Friends with Benefits, Booty Calls and Bed Buddy Dating Relationships
What do you think of friends with benefits dating relationships?
A 35 year old female reader of this blog weights in on friends with benefits relationships:
I am not ashamed to say that I recently participated in a friends with benefits (FWB) relationship. The guy didn’t want a serious relationship. I believe that he just didn’t want a serious relationship with me. He was fun and we had similar backgrounds and he pretty much treated me like a girlfriend. I met someone else and decided to pursue something with someone who possibly wants to take me seriously.
Now, the friends with benefits dude says I tried to hurt him by pursuing the new guy and doesn’t want to speak to me..ever…not even cordially. This guy didn’t want anything serious with me..and believed that I didn’t have my sh&t together & even stated that I wasn’t conventionally pretty(something that I know)..but I supposedly tried to hurt HIS feelings.
I am okay with never speaking to him again because it needed to end it, but I now see how these friends with benefits sorts of things end on a sour note, especially for the over 30 crowd. I realize that I was too old to participate in something like that.
Friends with Benefits Discussion Questions
- Have you ever been involved in a friends with benefits relationship (and we use that term “relationship” very loosely)?
- Why do singles enter into FWB/friends with benefits relationships?
- Do FWB types of situations always end badly from your experience?
- Have you ever seen a friends with benefits relationship blossom into love and commitment?
- Are friends with benefits pairings different for women than they are for men? Does this vary by age group or life experience?
- Is there any time in a person’s life when he or she should definitely NOT consider a friends with benefits pairing?
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