Deborrah
Veteran social researcher, relationship advice columnist, author and radio host. Author of hundreds of articles on American and black culture, gender issues, singles, dating and relationships. Author of "Sucka Free Love!" , "The 24 Types of Suckas to Avoid," "The Black Church - Where Women Pray and Men Pray," and "Why Vegan is the New Black" all available on Amazon.Com. Her unique voice and insightful commentary have delighted fans and riled haters for 20 years. Read her stuff on SurvivingDating.Com and AskHeartBeat.Com.
Deborrah's Latest Posts
The True Path to a Man’s Heart
Women make the mistake of being so giving, so loving, so pleasing, so sweet and gentle to men all the time thinking that is the key to his heart and making him love them more. In reality that shit bores men out of their minds!
Dating and Jealousy… Why Bother Being Jealous?
Controlling, jealous, possessive behaviors have no place in loving relationships; and neither does disrespectful flirting, threatening your partner with abandonment, or cheating. When you truly believe that you deserve to have someone that loves you just as you are, and believe that anyone would be lucky to have you in their corner, you won’t get jealous. You won’t feel threatened by people that try to get at your lover, because you are confident that your mate is truly all about you.
Breeding the Next Generation of Slaves and Profit for Private Prisons
The African American community has the highest rate in the U.S. of single parent homes. Statistically speaking, the children of single parents are at greatest risk of sexual and physical abuse, child rape, and child murder. Abduction into sex slavery is also a concern for these children.
Are Parents REQUIRED to Help Adult Children?
Advice seeker is a single Mom of two toddlers, about to graduate who wonders why her mother won’t allow her to move in for awhile to help ease her burden. Deb explains in detail why the choices we make as adults and the repercussions of those choices are ours and only ours to bear.
Pastor John Gray and Aventer Gray: The Burden of a Build-a-Man Project
From my perspective after listening to Pastor John Gray’s interview on TV ONE, anyone who listens to Pastor John Gray, an admittedly confused and broken man, who depends upon this lost male for spiritual guidance, is seriously in need of a reality check. Such individuals also would appear to have less confidence and belief in themselves, and lower self esteem than Pastor John Gray has in himself.
Properly Vetting Men: Deborrah Cooper’s How To Guide for Vetting Men
Every young woman of marriageable age looking for love MUST know the process of vetting men, and refuse to rush into anything without vetting him thoroughly first. Advice columnist Deborrah Cooper sets out in detail the process for properly vetting men, eliminating those with incompatibilities before you get hurt.
Controlling Your Emotions – Why Women Must Stop Making Life Choices Based on FEELINGS
Advice columnist Deborrah Cooper points out the many ways women make poor choices about men and life, based on their FEELINGS instead of using logic and reason. She guides the listeners of this Tough Topic Thursday discussion to take a look at emotion-based decision making and how it can be detrimental to success and goal achievement.
Why Are Single Black Women ALWAYS Told to Settle?
An allegedly professional matchmaker goes in on single women telling them they need to sign on to “build a boo” and that their standards are unrealistic and unreasonable. Dating expert Deborrah Cooper of SurvivingDating.Com counters with a solid argument on why single black women settling for less than what they want in a man is the wrong move to make.
Hypergamy – Why Are MGTOW Men Angry that Women Opt to Marry Up?
Women who operate with hypergamy in mind are much more pragmatic than romantic. They are not easily gamed on and not easily manipulated with threats and fear of singleness. A hypergamous woman looks for a man who is going to provide stability, make her life easier, make her children’s life better, be interesting, fun, sexy, exciting, and who wants what she wants out of life.
Webinar Series on Dating and Relationships with Deborrah Cooper
Attend a free webinar with Deborrah Cooper (aka Ms. HeartBeat) on the second Saturday of each month through 2017. Participants will have the chance to discuss hot issues in black culture, dating, relationship violence and abuse, the games men play, better partner communication, and lots more. Register today.
Black Girls and Pimp Game Run by Black Males
Today I watched a sad piece of life unfold as two young black girls were exposed to pimp game spit at them by a young black male already adept at coercion and verbal manipulation. Black women need to do more to educate black girls on these types of mind games.
Relationships Webcam Show – WHAT HE SAID, WHAT SHE SAID
What He Said …What She Said Gender Perspectives on Male/Female Relationships Sharing perspectives during a conversation with Quincy, host of Talk2Q about male/female relationships. We have two topics slated for examination during this discussion: (1) Why all the constant back and forth blaming each other instead of looking within? (2) Why single men and women […]
New Comments