Category: Women’s Issues
Single Black Men Insist on Open Marriages?
An advice seeker asked me to explain the reasons why so many young Black men are insisting that their prospective bride agree to an open marriage – or there will be no wedding.
When He Won’t Take ‘No!’ for an Answer
No! is a complete sentence and easy enough that anyone should understand its meaning. Yet when told “No!” by a female, most men’s response is not “okay then” but instead “well, why not?” or “how come you said no?” or “you don’t mean it!” or “but you’ll like it if you try it.” Such responses put females on the defensive and are nothing but denials of a woman’s right to say “NO!” and be taken seriously.
WTF Are You Having That Nothing Ass Man’s Baby For?
Being a mother comes with huge financial responsibilities as well as mental/emotional obligations. Providing food, clothing and shelter is just the tip of the iceberg. Children brought up in broken family units or one that has only one parent in it right from the start, tend to have more social and behavioral problems as compared to those who were raised by both parents. Statistics show that individuals, who are single parents are more likely to live in poverty, especially “baby mommas”, as they tend to be younger and less educated.
Beware of the Misogynist Hidden in ‘Advice Guru’ Sheep’s Clothing
Ladies, watch out for men that present themselves as saviors and advisors for Black women. They blame the black woman for the demise of the black community, sexual promiscuity, single parent homes, fatherless children and for everything negative they can think of when it comes to the breakdown in relations between black women and men without assigning any accountability to the black man.
You are NOT in a Relationship and He is NOT Your Man!
Women write the “Dear Ms. HeartBeat” advice column frequently, seeking help understanding why their latest “relationship” went sour. Most times after digesting the facts, it’s clear as the nose on your face that there WAS no relationship at all. Therefore, the writer’s expectations of fidelity, commitment or involvement were totally misplaced. In other words, don’t get [...]
Mind Over Emotion: The Woes of Loving the Intellectual Man
My advice to women is if you are with men who come from the intellectual ivory tower, mentality you may find someone who lacks feelings/emotions and ability to make emotional connections. They are emotionally walled off (to varying degrees some more than others). Depending on the severity of their emotional disconnect, they can break your heart as they never put the emotion into the relationship that you do. Women often feel drained dry.
Cons of Marriage – Why Women Should Not Get Married
Why is it that professional, educated Black women aren’t married like White women are? Why do Black men feel Black women didn’t know how to get and keep a man? Women should not get married. Marriage is basically a bullshit mind game played on women for generations. Until a woman is married and gets first hand experience, most do not understand that being a free maid, cook, breeding stock and social secretary is not a goal to strive to achieve. Marriage is for chumps and suckas!
10 Things Women Do That Drive Men Away
The ten item list contained in this article may anger many women. This isn’t a list of complaints, it’s information intended to provide women with insight into what men are thinking; it’s a bridge across the communication gap. After all, without straight and candid communication, we can’t solve the issues that threaten to end so many relationships. Use these ten issues as a starting point for a dialogue with your husband, the man in your life, or a male friend. Such an open discussion will give you even more insight and help to improve your relationship.
Why Women Should Stop Having Children
My lobby against women having children has begun. You ladies limit your options when you are saddled down with some knucklehead’s child. You give him power over you to drag you into court, something to threaten to take from you, something he can hurt in a twisted attempt to hurt you. When you have children and are raising them alone, you will end up broke and tied down. You cannot go out and have fun anymore because you have responsibilities. You end up overwhelmed, frustrated, and often viewed by other men as being unworthy of being anything more than a roll in the hay because now you are “used goods.”
Why Weak Men Want Submissive Women
The brainwashing of females by men in their lives as fathers and pastors, deacons and ministers is complete when women make statements that women should be submissive to men because it is a woman’s nature. It is not in a woman’s “nature” to be anything but great and powerful self-actualizing citizens of the world. Yet various cultures and religions have limited female options and choices based strictly on gender. Women of today, their mothers, and their mother’s mothers have all been socialized by men to believe that men are superior and that women should subjugate themselves to males. But that is nothing but a lie.
What Black Women Need to Be Happy
Black women are tired of hearing Black men say that we are bitter, unhappy, or that we alone are responsible for the high numbers of single family homes and fatherless children. We’re not. Black women are tired of the bullshit, the blaming, the failure of men to step up to take responsibility for the mistakes they’ve made. We, just like women of other races, deserve to have a decent, loving, committed and honorable man in our arms. We deserve wonderful fathers for our children. We deserve to have respectful Black men be our husbands as well our lovers. Where are these men?
Shopping for Men is Just Like Shopping for Shoes!
There are two kinds of women in this world – those that love to shop, and those that don’t. I have a friend (let’s call her Della which I borrowed from my Dell monitor), that loves shopping… the excitement of going from store to store, haggling for the best price at flea markets and outlet [...]
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