Veteran social researcher, relationship advice columnist, author and radio host. Author of hundreds of articles on American and black culture, gender issues, singles, dating and relationships. Author of "Sucka Free Love!" , "The 24 Types of Suckas to Avoid," "The Black Church - Where Women Pray and Men Pray," and "Why Vegan is the New Black" all available on Amazon.Com. Her unique voice and insightful commentary have delighted fans and riled haters for 20 years. Read her stuff on SurvivingDating.Com and AskHeartBeat.Com.

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Black Men – How to Love a Black Woman

. 10/28/2010 . 16 Comments

A sad young man reflects on the errors he made in his former relationship and shares his newfound understanding to help other men avoid making the same mistakes.

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10/23/10 – How to Spot a Loser!

. 10/20/2010 . 0 Comments

Tonight we’ll discuss the questions you can ask and share experiences as well as tips on what to look for that will let you know he or she is a stone cold LOSER.

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The Romantic Adventures of Sistah Girl

. 10/16/2010 . 3 Comments

In the first video of the Sistah Girl series, she sits down and has a chat with the #1 man in her life about the future of their relationship. The catch is her boo thang just happens to be Bishop Eddie Long!

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When He Won’t Take ‘No!’ for an Answer

. 10/15/2010 . 20 Comments

No! is a complete sentence. Yet when told “No!” most men’s response is not “okay then” but instead “well, why not?” or “you’ll like it if you try it” or “come on!” This pressure puts females on the defensive and is really nothing but a denial of women’s right to say “NO!” Discussion of why men refuse to take no for an answer.

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How Can I Know if He is Just Using Me for Sex?

. 10/12/2010 . 2 Comments

It’s been a year and I never moved on. He’s not letting me move on. He calls and explains how hard it is for him to live without me and I believe him and take him back then he cheats on me. This has happened four times…

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10-16-10 The Black Church and the Bible Keep Black Women Down

. 10/11/2010 . 3 Comments

Can Black people accept that to break free of limitations placed on our minds, achievements and relationships by Christianity, it may require that we remove the Bible from our lives? Jeremiah Camara guests.

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Crabs in a Barrel: Baby Mommas That Want Others to Suffer Too

. 10/05/2010 . 27 Comments

Herein lies a reality check about the fonky attitude, selfishness and crabs in a barrel mentality towards younger women that don’t need to follow in any woman’s “baby momma” footsteps.When a girl has a positive minded father playing an active role in her life, she is less likely to become a baby momma.

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Research Survey: Preyed Upon in God’s House

. 10/03/2010 . 0 Comments

Research survey on the predatory behaviors of men within our nation’s religious institutions. Instead of worshipping God, women/children are viewed as prey by child molesters and opportunists.

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10-2-10 Sex Trafficking and Your Child

. 10/02/2010 . 2 Comments

It is every parent’s worst nightmare to find that, too late, they ignored the signs that their children were selling themselves or being groomed for a life in prostitution or the sex industry.

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Richelle Carey CNN and Deborrah Cooper Discuss the Black Church

. 09/26/2010 . 0 Comments

Richelle Carey of CNN’s Headline News interviews author Deborrah Cooper on how the Black church keeps Black women single and lonely. Click to listen!

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The Pair and a Spare Dating Program

. 09/25/2010 . 15 Comments

Women need to stop trying to be “good girls” and instead stand up for their rights when it comes to dating. Tell men straight up: “hey, I am dating around to find the right fit. You might be that guy, but until I spend more time with you and get to know you better, I am going to continue dating a few guys. You should do the same.”

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Don’t Be Dumb by Falling for the Baby Momma Okey Doke

. 09/22/2010 . 35 Comments

If he says “I love you” many females think they have a dream come true. In reality if he really wanted to be with you as a family man he would be doing things very differently. A man that loves and respects you does not set you up for the Dumb Baby Momma Okey Doke.

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