The Decline in Black Marriages… Is Marriage for Educated White People?

. 01/25/2010 . 2 Comments

Last week I did two shows on Black women and their desire to marry a man with a college degree.  The first show (on Wednesday January 20th), was based on a PEW Research Center report New Economics of Marriage – The Rise of Wives which stated that more men are now marrying women who make more money than they do, mainly because there are more high-income women to go around. In 1970, just 4% of men ages 30 to 44 had wives who brought in more loot than they did. By 2007, however, more than a fifth (22%) of men in that age bracket had wives who outearned them. Members of this thriving demographic are effectively doubling their income or more when they marry, without doubling their costs.  For these couples, marriage is a huge “come up.”

The PEW numbers also show that marriage rates have declined most among the least educated men and women, which helps explain why the median household income figures for married men have pulled even further ahead of those for their single counterparts. In essence, more of the brokest and uneducated folks are single than before.

The study, which drew on household income data from the Decennial Census and the 2007 American Community Survey, conducted annually by the U.S. Census Bureau, showed that the biggest gainers were married college-educated men. The biggest losers were unmarried men who did not complete high school or who only had a high school diploma.

After adjusting for inflation, the 2007 cohort had lower household incomes than their 1970 counterparts. “The steeper decline in marriage among the less educated has contributed to a steeper decline in their income,” says one of the study’s authors, D’Vera Cohn.

Interestingly, the divorce rate is getting lower among college-educated high-income couples, while unmarried low-income men and women tend to partner up and then uncouple more rapidly.

“This leads to family instability and a cycle of disadvantage,” says Dalton Conley, social sciences dean at New York University. “Single parents often have trouble moving ahead in their careers, while low-earning parents have little income to save or invest. They fall further behind, while the families with two college-educated earners pull ever more ahead.”

Sociologists refer to the phenomenon of people marrying people who are like them as homogamy. Doctors don’t marry nurses anymore. They marry other doctors.

So you caught that I did TWO shows, right?  The first one – Why Black Men Criticize Black Women With Dating Standards was followed up on Friday January 22, 2010 by Black Men, College, Dating and Relationships.

The reason for doing two shows was that we ran out of time!  There were more than 100 people in the chatroom and on the phone, and there was just not enough time to take all the calls.  Listeners clamored for a part two so we could continue the discussion and delve more fully into the reasons for the anger expressed by Black male callers and chatters.

Repeatedly we heard them complain that Black women seeking to marry a man with a similar level of education to their own was shallow and the reason there were so many single Black women. These fellas ranted and raved that Black women had standards that were too high, unrealistic, and that they should instead of focusing on “a piece of paper” look at the character of the man and his “potential.”

Hmmm.

Prisons and street corners are full of men with “potential” dude. Women of marrying age, that have done the hard work and sacrificed to put themselves through the rigors of college want and deserve to see proof that you are on the ball, not just running your mouth.

The disgruntled male callers failed to understand that choosing a partner and being compatible is based on a lot more than niceness or potential!  As explained below, lifestyle choices also change as we are exposed to higher learning and broader experiences.  They long for the days when women “knew their roles” and men were the unchallenged rulers of all they surveyed. These fellas poo-pooed the notion that an educated, accomplished woman would not see them as marriage material and would pass them by, no matter how “nice” a guy he may believe himself to be.

After all, research indicates that equality in a number of areas is associated with today’s successful relationships: similar background, social class and educational level among them. Respect for each other easily flows when these things roughly match. When one partner feels superior to the other for no reason other than the fact he has testicles, problems in that relationship will invariably occur, most likely culminating in divorce.

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Deborrah

Veteran social researcher, relationship advice columnist, author and radio host. Author of hundreds of articles on American and black culture, gender issues, singles, dating and relationships. Author of "Sucka Free Love!" , "The 24 Types of Suckas to Avoid," "The Black Church - Where Women Pray and Men Pray," and "Why Vegan is the New Black" all available on Amazon.Com. Her unique voice and insightful commentary have delighted fans and riled haters for 20 years. Read her stuff on SurvivingDating.Com and AskHeartBeat.Com.

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