Deborrah
Veteran social researcher, relationship advice columnist, author and radio host. Author of hundreds of articles on American and black culture, gender issues, singles, dating and relationships. Author of "Sucka Free Love!" , "The 24 Types of Suckas to Avoid," "The Black Church - Where Women Pray and Men Pray," and "Why Vegan is the New Black" all available on Amazon.Com. Her unique voice and insightful commentary have delighted fans and riled haters for 20 years. Read her stuff on SurvivingDating.Com and AskHeartBeat.Com.
Deborrah's Latest Posts
Domestic Violence and Dating Abuse
If you’ve endured abuse – punching, slapping, kicking, choking, arm twisting, forced intercourse, threats of violence to you, your pets or your children, hair pulling etc. by a romantic partner, friend, family member or stranger, please share your story.
The Black Church: How Black Churches Keep African American Women Single and Lonely
Single Black women sit in church every Sunday being brainwashed and placated into waiting for love. The true reason that there are so many single, never married Black women in the U.S. is the Black church which promotes female submission and subjugation to men, to the detriment of female achievement and happiness.
My Boyfriend Cheated and Got Another Woman Pregnant
How can a boyfriend of seven years who cheated and got another woman pregnant ever think he and the woman he cheated on “work things out?”
Twelve Reasons Side Chicks Are Smarter Than Wives or Girlfriends
When you are married or in a relationship and your man cheats with a side chick, it makes YOU a side chick too. So don’t be getting all high and mighty, thinking you are better than the next broad because you have a ring and his last name. Understand that he doesn’t give any more fucks about YOU and that ring he gave you, or the relationship you two have than he does about HER… both of y’all are side chicks.
Moving Past the Fuckery of Black Women and BWE
The BWE movement (Black Women’s Empowerment) is filled with black women who continue to hang onto a need for validation, acceptance and acknowledgement by black men. I believe it is a twisted need to feel something… anything… including pain.
Relationship Research Survey: Important Questions I Should Have Asked
Have you regretted not getting vital information and asking important questions before getting involved in a relationship? “Hindsight is 20/20” as the saying goes, but asking the right questions means we’ll get the right answers and possibly save ourselves from unnecessary heartache.
Black Men Be All Up in Their Feelings Like Women
Modern black men be all up in their feelings like women, whining about the things black women say on social media and demanding that women specify SOME black men when she is critical of black male behaviors.
Day 20 – 40 Days of Rain on DBR Black Men: Murdering Black Women for Shits and Giggles
Why do black men feel it is okay to kill a woman because they feel rejected, are angry, depressed, feel hopeless, etc.? What is the motivating factor behind such a mentality towards the very women they claim to love? Why is the black community filled with so many immature men incapable of handling their feelings in some sort of sane manner?
40 Days of Rain on DBR Black Men – Black Males Obsessed With Ghetto Baby Mamas
It’s not the thug dudes who are obsessed with ShaQuanisha, it’s these so called “good black men” who live, sleep and dream about her. It’s clear that these “good black men” strongly and passionately desire ShaQuanisha — that’s why they talk about her so much.
Black Men, Low Expectations and Embracing Mediocrity
Young black men are in a crisis and falling behind educationally, economically, emotionally and socially. Why are their expectations for themselves so low? Why is there such a willingness to settle for mediocrity instead of striving to achieve greatness head and shoulders above the crowd?
Big Booty, Onion Booty, Phat Booty, Bubble Butt
Butts are the IN thing. Single women who believe they don’t measure up in the butt department are going through some pretty drastic measures to get the booty they feel will make them more competitive in the dating game. But many of the things women do to get the perfect butt involves expensive, sometimes life-threatening procedures.
Black Women With White Men Interracial Relationships
Why did black women get upset when I created a meme showing happy, loved black women in interracial relationships with Asian, white and Latino men, and come soldiering along to rally for black men to get equal time?
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