Deborrah
Veteran social researcher, relationship advice columnist, author and radio host. Author of hundreds of articles on American and black culture, gender issues, singles, dating and relationships. Author of "Sucka Free Love!" , "The 24 Types of Suckas to Avoid," "The Black Church - Where Women Pray and Men Pray," and "Why Vegan is the New Black" all available on Amazon.Com. Her unique voice and insightful commentary have delighted fans and riled haters for 20 years. Read her stuff on SurvivingDating.Com and AskHeartBeat.Com.
Deborrah's Latest Posts
Change the Game: The Art of Dressing Well for Women
You never get a second chance to make a first impression. Follow the story of how a 20-something young woman learned the art of dressing well for women, and markedly changed both her social and professional path in just seven days.
Black males really do hate black women, and here’s the proof!
Black men hate black women. Everywhere is proof that black men don’t give a shit whether you live or die, and in too many instances will hurt or kill you without hesitation, just because they feel like it or find themselves in a bad mood. They even side with abusive men and white cops against you.
There is No Such Thing as a Trans Woman
In my mind there is no such thing as a trans woman, there are real women born with vaginas, and there are men born with penises who suffer from an affliction called autogynephilia. Feel free to do your own research and discover the issues on the table and the very real challenges and threats women face from men who want to eradicate and replace you socially, sexually, and legally.
The 13 Types of Men a Woman Should Never Marry
Seeing the “potential” in a man is great – if you’re 16. As an adult, what you see is what you get, and no amount of loving support or encouragement will change a man from the man he is to the man you’d like to imagine he can be. If you’re a single woman of the mind that you want a marriage to a great husband, be sure to keep an eye out for these 13 types of high risk dating partners who should NEVER advance to become husbands.
The Law of Attraction is Stupid
Popular amongst those looking for direction and guidance to a better life, the Law of Attraction made millions for those promoting it. But when the Law of Attraction is used to blame victims for their pain and suffering by saying “well you attracted it/him/that experience” you are wrong and you are stupid.
Ramp Up Your Health with 11 Foods That Boost the Immune System
How can you boost your immune system — the bodily functions that fight bacteria, viruses and disease — and give yourself the best opportunity to stay healthy through the winter cold and flu season? This article provides some answers.
Disgusting List of Blacks Killed by Police 2014-Present
We must stop wasting time fighting each other and get it together. Mobilize, organize, politicize, and strategize. Start with how to take back your block, your neighborhood, your city, your county, and your state from racist police. Get people out to vote and replace Mayor’s, District Attorneys, City Councilmen, Supervisors and anyone else whose agenda is not in your best interest. Make sure those who are in office are not in league with the police union and that they will make sure any cop who does not perform to the standard expected is terminated immediately.
Shopping for Men is Just Like Shopping for Shoes
You’ll see them squeezing their toes into the ill fitting shoe they think is so cute, tiptoeing around some strange gait, or walking barefoot with bunions corns and blisters on their feet because they refused to keep shopping until they find a shoe that fit perfectly. The same mentality women have about shopping for shoes is often the same one they have about shopping for a man.
During a break up my girl slept with one of my friends… how do I get over it?
A young man is anguished by the mental vision of his ex girlfriend being intimate with a friend she dated during a long break up, and seeks advice on how to move past his jealousy.
10 Texting Rules for Dating Singles – Texting Guidelines and Dating Etiquette
Text messaging isn’t necessarily a tool of the devil, but there can be quite a bit of misinterpretation and miscommunication if you don’t follow texting rules. Texting is a great way to stay connected to someone you are madly in love with, and a useful tool to touch base with casual or new dating partners. Ten great texting rules for proper dating etiquette for singles.
My Friend Went Back to Her Abusive Ex
A concerned friend writes to Ms. HeartBeat, asking what if anything she should say to a dear friend who rekindled a relationship with an abusive ex who now seems hell bent on controlling her every move.
How You Have a Thug Kitchen When You’re a White Boy from the Valley?
This week it all came out. Like a scab being ripped off a sore, the ugly truth about Thug Kitchen has been revealed and charges of racism, cultural appropriation and general stupidity have been levied at the two site owners who have hidden like cowards and failed to address the conflict.
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