Category: Men's Issues
LOL at these knucklehead men and their butt hurt egos.
They can't accept that women can and do judge them purely based on looks like they do women all the time.
Category: Men's Issues
LOL at these knucklehead men and their butt hurt egos.
They can't accept that women can and do judge them purely based on looks like they do women all the time.
@Razzy Hey Razzy--just rolling through to check out any new comments/blogs, had to LMAO when I read yours! Yes butt hurt would describe their hurt fee fees.
@eLLe85 @Razzy My point? It simply is not true that women will make eye contact and thus signal interest to men they feel are on their level. Women making effective eye contact that communicates interest is fairly rare, even for good looking guys. Guys who claim to get "a lot" of eye contact from women are usually (almost always) lying.
For the most part, women simply do not make eye contact on a day to day basis with strangers, even if said stranger is ridiculously good looking.
@eLLe85 @Razzy Furthermore, it is wrong to think that just because a woman makes eye contact she is interested. I have a friend who "cold-approaches" women, that is, he approaches strange women he finds attractive and tries to get dates. He reports that while eye contact is a good sign, he has also had some luck with women who initially seemed to be ignoring him.
Sounds to me like a lot of playing games and genderisms...no wonder so many women (and men) are single. Also, it's incredibly shallow to think you can judge someone entirely based on nothing but appearance.
@bizzyb2483 "Also its incredibly shallow to think you can judge someone entirely based on nothing but appearance'.
Why is it shallow? Oh I know, it's shallow to men when they get judged negatively and kicked to the curb because the woman didn't find them attractive, but see men do this all the time to women, but don't like it when it is done to them. If a woman doesn't like the way you look, maybe your teeth or jacked up, your clothes wrinked, you are too short, eyes too big whatever..you too fat, whatever the reason, she is well within her right to reject you on sight alone. You aren't entitled to a hearing with her just because you want one, if she doesn't find you attractive enough to approach her based on your appearance. Men do this to women all the time. So accept that it is done to you as well.
However, I think what bothers men is that women can be extremely rude --much ruder than men, based on my observations-- if a man doesn't meet her physical standards. I see this even in day to day tasks like going to the supermarket. I female clerk in the checkout isle can be friendly and chatty with a handsome guy, and then when the next not-so-handsome guy comes up she can suddenly turn cold, avoiding eye contact, keeping any sort of real human interaction to a minimum. Hell, I'm a decent looking guy, and I've even gotten this absurd treatment.
On the other hand, male clerks seem much more uniform and egalitarian in how they treat costumers. There are exceptions, of course, but in general men are more decent to women who do not meet their physical standards, than women are to men who don't make the cut.
Listen. This isn't rocket science. Men first assess attraction by physical preferences. Woman first assess attractiveness by a what he has the ability to offer her in multiple aspects. First assessments are narcisistic, that's human nature.
Either way, if you completely ignore someone regardless of attraction and deem your time too valuable to waste even a second convercing with another human being, you're a douchebag.
"Women first assess attractiveness by what he has the ability to offer her in multiple aspects."
Dude since you are not a woman, you have no idea how women assess attractiveness. It's funny you call women narcisstic but you don't call men the same when you say they access attraction by physical preferences. Double standards much?
Women, just like men want a man who is physically attractive too. Men don't like to think about and accept that reality though. They think they can be a 1 or 2 on a scale of 10 and still have the hot 8, 9, 10 woman even if they aren't hot themselves. Keep dreaming! Women want a man who turns her own just like a guy wants a woman who turns him on. And, if a man doesn't physically attract a woman when she looks at him, he might get passed over. Same as men pass over women that don't catch their eyes. Stop thinking all women are out to get at a man's wallet and use him for money he probably doesn't have. Men love to think they can look like dogs and still get a woman anyway because she is desperate. Ya'll need to wake up. The women who are like that, are probably the only type of women men like you can get. Women who are independent and handling their business don't have to settle for some ugly loser dude.
Thank you very much for this article, Deborrah! The following blog post references this article: http://humanofglass.wordpress.com/2014/02/02/dating-in-america/.
