Why Women Ignore Men

 zz777 "but the tables can easily be turned when a man stops begging and starts radiating masculinity!"

What do you mean by a man 'radiating masculinity'?  Explain in detail. 

A man can radiate all he wants (whatever that means) at the end of the day, who is he radiating for?  A woman or a man?  If it's for a woman, then he still has to 'attract her attention and hope that she responds to all of his 'radiation' (lol)

 frankjum12 "Seems he was simply trying to get some insight on why women seem to be very impersonal to men a lot of the time. .."

If  that guy had simply asked the author ‘How do you notice guys?  Does a guy ever catch your eye?  Then that would have been a dude who genuinely wanted to gain some insight into about women.  But this is not what that dude said. He had already made his judgement that women are self absorbed and they ignored men.  He'd already made an assumption, that just because women didn’t respond to him because ‘he wanted their attention’ then they must be ‘ignoring him, or self absorbed’.  So what do you make of his judgement of women?  He does have a sense of entitlement.  When a woman doesn’t give him the time and attention he wants when he wants it, he then attributes negative character traits to her.  It does make him come off as arrogant and expecting women to fawn all over him just because he wants them to. 

 Doogan Well  thanks for your reply Doogan. I think you managed to avoid accusing me and men of being 'immature', 'angry', 'egotistical', having a sense of entitlement, 'self absorbed', being a toddler, having low self esteem, not being able to face reality and on and on...

Can anyone see why I called misandry on this post? :)

 Ian123  Doogan "Can anyone see why I called misandry on this post:?"

Males like you always do that.  Whenever women say something about your character that you don't like, she is supposed to be a man hater.  You fail to look at yourself and how you come across.  There is a world of difference between you and Doogan.  Doogan comes off as a mature man who  does not have a fragile ego and does not take it personally if a woman isn't interested in him.  He even wondered why this was a discussion. 

You on the other hand chose to be offended at the thought of women having check you out skills that allowed them to size a man up quickly, whereas men don't seem to display those judgements as quickly when they pursue a woman. "  You took that an in your mind, created an argument about men being inferior to woman.  All of this DOES in fact speak to low self esteem and fragile ego.  How you take something has everything to do with your mindset and nothing to do with the author's. 

The thought of a woman having an ability that gives her an edge when it comes to dating and mating rubbed you the wrong way.  You didn't like that.  You like to think that it is the man who has the edge. 

So yes, you come off as overly sensitive and whiny.  Whereas Doogan comes off as confident and mature.  It's not misandry, it is just there are very foew Doogans, (unfortunately) and lots of Ians type of men that women have to deal with.

RazzyDoogan

"The thought of a woman having an ability that gives her an edge when it comes to dating and mating rubbed you the wrong way."

If women are better than men at deciphering the opposite sex then I don't have a problem with that. I'm just not convinced that its true.

"You like to think that it is the man who has the edge."

Actually I don't see much difference between men and women when it comes to deciphering the opposite sex.

Perhaps my original comment of 'intensely misandric' was a bit strong. I've been reading a book about misandry you see so if I come across as overly sensitive then maybe that's why.

Exactly! How can you be rejected by a complete and total stranger? Violets Mommy 

 Ian123 

“What men also don’t understand is that women have “check you out” skills that are comparable to light speed.”  Unlike men, we don’t have to stare for 5 minutes to get the whole picture.”

Well too bad Ian that you can't face reality on the 'women check you out skills'.  You may not like it, but that is exactly how it is.  See men like you think that you only have the ability and right to check out a woman and decide right then and there if she is a 'hit it and quit it type of woman' or if she's someone you want to get to know beyond sex.  You don't like knowing that women are judging you as well.  She's judging you before she even meets you if she wants to even let you have sex with her.  See males have it backwards.  Before you even approach a woman, most times she's already decided whether or not she wants to be bothered with you in the first place. 

You all up there thinking you're convincing her with your 'game' when in reality, you wouldn't even have gotten a chance with her if 'she' hadn't already decided to give you one.  Get over it. Instead of whining about it like a toddler, use this knowlege and make sure that when you are in the presence of women, you put your best persona forward so you make a good impression and you won't get ignored.. then you might stand a chance with a woman that has caught your eye instead of sitting back erroneously thinking you hold all the cards... you don't.  All you can do is approach.. It's up to the woman to accept your approach or ignore you.    Most women already know what they like, what turns them on and they dont' need to interact with you to decide if they want to get with you.  They can tell (just like you can) at a glance.  Sometimes interacting with you, only confirms what they've already decided.

 Doogan  Spoken like a mature and sensible man. 

