Around the nation, Black females are instructed that to get a “good black man” they should date and marry Black men with potential. Black women are also instructed that it is their job as women to date and marry Black men that need their help, that they are to be a help meet, and that they need to lift Black men up and help them be better men.
The reality is that such statements are socializing Black females to accept less than they deserve in a boyfriend, in a husband, and in father. There is no guarantee that a man will ever realize his full potential, or even half of it. There is no guarantee that after exerting years of her time guiding, instructing and helping a man be a better man, that he won’t resent her for pushing him along. Instead of Black women reaching back or down to pull someone up, Black men need to get on the ball and lift themselves up to women’s level of achievement and success. A grown man with potential that he has not utilized is a waste of a woman’s time.
Black women must eliminate the belief that they are required to “work with a brotha” when said brotha is beneath her, lagging, lacking in certain vital areas of performance and qualifications. The only demographic of women in the United States told they should accept less than they deserve or desire in a mate are African American women.
We’ll be discussing this bit of triflingness on Sunday’s broadcast. Please join me and Kaptan Solo of Generation-X.net as we dissect the programming of Black women and the need for Black men to elevate their game and themselves. The show begins at 5:30 PST/8:30 EST. Call 347-327-9215 to share your thoughts and opinions.
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