Well, I know how men want attention. My my mom says my step father is jealous of the attention my mother gives me. I am 26 now, but that is the way men have always been to her. I now how it is when women neglect me, or feel silence is a response. A fact is women are becoming more prevalent in all parts of society. If you want the attention you imagine there might be ways to get it. I have heard fo places in Central America and South, as well as the Red Light District in Amsterdam. Also there are brothels in America. Ultimately you can respond in your own way to the rejection. Women don't seem to care about how it feels to be left hanging without any sort of decency even the comment about right to carry weapons. Wow, I mean that one was nuts. Women can defend themselves, but to think someone is aggressively coming on is paranoia and they might need medications for that. "Legalizing prostitution would reduce rape cases in the U.S. by %25" Should Prostitution Be Legalized in the U.S. Well, since we all have some kind of "F U" attitude. Without a prenup a woman is entitled to half of the marital assets. Well, so I am ignored left to focus on my future and making myself happy, then a woman comes along and says now you're ready, because my insurance policy is set up.
@Anonymous 1 Whoever you are, you must be off your meds because your comment is all over the place off on some tangent that has absolutely nothing to do with the article. Either you didn't read the article and only responded to the title that you read, or your reading comprehension skills are seriously lacking.
I don't understand all the men showing up to argue about this topic. The fact of the matter is this: a woman will either be interested in a man who approaches her or not. That's the long and short of it. No one - male or female - is OBLIGATED to be interested in anyone else. No one has a RIGHT to be a part of someone else's personal life. Those who are too damaged to accept this fact will probably get themselves either arrested or shot.
Concealed carry laws are sweeping the nation, and I know quite a few BW in my town who are planning to take advantage of that law as soon as it passes here, so that they no longer have to live in FEAR of the "Let me holla at you" / "Give me you phone number OR ELSE" psychopaths anymore.
The smartest thing that a man can do, if he is GENUINELY interested in meeting women for a relationship, is ask his family members and/or friends to set him up on blind dates. THAT is how you meet interested women. Simple and safe.
Men approaching strange women for romantic interest, hmm? Yes that’s what it’s about in most situations but it’s not always the case. Sometimes guys are actually looking to help or are in need of help from what we consider to be a friendly face. For instance:
The time I pulled up next to an attractive woman at a stoplight. I’d noticed something about her car and wanted to point it out to her. I gestured to her to roll down her window and she refused. I tried again and she reluctantly rolled it down and barked ‘What?’ I said ‘you left your gas cap off Ms. Friendly’ and pulled away. Sure, it could’ve been a bad day for her but we all have them and there is no reason to be rude from the start.
Another time I was in a food quarters near my job and happened upon an attractive lady’s ID badge. I picked it up, saw the photo and then looked around to see if the lady was nearby. I noticed a woman a few seats down sitting alone and assumed that it was her. I said ‘Excuse me Miss’ and she turned around and quickly turned away. Again, ‘Excuse me, ma’am…are you ___ Lin?’ Very annoyed she turned around and said ‘Yes, but I just want to be left alone.’ I say ‘OK’ and placed the ID on the table and walked away. There were no apologies for her rude behavior, no ‘thanks stranger’ nothing but a chilly attitude.
While I agree that it is wrong to assume that when men don’t get attention from women for whatever reason to simply label them as bitchy or self-absorbed, I also believe it is extremely self-absorbed for women to assume that the only reason unfamiliar men seek their attention is because of romantic interest.
I agree that women are great at assessing a man’s body build and fitness, confidence, hygiene, marital status (left hand, duh) and possibly their physical prowess within a few seconds. Men are pretty good at this too (maybe even better). For ANYONE to suggest that they can accurately assess the attitude, intelligence, health, social skills and financial status of a person just by looking at them is laughable.
@Razzy Alrighty then. No man's entitled to a woman's attention. A 'no shyt' fact of life that no one here is arguing. To paraphrase your statement, if 'hit dogs are hollering' that much then even you can admit that most men actually do keep it moving every day. I can accept that obvious truth even if you can't accept the obvious truth that men aren't always trying to hit on strange women that we attempt to interact with.
So indeed let's move on to what I was actually asking/saying.