Hi Doogan! It's good to know that there are men with common sense and a sense of propriety who come to this site, because if often feel like most of the male posters are whiny man-children with entitlement issues.   Doogan

 Doogan "A woman who is "intentionally ignoring men' isn't self-absorbed. She's not interested.  If she were self-absorbed, then there wouldn't be any intento to her ignoring. She'd just be blissfully unaware."

Exactly.. these whiny men don't even know the difference between being unaware and self absorbed.  But what they are really doing is projecting their own self absorption onto the woman in an effort to shore up their egos and the hurt they feel because the woman they want attention from, doesn't want anything to do with them. It's all very juvenile really.  Like the little boy in grade school who picks on the girl he likes, to make himself feel good and so he can get any kind of attention from her even if it's negative attention.  It's amazing how many little grade school immature boys are walking around in grown men's bodies.  they may have physically matured, but man they havent' emotionally or mentally.

 AndreAlwaysVarsityEllis That is the problem with dumb males like you. You refuse to listen to a woman and you continually discount her thoughts. You think you know better than she does about what she wants.  This is why women don't want to be bothered with your trifling behinds.  Instead of trying to be a decent man, you're too busy trying to 'pimp women'.  Women would be wise to leave your bottom of the barrel Pookie down by the carwash types alone.  You all ain't good for too much except skeeting and making babies.  Males like you do not make quality mates.. next!

 AndreAlwaysVarsityEllis Gawd I so want a HATE IT button!

My latest conversation: Engaged to a man I'm worried has a porn addiction

"no woman can help you on being a better PIMP. only another man can give you the correct advice on dating. in most cases women will actually tell you information that will harm your PIMPIN abilities."  Are you serious?! Is this a joke? If not, get therapy, pronto!

AndreAlwaysVarsityEllis

 AndreAlwaysVarsityEllis you sound like a fool male that has been nignored.  The advice given was exactly as it should be.  The author wrote what 'she' wanted to write.  If you don't like it, go somewhere else and write your own advice.  And males do expect that just because they want a woman, she is supposed to automatically want them back.  No she doesn't .  Women don't owe males the time of the day just because he wants her.  And women have fare more important things to think about than hair, nails, shoes and places to eat.  Obviously you show by these examples the types of women you are going after.  Women who are intelligent, with careers and education are far more interested in other matters, like their 401K's their mortgages, where they will take their next vacation, how they will invest their money.  Obviously you don't have what it take to date women like that who are way out of your league so I guess for you the Shaquisha's of the world do think like that.  But if you go after self absorbed women, then stop whining about it. And males are self absorbed.  All they think about is getting they dycks wet and how they can make that happen and as quickly as possible with the least amount of effort on their part.   Which is why you get mad when a woman you are interested in ignores you.

It may not be self-centered to avoid someone you have no interest in, but it is self-centered to believe you can assess someone's intelligence and worth by looking at them for three seconds. This article writer is a stuck up little bitch.

WTF are you talking about fool? Men do that shit to women all the time! You all only get upset when a woman does it BACK and removes your imagined power over her, her self image, and her life. Believe me, women are not really caring much what you men think, want, believe, like, don't like, etc. You are not important to any woman until she decides that she wants you to be. That is the part you don't get! You want all women to think you are a God. Well, a woman might not care if you are intelligent if you have a giant belly, are 5'2" tall, bald, or have a mug only a mother could love.

Get over yourself! People assess others in 3 seconds all the time. Every young Black male walking down the street is "assessed for his intelligence" based on his attire or skin color. Women are "assessed for her intelligence" every time a man sees a short skirt or revealing clothing.

You so need to shut your pie hole.

An eye for an eye - I see. You are the female version of the guys you hate so much. Congratulations.

 DocSavage lol exactly thats the attitude a lot of black women are carrying these days. thats the reason most black women complain about not being able to find a man they are the problem. they are preventing good men from finding them. 

dating for women isnt about how stuckup you can act because u got a big booty and a pretty face and a little waist and you think your a dime. most men are gonna see that attitude and say aye fu k ima just deal with her long enough to smash and dash

realtalk

women do it to themsleves

The only Black women who "complain about  not being able to find a man"  have CHOSEN to exclusively date Black men. Therefore, in so far as that is true, you are right: "women do it to themselves". BTW, it's GOOD / DECENT men Black women complain about not being able to find. Anyone willing to settle can find a man, Black or otherwise. Men are everywhere! I met my fiance -- a kind, successful White man who shares my values and middle class background -- in the public library. Not a place you'd expect to meet the love of your life. AndreAlwaysVarsityEllis

 AndreaLewis  AndreAlwaysVarsityEllis 

"I met my fiance--a kind, successful white man who shares my values and middle class background--in the public library."

