one.
All black women. All love. All joy.
Deborrah
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Razzy blackcaesar The same is true with black men. Black men are the lowest married group hof men as well at only 30%. Every stat you say for the black women applies to the black men. But they also have some we don’t like lowest educated, lowest percentage of home owners, highest percentage of prison rates, highest percentage of drop out rates, shortage life span, but most black women got HIV and other stats from you guessed it black men. Black men have lowest percentage of child involved unlike black women they do not improve with women of different races they decrease. Your marriage rates are lower with other races. Black women have the lowest divorce rates with white men while black men have the highest with white women. So focus on why you cannot get and keep a quality women of any race. And what black men need to work on because there is plent
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blackcaesar Razzy Then I guess WW should be the least attractive then, because they as well have all types of colors in their hair. LOL Of course when they do it it’s not ghetto then huh
blackcaesar Razzy “I would rather be alone than in bad company. I discuss wretched hoes because I am person who is concerned with the well-being of the black community…”
Nah you discuss hoes because you want one for yourself and they don’t want you. If you’re so concerned about the black community DO something about it instead of running your mouth all the time talking about wretched hoes. That ain’t accomplishing nothing except you spewing hate and looking bitter and angry. And the fact that you think the only choice for you is a wretched hoe shows just what you think of yourself. You know you don’t have what it takes to pull a classy intelligent high self esteem woman because she’d sense something was dreadfully wrong with you.
And the ‘wretched hoe” doesn’t want you either, she’d rather be with lil Man and Rayray. So all you’re left to do is whine and rage and be horny lonely and corny.
blackcaesar Razzy Olivia Pope is a hair hatted-hooligan who doesn’t like herself (hence the weave) and I wouldn’t be attracted to someone who has no pride in her God-given hair.”
You do realize Olivia Pope is a fictional character don’t you. Dude come into the real world. And Kerry Washington is married to a hot rich NFL African Football player who gives scholarships to needy black children. She’s also 4 months pregnant by him. So she ain’t hardly sitting around suffering because you claim you don’t want her. Her hot football player likes her all over and he’s not sitting around worrying about a weave. Only gay males do that.
Jikka please! You would wet yourself if someone of Kerry Washington or an Olivia Pope type of woman glanced your way and smiled. You’d be running to all your buddies bragging about it. You just have sour grapes because you are corny and don’t have what it takes to pull a woman of that caliber. You are a ‘basic’ mediocre jealous hating black man. You and your boyfriend Tommy “Sodomy” are welcome to each other.
Razzy blackcaesar I would rather be alone than in bad company. I discuss wretched hoes because I am person who is concerned with the well-being of the black community and issues that effect it. That’s the whole point of Deb’s thing. I’m not on here to get into personal attacks, unlike yourself. I’m simply indulging in an exchange of ideas and having intellectual debate. Now, back to those wretched hoes. Those wretched hoes are a big part of what’s wrong with the black community as a whole. They keep breeding and need to be sterilized. Who cares about what kind of women I find appealing. I don’t spend any time wondering what kind of men appeal to you. Besides, I’m wretched hoe free, and happy to be that way. Also, women like that aren’t the only women with curves or a fatt butt. I mean you all need to get over yourselves. Black women are the number one consumers of butt implants.
blackcaesar Razzy “Quality hot attractive women are hard to find because they hardly exist!”
No they’re not hard to find, they just don’t want to be with the likes of YOU! But see, if you want a nice woman, I’m sure you could find one at your local church. Plenty of single women are in the church looking for a man, but I wouldn’t wish you on my worse enemy. That’s your problem right there. You claim to be this upstanding male, yet you look for a ‘hot attractive woman’. You’ll totally by pass a woman that may not be what the media portrays as ‘hot’ on TV but she would make a good mate. You are such a bullshit hypocrite. Since women outnumber men in college, there are plenty of attractive young educated women out there with bright futures ahead of them, but they don’t want no old 40 year old dried up misognistic fool like you.
blackcaesar Razzy Black women are the least married women in the U.S. because black males like to skeet and run and they don’t stick around and marry their baby mamas. If she’s good enough to make a baby with, then she’s good enough to marry.
Black men make poor mates for the most part because most of them are getting locked up between the ages of 18-35, the prime years of their lives. You want to assign all the blame on black women without looking at how black men as a collective are failing in the black community.
Black men are dropping out of high school in higher numbers, failing to get college degrees much less graduate degrees, they are on the streets slinging drugs, gang banging…Or… they are like you, have a fucked up attitude towards black women (you think black women are whores).
You condemn black women as being the bottom of the totem pole and label them as whores…why, women of other races have sex, yet you condemn black women for having sex.. That’s because no one wants to have sex with you.
And….further…. The only black women you seem to talk about are the women who don’t have an education, who are having babies, and on welfare. Why even discuss those women since they are not the type of women you want. But apparently you must want women like that because that’s all you talk about. If you were such a catch, you would have caught an attractive college educated woman by now, but women like that see right through you and find you ‘bottom of the barrel.. to be left alone.
Razzy blackcaesar Be honest with yourself. Explain why black women are the least married women in the U.S. It is only logical to conclude that it is because men don’t want to marry them. I mean that is a simple as it gets. I do not find most black women appealing. I find these women with all these crazy colors in their hair and their obesity to be apalling. That woman Rachel Gentel (Trayvon’s friend) who made a fool of herself on the stand is how I view a lot of black women. Now, of course, there are attractive, educated, class black women as there are in every race. I just think that there are fewer women like that in the black race. Well, I know that there are fewer women like that in the black race or the majority of black mothers wouldn’t be single parents. I don’t care if you have a doctorate from Harvard, in most instances, if your doing the hardest two person job in the world (being a parent) alone because you picked trifling jikka (as you like to write), then you couldn’t have good judgement at the least. My life doesn’t revolve around my penis and its satisfaction by the way any kind of woman doesn’t have to find me appealing. Your accustomed to dealing with black men whose entire sense of identity revolves around how many women they have sex with. I’m not that guy thank god, or I would have baby momma drama.
Razzy blackcaesar Quality hot attractive women are hard to find because they hardly exist! Something like 80% of black women are obese. Oh sure, that makes this group of women really hot. Your ridiculous and delusional to suggest that there are a lot of high caliber black women, when 72% of black births are out of wedlock. That statistic alone screams “hoodrat” to me. I’m an attractive man thank you. I have standards, not a nasty funky attitude. Black women are infamous for the latter by the way, which is why you all are the least married women in the country. I mean I could see if it were just black men not marrying you, but it’s not like Latino, white or Asian men are marrying you either. Olivia Pope is a hair hatted-hooligan who doesn’t like herself (hence the weave) and I wouldn’t be attracted to someone who has no pride in her God-given hair. I don’t date women with kids or ghetto gaggers, so that last sentence doesn’t apply to me, only men with low or no standards in terms of the women they will date and have sex with.