You never supported you're outrageous claim (my REAL argument against your suggestion that women have varying levels of ESP) which only further tells me that you cannot.
Your previous claims imply that typical women are so shallow that they only have the time of day for strangers that they may possibly be interested in romantically. I don't buy that at all. Your claims also imply that men (99.9% lol) only seek discourse with female strangers because of potential romantic interest. That would make men (99.9%) remarkably shallow. If that's what you are saying then yes we are done here.
BTW you've made more comments on this topic here than anyone else so I think the Shakespeare quote works better for you. No gender tweaking necessary.
@morning rain. This is so true. I get hit on just about every day in any innocuous situation. Men do it with their facial expression, their looks, even if they don't say a word, they look at women in a sexual way and a woman can tell just by the way the man is looking at her that he is attracted. A woman who is not interested will quickly keep it moving, turn away. So whether dude wants to admit it or not, most times when men approach women it is because they are interested. The few times they are not interested is the exception rather than the rule.
Woman ignore men they are really interested in.
Woman act disinterested when they indicated interest and it was not reciprocated to save face.
I agree with both assessments.
The guy may be in demand and the woman knows she isn't the only woman who knows he has options, so he can be selective and/or hard-to-get believe it or not.
He might be a top-notch dude with the whole package and only a foolish woman would convince herself he really isn't, which is self-rejection anyway.
You mentioned he's not the only dude in town.
You're right, just the most desirable one.
@frankjum12 You never supported you're outrageous claim (my REAL argument against your suggestion that women have varying levels of ESP).."
This is a sticking point with you because you're intimidated by this. You are intimidated even frightened of the fact that when it comes to dating and mating, men really have no control. You'd like to think that the opportunity you have to get with a woman is solely based on your actions. It's not.
A woman is checking you out and you don't even know it. If you do get a chance to approach a woman and she's given you the green light, it is based on what she has already assessed about you, (her check you out skills) while you were oblivious. You have no control over that. A woman decides who she 'allows' to approach her, you don't get to make that decision. You don't even have to open your mouth.
All you have to do is walk into a room, and women are 'checking you out' and based on what THEY like or don't like. Women do this all the time and guys know this. So if you walk into a room and an attractive woman catches your eye, realize that she is checking you out as well and based on 'HER criteria, she decides if she wants you to approach her or not. Nobody said anything about it being ESP. It is about what that particular woman wants and either it's you or not.
@frankjum12 BTW you've made more comments on this topic here than anyone else..."
So what? I can make hundreds of comments on this topic, what's it to you? This ain't your blog, if the blog owner Deborrah Cooper doesn't care why are you keeping track?
It's obvious this is a rejected dude, still resentful behind a woman he liked and wanted who didn't return his attention or affection so here he is whining and defensive. I get hit on just about every single day by dudes.. but according to him (a non woman), he's supposed to know better about what a woman experiences at the hands of men, than women themselves.'. Don't you just love how men set themselves up as more knowledgeable about what women go through in their dealings with men, than women who actually experience these things do?
@zz777 @Razzy - Then men should ignore those women too, no matter what, and maybe they will give up this stupid sh*t of giving false signals. Women who give false signals deserve to be lonely for being manipulative like that. I have no interest in others in that capacity at all, and am sick of men who think I am playing hard to get. This whole concept of "needing" another person turns me off. I just want the freedom to run my own life and be ignored. Everything I wear, eat, do, or say is just for me. I'm not fresh meat, and I am nobody's property. For someone to notice me at all, they are saying they own me and thus have a right to notice me. Many men try to twist my innocent behaviors into other things. Like if I am out late in the evening buying computer parts, my being out is not any communication of sexual interest. To me, all times of day are the same. Or, there was the time I was speaking to a friend behind a building. I was only taking a shortcut. After that, some other man kept following me with his truck. In anger and disgust, I yelled out, "Why do you think I'm some f**king wh*re?" He replied, "I saw you talking to that man." So what? He was a person I knew a long time, and nothing we ever say to each other is romantic nor sexual in the least.