Well see there you go, most black men can't even read all that well and most don't go to the public library.  That is why they are whining and complaining.  They are out there in the streets hollaring at women, or in the clubs trying to pick up women solely based on how she looks, and how much she turns them on.  Those fools aren't up in some library trying to improve themselves and read and educate and enlighten their minds. 

Most don't even have a library card.  But they have the latest play station and Iphone and any other type of gadget.  Males like that fool Andre all up and down this post whining before his dumb butt got banned are the main ones who think they are entitled to a woman because they think they are all of that. 

Look at his picture.  He can't take rejection and is quick to put women down who don't roll over and agree with him.  The only women he can get are low self esteem desperate to have any type of male woman. (Those bottom of the barrel sisters.  A woman who has it going on, wouldn't give that fool the time of the day and he knows it.

 Razzy  AndreAlwaysVarsityEllis Funny you should mention his avatar pic. The first time I saw it, I thought "this guy looks like the African American version of White trash." I have always wondered if guys who dress that way realize that is what they look like. It's quite odd, to me, that he would choose to depict himself in such a manner online. It's one thing to dress as though you live in a trailer park (and manufacture meth for a living) when you are in the privacy of your own home, or even just hanging around with similarly attired friends and relatives, but why publicize one's bad taste/judgement to strangers when it's just as easy to put on a shirt with sleeves? A smart, ambitious man ALWAYS puts his best foot forward. And if such a man is seeking the companionship of a woman, he is even more thorough in presenting himself well. I can only imagine what a male dressed like Andre... is seeking from life. 

 AndreaLewis  AndreAlwaysVarsityEllis 

Exactly!  And just as we can look at AndreAlwaysVarsityEllis avatar picture and pretty much sum up what he is about, this is what the article is talking about.  His comments coupled with his pic tells his story..He is an immature whiny idiot that got ignored and this article touched a nerve.  He thinks he's all that and acts entitled to a woman's attention.  (See that took 2 sec's to type and figure out.  Men aren't complicated, most women (if she's thinking straight can figure them out in no time).

It took me 5 secs to type this response: Michael sounds like a hemotional he-bitch mad because he must have gotten nignored by a woman who assessed him and found him lacking. lol

actually women are self centered in the sense that they think about themselves more often then men do. has nothing to do with fienning interest in strangers ur whatever the word was u said. 85 perecent of the time in relationships women think about their own satisfaction and happiness more than their partners. "When are you going to call me"? "You didnt call me im upset with you"  "We dont spend enough time together"  "you said you would take me here" "you said you would do this for me" sound familiar?  thats the sound of a self centered woman in a relationship. .. 

need i say more?

Yes, that attitude makes sense to me. You can argue all day, if a woman's judgments were accurate or not. If she is not interested, she's not interested.

Remember water seeks its own level. You, on the outside looking in, think that because a woman has a job some money and a car that she is an exceptional woman. However many females, deep down inside, are very insecure and suffer from extremely low self-esteem. Others don't want a man that thinks he is so together that he can boss her around. So she goes for someone that meets her needs in a shallow way and doesn't trip about what she isn't getting. Not anything I recommend, but that is the reason.

women are not water and while your right about some women being insecure thats not the only reason why a woman with it all together would date a man that has nothing going for himself. if hes popular or has an articulant personality able to capture her attention and keep her entertained thats usually what woman go for.

especially black women. 

most of the time black women are not comfortable with men that are on their level or higher because like u said they are insecure. thats the game killer for black women and the reason why most black women are not successful in longterm relationships.

 AndreAlwaysVarsityEllis 

You came on this blog and posted all up and down this blog whining like a hemotional hebeeyatch because you are one of the very men that have been nignored.  This article obviously struck a nerve with you.  And get real, that mess about black women not comfortable with men that re on their level or higher.. pluueeze, black women outnumber black men in college and careers.  Most black men are either in prison, have menial jobs or hanging out on the street.  Unfortunately there is a very small percentage of black men who are on the average educated successful black woman's level and you are certainly not one of them.  It's the black man who is insecure with the black woman's success because so few black man achieve any type of success.   Get some hooked on phonics skills and learn how to spell while you are talking about black women being insecure.  I had to try to figure out what the heck you were talking about because you spell like you're in the 3rd grade.  Dang.

the thing about it is that works both ways. iv ignored women interested in me the same way. the catch is once a man ignores a woman that is interested in her she reverts to the same behavior in an attempt to save face.  

lol rejection is a bitch

 AndreAlwaysVarsityEllis Your dumb butt hasn't ignored anybody.  You would be glad a woman paid you any attention.  That's why you are all up and down this thread whining about this article.  Once a male is rejected he reverts to your typical behavior. he goes on the internet and slams women because he can't handle being ignored or rejection. 

 AndreAlwaysVarsityEllis You are an idiot and you have been banned, begone fool.