Interracial Dating: Black Women with Trifling White Men

. 09/28/2011 . 18 Comments

Think about it for a minute… what nonprofit that works with children and families wants a Director that six years ago had her tits on full display with her tongue licked out at the camera? What prestigious corporation do you think would want to put you in a public position knowing you were on Facebook bragging about your blowjob skills? What up and coming business would risk having their clients or members find you online, bent over showing your ass, or talking about the three-some you had last weekend?

The same applies if you meet a guy offline that is curious about you. He’ll be curious and want to know more about you, so he’ll run your name through Google and see what comes up. He’ll visit Facebook, Twitter and all the other social media sites looking to see how you conduct yourself online. He’ll want to know how you think and if he can get any clues into how he can better relate to you.

His intent may be totally innocent… he wants to know you better. However, before things get serious he’ll be looking for assurance that you are cool and solid, someone it is safe to invest emotions in. After all, he doesn’t want his sisters and brothers, nieces and nephews going online trying to find you, only to see your ass and titty shots online! Neither does he want his buddies to see you on full display like that. By the way, this worry applies to men of ALL races by the way, not just men in interracial relationships.

You ladies risk losing out on great opportunities a few years from now because of silly choices you’re making now.

Black Women – Get it Together!

Young Black women need to think about the long-term repercussions of their behavior, and stop acting a fool online! I can’t figure out who told you all that this type of thing is appropriate behavior for a young woman, but whoever did needs some sense slapped into them.

Stop copying what other idiots do. Just because your friends or some other women you know have their tits and ass on display online doesn’t mean you have to do it too!  And in case you think I am a prude, I am not. I am fully in favor of women enjoying their sexuality in a manner that protects and respects both themselves and their loved ones. However, I am adamant that women use discretion and understand the importance of keeping their sexual business, THEIR BUSINESS.

There is no reason for every man woman and child that happens by your posting or blog to know intimate details about your sexuality or body.

Come on now! THINK girls! You are all caught up in the moment and thinking this shit you do online is fun. It’s not fun, and it’s not funny to let White men come at you in some freaky “get my Black freak on” way.  They are treating you like a freaky fetish fantasy, and you are supporting and encouraging that behavior with your actions. Stop it. Respect yourself more than that.

Demand that men Black or White respect you as well. Watch what you do and say online. It could come back and bite you in the butt later.

Deborrah

Veteran social researcher, relationship advice columnist, author and radio host. Author of hundreds of articles on American and black culture, gender issues, singles, dating and relationships. Author of "Sucka Free Love!" , "The 24 Types of Suckas to Avoid," "The Black Church - Where Women Pray and Men Pray," and "Why Vegan is the New Black" all available on Amazon.Com. Her unique voice and insightful commentary have delighted fans and riled haters for 20 years. Read her stuff on SurvivingDating.Com and AskHeartBeat.Com.

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