The Decline in Black Marriages… Is Marriage for Educated White People?

. 01/25/2010 . 2 Comments


Another factor to consider is that college-educated women are only a minority of all younger females, and college educated men are an even smaller minority of all younger men. So when you look at the dating pool, the group with the much higher percentage amongst younger citizens is the noncollege educated market.

For non-college women, marriage is becoming the exception rather than the rule, and this applies to women of all races. Their mating pool consists mainly of non-college men. And noncollege men are not attractive as prospective husbands for reasons that are already familiar and which were discussed on the show: Their inability to support a wife and financially sustain the expenses of a family has been declining for more than 30 years. These men are increasingly reluctant to take on the commitment to marry in the first place, which contributes across the board to the high number of children being raised in homes with no father, a statistic which is at epidemic levels in the Black community.

These are the facts.

What I didn’t get was why there was so much animosity expressed towards women that sought higher education for themselves as well as in their partners? Since having an education has been proven to be the foundation upon which a married couple can achieve economic stability and growth, why were these Brothas so resistant to the suggestion?

Instead of being angry at women for wanting a man with education and rejecting suitors with only a high-school diploma, shouldn’t these guys instead enroll in school and BECOME THE MAN WOMEN ARE SEEKING?

Ralph Richard Banks

Ralph Richard Banks is a professor at Stanford Law School and the author of the forthcoming book, “Is Marriage for White People?” which you can follow on Facebook or on Twitter.

The report by the Pew Research Center identifies a fundamental reconfiguration of marriage: As a consequence of increased education and greater access to high-paying jobs, wives are more likely than ever before to earn more and to be better educated than their husbands.

If the African-American experience is any guide, the shifting relative status of men and women may portend a threat to the universality and centrality of marriage.


The increased percentage of wives who outearn their husbands signals the advent of more egalitarian marriages, a development that we should applaud. But if the experience of African Americans is any guide, the shifting relative status of men and women may also portend a threat to the stability and centrality of marriage in American society. The lingering discomfort among the couple, friends or family with role reversal marriages is not the only or even primary difficulty in such relationships.

As I have discovered in the course of research for my forthcoming book, dramatic disparities in earnings and education often signify differences in values, a divide that is deeper and more intractable than any rift created simply by the fact that her paycheck is bigger than his. Attitudes toward education, how to spend money, goals for one’s children, even leisure time activities — all reflect values that are shaped in part by one’s educational experiences and professional environment.

Among African Americans, the group most likely to have role reversal marriages, such relationships often are conflict-ridden and more likely to end in divorce than marriages where the partners are more economically and educationally compatible. That role reversal marriages among African Americans have not worked is reflected, in part, in the fact that black married couples across the socioeconomic spectrum are more likely to divorce, by far, than any other group.

The Pew report identifies another consequence of the economic and educational ascendance of women relative to men: the decline in marriage. This change too is more stark among African Americans. While white Americans are much less likely to be married now than in 1970, what is most striking is that black women are only half as likely as white women to be married. According to the Pew Report fewer than 1/3 of black women between 30-44 years old are married.

Middle class black women are more unmarried than at any time since slavery and, as a result, have fewer children than any other group of women in our society.


The African American marriage decline is not limited to the poor or economically marginal. Middle class black women are more unmarried than at any time since slavery and, as a result, have fewer children than any other group of women in our society. Black men too, including those who are the best educated and most financially secure, are more likely than ever to be unmarried.

The causes of these shifts are complicated, and their consequences for African Americans far-reaching. They also highlight a question that implicates us all: whether marriage will remain a bedrock social institution or whether African Americans are the canary in the coal mine heralding not just the reconfiguration but the re-evaluation of marriage itself, the slow withering away of what we have always assumed to be a universal institution.

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Deborrah

Veteran social researcher, relationship advice columnist, author and radio host. Author of hundreds of articles on American and black culture, gender issues, singles, dating and relationships. Author of "Sucka Free Love!" , "The 24 Types of Suckas to Avoid," "The Black Church - Where Women Pray and Men Pray," and "Why Vegan is the New Black" all available on Amazon.Com. Her unique voice and insightful commentary have delighted fans and riled haters for 20 years. Read her stuff on SurvivingDating.Com and AskHeartBeat.Com.

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