Deborrah

Veteran social researcher, relationship advice columnist, author and radio host. Author of hundreds of articles on American and black culture, gender issues, singles, dating and relationships. Author of "Sucka Free Love!" , "The 24 Types of Suckas to Avoid," "The Black Church - Where Women Pray and Men Pray," and "Why Vegan is the New Black" all available on Amazon.Com. Her unique voice and insightful commentary have delighted fans and riled haters for 20 years. Read her stuff on SurvivingDating.Com and AskHeartBeat.Com.

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Black Men Blame Black Women For Unwed Pregnancies

. 09/21/2010 . 14 Comments

Black men consistently blame women for the babies born out of wedlock, charging that black women should “close their legs” and whining that men have no power to decide anything about a pregnancy. Do they forget that women can’t get pregnant by themselves? Why do Black men refuse to take ownership of their choices, bodies and semen, attempting instead to place that responsibility on women?

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Auditioning to be a Wife…WTF do You do THAT for?

. 09/11/2010 . 6 Comments

Can you recognize when a man is gaming on you for some ass with fanciful words that get you all excited and thinking you have a committed relationship when you don’t? Sure you do! That’s why you’re in the shit you’re in right now!

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Rev Al Sharpton and Deborrah Cooper Discuss The Black Church

. 09/11/2010 . 2 Comments

Reverend Al Sharpton and I sat down this week to discuss my controversial article on The Black Church and how black churches work hard to keep Black women single and lonely and under the thumb of preachers around the country.

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Men That Don’t Take Responsibility For a Pregnancy Are Punks!

. 09/08/2010 . 44 Comments

I’m tired of hearing Black men whine that they aren’t ready to be a father and that he shouldn’t have to pay child support for a kid he didn’t want. Look here fool… if you are having sex bare with a woman you know is fertile, you are ready to be a father whether you affirm it vocally or not. Actions speak louder than words. You are doing everything it takes to become a father, right? So what are you talking about you ain’t ready?

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Beware of the Verbally Abusive Man Hiding in Plain Sight

. 09/01/2010 . 10 Comments

It really doesn’t matter why a man is verbally or psychologically abusive towards females, nor does it matter if the undercover abuse is purposeful or not, the damage to a woman’s self esteem and emotional stability if she listens to that bullshit is exactly the same, and it can be quite considerable.

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His Ex Emailed to Say She is Pregnant with My Man’s Baby!

. 08/30/2010 . 0 Comments

We’ve been together 7 months, but recently a woman he dated for only 2 weeks sent an email to say she is pregnant with his child. Help! Do I stay or go?

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Why “Nice” Guys Suck and Women Don’t Want You!

. 08/26/2010 . 113 Comments

Being a “nice guy” does not win you any brownie points in the dating game! Never has, never will. You win at dating when you give the opposite sex what they want.

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8-31-2010 Ladies, Can You Pass “The ‘Ho Test?”

. 08/25/2010 . 0 Comments

We will discuss how women ‘ho and the differences between being an incidental ho and a professional who has made ho’ing a lifestyle choice. We’ll also discuss how men test to see if you ARE a ‘ho or not!

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Breaking Down The Pimp Game of Prosperity Gospel

. 08/20/2010 . 23 Comments

Some say a church begins when a group of Believers get together for prayer and to praise Jesus Christ. If you believe that, I have a great deal on a bridge I’d like to tell you about…

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Feminism, Black Men & Black Relationships – 8/22/10

. 08/18/2010 . 0 Comments

“You’re a feminist!” is a phrase uttered with the utmost disdain by Black men, and being called a feminist is right up there with being called a bitch. What is it that feminism means to Black men and women, and why are so many African Americans against feminism?

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Black Feminism and The Black Men’s Rights Movement

. 08/18/2010 . 22 Comments

Many Black men believe that all hell broke loose in America when the 1970s feminist movement came into being. These men feel that the dysfunction in the Black community – the collapse of every institution such as our churches, schools, families and communities – is due to the distortion of gender roles brought about by feminism. Looking back fondly on the apron wearing homemaker of the 1970s, Black men long for the caretaking and attention they didn’t get as children. If a woman prefers a career to staying at home with children all day, shouldn’t she have that right with no problems from her husband? Does marriage still mean property ownership of the female?

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Single Black Men Insist on Open Marriages?

. 08/13/2010 . 8 Comments

An advice seeker asked me to explain the reasons why so many young Black men are insisting that their prospective bride agree to an open marriage – or there will be no wedding.

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