When Black Men Bring Up Butthurt and Bitches from the Past
Manipulative Shit Black Men Say to Make Black Women Jump Through Hoops
Episode #5: Bringing Up Butthurt and Bitches from the Past
In this video (episode number five of the series), I discuss the po’ lil ole me game clownass men run to get you to tap into your emotions and attach yourself to him, believing he needs your nurturing and support, your devotion and your love to get over the pain and mistreatment he allegedly had to endure from women in his past.
His goal? To control your behavior towards him, and manipulate you with jealousy into bending over backwards and jumping through hoops to prove that you aren’t like those other bitches who hurt him. He has set you up to be in competition with his past, so you (unaware of the game) commence to doing too much to prove that you’re better, more down, a serious ride or die chick that knows how to treat a man! You’re thinking:
- You want him to trust women again (since he said he can’t) – and you especially want him to trust YOU.
- You want him to stop talking about the women from his past who he claims hurt him.
- You want him to give you his full undivided attention and his heart, though he says it’s “hard because I’ve been so hurt.”
- You want to prove to him how good life with YOU can be.
While you are working hard on your “recovery project” you’re not noticing that you aren’t getting much out of the relationship… instead you’re doing all the giving.
What you really are is someone who just got set up to accept mere crumbs, ask for nothing, and take nonsense because you are in competition with female ghosts from his past, or women in the present he pits you against to make you feel jealous and insecure.
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Deborrah
Veteran social researcher, relationship advice columnist, author and radio host. Author of hundreds of articles on American and black culture, gender issues, singles, dating and relationships. Author of "Sucka Free Love!" , "The 24 Types of Suckas to Avoid," "The Black Church - Where Women Pray and Men Pray," and "Why Vegan is the New Black" all available on Amazon.Com. Her unique voice and insightful commentary have delighted fans and riled haters for 20 years. Read her stuff on SurvivingDating.Com and AskHeartBeat.Com.
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