Or take the time I was checking out my new glasses to see if the Rx was right. I would cover alternating eyes and compare. Anyone, someone outside my ethnic group arrived at the intersection and thought I was making eyes at him. I forgot what I said, maybe, "Can't a woman check her glasses without someone trying to pick her up? I'm not a d*mn wh*re!" For some reason, men of ethnic minorities seem to think everything a woman does is for them and can't seem to understand the fact there are women like me who expect to get the luxury and privilege of living alone forever. To have ANY person living with you is to be controlled. To live alone is absolute freedom. I can keep the place as messy as I want, leave whatever lights on, go when I want, eat what I want, even choose when and if I brush my teeth. Most people are brainwashed into being enslaved to other people, and most are too stupid and weak to pull off living alone and really enjoy it as I do.
@Razzy I agree with you. I don't know why men are obsessed with proof when most women are more in the realm of emotion and sharing. I will take exception to one thing you say. Straight men do get hit on by gay men on occasion, and they do nothing to send out any signals. The factor is not a man's orientation, but the number of gay men around him.
@zz777 @Razzy Then he should only approach those he both likes and are giving him signals. Desperation is the biggest turnoff. And there are women like me who have NO romantic nor sexual attraction to anyone, and when I don't look at anyone nor give off signals, I mean just that. Just take me literally and forget all the pro-forma junk. I just want the right to ride my bike (my sole transportation) into town, buy things for my complete family of one person, without men approaching, particularly not men outside my race, nor men who are poor or have ANY vices. I grew up doing ALL the right things I was told to do, and now all the trash who grew up using drugs, breaking laws, sleeping around, all want to get with me. I often barricade myself in my own home and go days without eating because I am afraid of men approaching me, when I've never had that interest. I am afraid the next time one of these low-life, sex-saturated, black, drug-using, drunk, criminal scum come onto me, notice me, or call out to me, I might just do something that will get me put away for life. My only love is computers and science, as well as my own freedom and getting to call every little shot and getting to do EVERYTHING for myself in my life, my OWN WAY, and WITHOUT help of ANY kind. Why is that too much to ask just because I am an asexual woman born with the birth defect of TSism and who doesn't drive? I may be on a fixed income, but I have ALL the SAME middle to upper class values I was raised with and wish to keep my entire life, and the religious fundamentalism I deliberately chose for me and wish to keep forever.
@frankjum12 Well, I see a number of errors in your thinking. First, why did you assume her gas cap being off was your business? What were the ethnic demographics of both of you? Most WW are more independent and more conservative, and BM coming up to them to force help on them is not welcome. If someone is so stupid as to leave the cap off, then they need to learn from the consequences of their own actions. Maybe she left it off for a deliberate reason, or maybe it was stolen. Telling an intelligent person the obvious is offensive to them. When you help an intelligent person who doesn't ask you for help first, you are in essence calling them dependent or stupid. Many White women communicate mostly by hints, and approaching a stranger at all is a hint, and forcing unwanted help on someone is a hint. I am a woman who wants ALL strangers to leave me alone. If I want contact, I will reach out to my family or chosen, existing friends. If I didn't deliberately choose you as a friend first, you are not my friend and have no right acting "friendly" to me.
You mentioned the woman was attractive? Why did you do that? Why would it matter if you merely wanted to help them as an equal, just like giving advice to another man? You thought you could make an unwanted intrusion, treat her like she was stupid, and she would fall head over heels in love with you?
The woman was not being rude. You were. She was in HER SPACE and lost in her thoughts as nearly ALL women are when alone. She was not put there for you, and thus you were the one who bothered her and violated her private time. I bet again that she was White. White women have more need for solitude and alone time. BM always seem to be patronizing, overly helpful (a type of control), and treat others like idiots. She probably laid her ID where you found it for her own private reasons, and she had the right to leave it there and expect it to stay there. If you didn't put it there, it is not your job to remove it. Why should she apologized for standing up for herself, and why would she owe you thanks for something she didn't ask for nor appreciate.
Actually, everyone is supposed to be self-absorbed. When you are alone in public, you are only supposed to pay attention to you and your thoughts, and nobody has a right to approach you or break into your thoughts. If a woman is intelligent and enjoying being alone, and she has all the family and friends she wants, then you are violating her if you approach her and don't already know her. If you have no "romantic interest" then don't say or do anything to us you would not say to another man. If you feel you have to treat us differently, then you are veering into romantic interest.
