Research survey on the predatory behaviors of men within our nation’s religious institutions. Instead of worshipping God, women/children are viewed as prey by child molesters and opportunists.
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Richelle Carey of CNN’s Headline News interviews author Deborrah Cooper on how the Black church keeps Black women single and lonely. Click to listen!
Women need to stop trying to be “good girls” and instead stand up for their rights when it comes to dating. Tell men straight up: “hey, I am dating around to find the right fit. You might be that guy, but until I spend more time with you and get to know you better, I am going to continue dating a few guys. You should do the same.”
If he says “I love you” many females think they have a dream come true. In reality if he really wanted to be with you as a family man he would be doing things very differently. A man that loves and respects you does not set you up for the Dumb Baby Momma Okey Doke.
Black men consistently blame women for the babies born out of wedlock, charging that black women should “close their legs” and whining that men have no power to decide anything about a pregnancy. Do they forget that women can’t get pregnant by themselves? Why do Black men refuse to take ownership of their choices, bodies and semen, attempting instead to place that responsibility on women?
Reverend Al Sharpton and I sat down this week to discuss my controversial article on The Black Church and how black churches work hard to keep Black women single and lonely and under the thumb of preachers around the country.
I’m tired of hearing Black men whine that they aren’t ready to be a father and that he shouldn’t have to pay child support for a kid he didn’t want. Look here fool… if you are having sex bare with a woman you know is fertile, you are ready to be a father whether you affirm it vocally or not. Actions speak louder than words. You are doing everything it takes to become a father, right? So what are you talking about you ain’t ready?
It really doesn’t matter why a man is verbally or psychologically abusive towards females, nor does it matter if the undercover abuse is purposeful or not, the damage to a woman’s self esteem and emotional stability if she listens to that bullshit is exactly the same, and it can be quite considerable.
We’ve been together 7 months, but recently a woman he dated for only 2 weeks sent an email to say she is pregnant with his child. Help! Do I stay or go?