Deborrah
Veteran social researcher, relationship advice columnist, author and radio host. Author of hundreds of articles on American and black culture, gender issues, singles, dating and relationships. Author of "Sucka Free Love!" , "The 24 Types of Suckas to Avoid," "The Black Church - Where Women Pray and Men Pray," and "Why Vegan is the New Black" all available on Amazon.Com. Her unique voice and insightful commentary have delighted fans and riled haters for 20 years. Read her stuff on SurvivingDating.Com and AskHeartBeat.Com.
Deborrah's Latest Posts
Narcissistic Personality Disorder in the Black Community
Narcissistic Personality Disorder is characterized by long standing patterns of lack of empathy towards others, a need to be fawned over, and a belief in their innate superiority. With Black males demanding submission by women and having no sympathy to women’s plights, how many Black men can be identified as suffering from this mental illness?
No Such Thing as a Traditional Marriage Anymore
As the world changes, so does our concept of marriage, equality of races, women’s roles in society, and women’s roles in marriage. With that in mind, is there such a thing as “a traditional marriage” anymore?
Daughter Was Fighting at School
When your daughter gets punched in the face at school after defending herself from a boy’s attack, is it right for her to be punished?
What Black Women Need to Be Happy
Black women are tired of hearing Black men say that we are bitter, unhappy, or that we alone are responsible for the high numbers of single family homes and fatherless children. We’re not. Black women are tired of the bullshit, the blaming, the failure of men to step up to take responsibility for the mistakes they’ve made. We, just like women of other races, deserve to have a decent, loving, committed and honorable man in our arms. We deserve wonderful fathers for our children. We deserve to have respectful Black men be our husbands as well our lovers. Where are these men?
Sexual Double Standards and The Virtuous Woman
Black men pass down, from generation to generation a mentality that judges and condemns women based on what has happened with one part of her body. When are men going to grow up?
Can Church Help a Cheating Alcoholic Change?
With his marriage in shambles, an alcoholic cheating husband takes to church and religion – but will that really help long-term?
Should Black Women Feel Sorry for Kris Humphries? Hell to the Naw!
Noting the double standard in which allows Black men to judge the sexual behaviors and number of partners of Black women harshly, while completely ignoring the sexual past of White women. What’s that all about?
Men Are All The Same
Men are all the same. They like to believe they are special and unique, but reality is rules and guidelines for “manhood” are so rigid that men are actually all the same.
Dating Tips for Single Women: Men Must Pay For Dates
Many women feel guilty about a man paying for their dates; others don’t want to feel obligated in any way. But if you like a guy, refusing to allow him the opportunity to pamper you means you’re keeping him at arms length emotionally.
Dating Tips for Men: Top 10 Ways to Know She’s Not Feeling You
Sometimes a woman’s lack of interest is obvious to your friends, your family, even Stevie Wonder. Everyone can see that she’s not interested BUT you!
How to Wear UGG Boots
UGG boots are seen as ugly by many, but properly worn they can be a warm and functional fashion accessory. Here are a few tips on how to wear UGG boots, as well as how not to.
Dating and Relationships – Are Most Black Men Sociopaths?
How many men exhibit the traits and attitudes of sociopaths towards women? Shockingly, it appears that the cheating, abusiveness, controlling attitudes and manipulative behaviors of men in relationships is straight out of the sociopath’s handbook!
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