Whether you like it or not, most women you see are happy with their lives and don't want anyone else. Most won't even like you, and they have that right. The street is just for traveling, and a restaurant is just for eating, and a woman should have a right to use either only for their intended purposes. Attractive or not, ALL women deserve the same space and full autonomy over their lives as men.
Ok two more laughable things here:
1) The extremely lofty ‘statistic’ pulled completely out of thin air…99.999%? C’mon now.
2) Your argument from authority...'men can't do this but women can...blah, graphic accusation, blah, blah…' Basically, this is how it is because I say so! C’mon now. This is a healthy conversation that deserves a more detailed explanation of where you’re coming from.
You mocked my *two* examples of how some women can often behave way too impersonal, chilly and yes…self-absorbed, but where is your evidence of how ANY woman can accurately assess attitude, health, social skills and financial status? I’ll take video, quotes from books on the subject or simply a good old fashioned story.
Why did I seek out the person instead of giving it to the store? First of all, we were in a food court so….? Second, even if we were in a store I say giving it directly to the person, if possible, is actually the safest and most logical course of action. We generally tend to trust our own eyes and ears first and foremost.
And the gas cap? 'The woman would've discovered this sooner or later???' I agree, still nothing wrong with pointing it out. I do the same thing when I see people with their lights off at night to avoid being pulled over. It's called being a caring person.
A few questions: Are you suggesting that men go through life avoiding interactions with attractive women unless they are romantically interested in them? How about when I asked the overweight, bad hair day girl if she wanted my seat on the bus the other day what was I doing? Does my reasoning change upon the level of the girl’s attractiveness? Do you consider yourself attractive? Do you base all strangers’ interactions with you off of your theory? If so, I believe you may be just as egotistical as the guy who assumes that women are self-absorbed because they ignore him. “I’m so fine that I choose to ignore each new man that I come across.” The choice is indeed yours. The reasoning behind it is flawed.
If women actually did know how to decipher all these things from the giddy-up I think it’s fascinating and would like to see it put to the test. Still, it flies in the face of hundreds of thousands of surprise deaths, breakups, divorces, bad marriages and women who plain ol catch the Vapors (see Biz Markie) all over the world. If women truly think like this then we have a lot of female Special Agent Dave Kujan’s out there. Women who are far too judgmental for their own good.
By the sheer number of your replies to comments here I take it you are the writer of this article. Good job because I actually really enjoy the debate it’s sparked. Still, your approach to this suggests that you have an Us vs. Them mentality when dealing with women/men issues. Be careful because this can lead to arguments driven from mere circumstance (whether you are a male or female) and with that none of us learn.
When a man radiates masculinity ---he is radiating because that is who he is inside! The inner work that he has done to tame ego, increase kindness, give love, and develop a connected perspective , make him attractive to all people but especially so to women! So there is no "end of the day" for the man who RADIATES he is to busy living "in the moment of the day" to worry about outcomes -- the abundance that comes from developing this living "in the moment" heart and mindset, (MOSTLY HEART) is more than his reward ,it is his constant companion! He has no NEED for a woman to complete him---- only a strong desire to share what HE IS with a woman who has made her own wise choices!
all very true ,but men have the right to be just as choosy in who they give eye contact to and in who they smile at. Social norms say that women are the prize that men must woo and win, but the tables can easily be turned when a man stops begging and starts radiating masculinity!
I think the writer is waaay being too extreme towards the guy who asked her the question. Seems he was simply trying to get some insight on why women seem to be very impersonal to men a lot of the time. I don't think the guy meant that he expected women to fawn over him at all times.
This approach to answering a fair question reeks of the typical blog writer who goes out of their way to paint a shallow picture of a person, thing, subject, etc... simply to make their argument more appealing. The meat of her answer was excellent, her imaginary assessment of the guy's reason for the question not so much.
Ian32, note that she said "light speed" not "laser accuracy".
All people, men and women, form snap judgments when they first see someone. The only way to determine accuracy is through experience. Some people are good at sizing up a stranger, some not so much. Some will learn from their errors and improve, some will make the same mistakes over and over again.
Think about it: How long do you have to look at a woman before you decide whether she's attractive?
Though I believe Deborrah is misinterpreting why men often take more time to evaluate. A woman can rely on snap judgments because her decision is simpler. All she has to decide is whether a man is worth a few moments of her time. A man often has to do a bit more scouting because he's the one making the approach. Most women will ignore a strange man trying to get her attention. A man has to tailor his approach if he wants to get past that initial evaluation.
Some men can pull off the three-second checkout and approach. But such men are usually hard-core players.
Bottom line is men can’t accept this sentence from the article: ‘’Women look at men when they are interested, and completely ignore you when they are not’.
These men are just angry that they’ve been ignored by the women they wanted to attract and to make their fragile little egos feel better, they have to put down the woman because ‘she didn’t give him the time and attention he felt he deserved simply because he wanted it’. They can't accept that she ignored him, because she wasn't interested. So the men are really the ones who are self absorbed with their sense of entitlement.
Men need to accept that they aren’t entitled to attention from a woman that interest them. She doesn’t owe him the time of day. Just because he finds her attractive and wants to get with her, doesn’t mean she has to respond to that. That doesn’t make her self absorbed or stuck up. It just makes her a woman he doesn’t even know, who doesn’t want him.. that’s it and that’s all. Men need to accept that and move it along.
Men hate rejection, but woman hate rejection and competition even more so.
There are plenty of available pretty girls, more so than attractive available men, so don't worry guys, she'll eventually settle for an uglier guy than you if she ignores you.
@Too Smart To Fail - Or not settle for a guy at all. There is nothing wrong with a woman being a loner and enjoying it (asexual orientation) or a lesbian. They should have the right to be their orientation and be left alone by people outside their orientation.
Its true. If I see a man walking, and you can see them a mile away, that your not interested in I don't even bother, I look at the ground or turn to a store window. I notice men esp where I live will look at any woman with a big booty, she doesn't even have to be cute. On the other hand If I see someone cute I will assess from there. It really can't be rejection if you have nothing vested in the person or the encounter
I don't have a problem with women not giving me attention if they're not interested in me. What made me complain about this blog post was the following...
"What men also don’t understand is that women have “check you out” skills that are comparable to light speed. Unlike men, we don’t have to stare for 5 minutes to get the whole picture. A woman can glance at you and in less than 3 seconds assess your confidence, body build and fitness, attitude, hygiene, marital status, intelligence, health, physical prowess, social skills, financial status, and thus, her interest."
It comes across as grandiose on the side of women and belittling of men. Are men in general really one hundred times slower at gauging whether their interested in someone? Or are men really so simple and transparent that they can be judged so thoroughly in three seconds flat?! Can anyone back this stuff up with some evidence?
I don't think that me 'whining' about this is a sign of immaturity or low self-esteem. On the contrary I think it shows confidence that I'm prepared to challenge being judged as inferior to women.
A woman who is "intentionally ignoring men" isn't self-absorbed. She's not interested. If she were self-absorbed, then there wouldn't be any intent to her ignoring. She'd just be blissfully unaware.
I don't understand why this is at all interesting or controversial. Any given day there can be plenty of random strangers who want my attention: panhandlers, salespeople, people collecting petition signatures, whatever. In almost all cases, strangers trying to get my attention don't care about what I want or value my time. They just want something. That's fine, but I'm not obligated to give them anything, even a passing glance. Usually I ignore them because I don't feel they warrant my attention.
Why should I be offended if a woman I don't even know feels the same way about me?
I just read through these comments and am astonished at the level of whining by allegedly grown men, who express the belief that they are entitled to a woman's attention just because they want it! These are the types of men that are dangerous to women - the stalkers, child molesters and rapists of the world have this exact same mentality. I want it and dammit, you better give it to me!
A normal, healthy male understands that no matter how wonderful he and his mother think he is, most women are not going to agree. Instead of demanding that he get anyone's attention that isn't interested, he moves on to find a woman that thinks he is the bomb. That's the great thing about dating, we spend time with one person then another until we find our perfect fit. In order for something to BE perfect for both people, there must be mutual interest, mutual attraction and mutual desire for more. When the interest or attraction is one-sided, you get rejected.
So put your big boy panties on fellas and get over it. All the whining and crying I've seen her, the blaming and chastising of women for not giving you what you want is the epitome of immaturity and reeks of desperation and low self esteem. With that in mind, who do you think would want to date you? Really?
Men can learn a lot from reading this blog. It hurts because its true. A lot of what she says is useful. I'll admit its harsh but so is a drill sergeant. But they gets the job done. You can evaluate someone's intelligence by their general aura; their energy, how they dress, and how they carry themselves. Information gathering is something we all do all the time. Instead of being angry at women for doing this, or at the author for graciously pointing it out. learn how to master it for yourself. and once you have the eye, point it inward and see what you have to improve. If you can accurately see yourself, you can see others. practice with yourself and reflect. otherwise, and this is not meant to offend, stay at home and meditate. But lets face it, idiocy affects both genders, sadly some women may have great social abilities, however some don't have high enough standards so they go for abusers and losers. Guys do the same thing in a different way. I hardly think its a gender thing. sounds like an American thing. Men need to learn to be men, and stop being passive aggressive whiners. Get rid of that chip on your shoulder. Women need to grow stronger. Blogs like this help a lot for both. Both genders need to develop confidence that arises, not from cockiness, but from a deep spiritual place.
Also, information women tell you is very useful, but it also takes a good ear to listen. No matter how good the information is, if the filter is in a state of malfunction, the data is lost. Just like having a good eye is important, like the author implies, a good ear is too. listen, look and succeed. Be well.
Erroneous information by this author. shes old and out of touch with the tinmes. Men are not self absorbed women are. What do men think about most of the day? we think about women. What do women think about most of the day? themselves hair, nails, shoes, places to eat. enough said. has my point been made?
Next she gives a typical female answer to a male question. what the guy really wanted to know is how to get more attention from women. she goes into this whole rant about how he expects women to drop what they are doing to pay attention to him when he shows up. typical exaggerated female response. all she had to say was you have to spark a womans interest show that you are into something she is interested in. Show your sense of style dress nice and be well groomed. smell good but not to strong with colon. smile make brief eye contact if she returns eye contact walk by say hi and smile a little. if u get positive feedback its ok to talk to her go for it. it helps to be in decent shape also women like men with nice bodies just like us men like women with nice bodies.
she had to give this whole beat a man down speech just to give lame advice. She dosnt know scratch.
It does not seem to me that women's skills at assessing a men are quite that evolved, judging by the kind of guys my female friends are dating and the men they are ignoring. It rather seems that those skills are stuck in times of a few thousand years ago and thus accordingly tend to favor Neanderthals.
Great post! I am one of the women who ignore men I have no interest in, and I never cease to be amazed by the insane way SOME men behave when they are ignored by a stranger with a vagina. It's unreal. Sometimes, I wonder if I'm on some sort of hidden camera "Punk'd" type tv show.
And that idiot who thinks women are "self-centered" for not feigning interest in strange men they're not interested in... I guess it's a good thing you can't be arrested for being a fool.
I like the post. If a girl ignores a man it is irrelevant. He will find his girl so it doesn't matter about those that aren't. You can't put energy into trying to control someones preferences. If she ignores you and there was nothing wrong with your approach it doesn't matter why she ignored you. That's all her doing and her reasons are her business and are of no value to the man. It is a non issue.
"Women will make eye contact with men they feel are on their level"
uh.... from the outside looking in, why does it seem that some women who seem to "have it together" (job, crib money, self-esteem, etc) go for the, thug, dude with a buncha kids or a x-box-playin momma's boy?
I totally agree with your post. If I catch a guy looking at me that I have absolutely no interest in I'll do whatever I can to make it seem like I'm preoccupied with something else whether I turn away or pull out my phone hoping that he'll get the hint.
When I am interested in a guy, eye contact is usually my method of choice. I never approach men but I'll steal a few glances in his direction and hope he gets the hint. Usually he does, if not I may walk by and smile, that gets them everytime.