Dating Tips for Men: How to Dump Proof Your Relationship
Women today are definitely strong and very independent, but does that mean we don’t need the emotional and physical support of men? If you’re a guy that believes a modern woman shouldn’t need you in any way, and you use that as an excuse to avoid giving of yourself in your relationship, you’re treading on dangerous ground. Keep messing up dude, and you’ll be dumped soon!
What Your Woman Wants From Your Relationship
Why do women enter relationships?
Of course, there is no one reason that applies to everyone, because at different stages of life women are seeking different things from men. But the top three reasons given by single women: (1) love; (2) to share our lives with a partner (companionship); and (3) fun.
I can’t tell you how many women – married or in an otherwise committed relationship – have complained about how their man changed “once he got me.” The cordial gentlemanly behaviors, the bathing, the haircuts, the romantic non-sexual touching and attention, all die a slow and painful death.
The effort a man put out to get her onto his team comes to a screeching halt once he is confident that she is his.
That guys, is a huge mistake.
Getting and Getting Love Brownie Points and Relationship Demerits
It’s important for men to understand that TELLING a woman that you love her is only part of the equation. You have to not only tell her often, you need to SHOW her in a variety of ways, and you need to do it every day. That way you become not only her romantic interest, you become her rock, her hero, her trusted “go to” person that takes care of her, the man that she feels is the best guy in the world and that she wouldn’t want to ever do without. By doing at least one thing just for her every day (especially wonderful if she doesn’t have to ask you first), you keep your “love brownie points” level really high.
That means you need to try really, really hard to avoid letting her down. Ever.
Women Don’t Break Up With You Out of Nowhere
Men go along thinking that everything in their relationship is fine, as long as their needs are getting met. They ignore their woman’s requests for input and problem solving, for assistance, for time, for affection. Men often feel that if they are happy and satisfied with things, then everyone is.
That guys, is a huge mistake.
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Deborrah
Veteran social researcher, relationship advice columnist, author and radio host. Author of hundreds of articles on American and black culture, gender issues, singles, dating and relationships. Author of "Sucka Free Love!" , "The 24 Types of Suckas to Avoid," "The Black Church - Where Women Pray and Men Pray," and "Why Vegan is the New Black" all available on Amazon.Com. Her unique voice and insightful commentary have delighted fans and riled haters for 20 years. Read her stuff on SurvivingDating.Com and AskHeartBeat.Com.
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I can’t tell you how many guys I know who fit this pattern — they ignore requests and efforts to save the relationship and go on oblivious until WHAM they are dumped and then they STILL don’t get it!
Dead on Deb!
My ex followed your pattern to the tee! I tried to talk with him calmly about it and NOTHING. He would dismiss my concerns or just walk away. He saw the moving boxes and asked me if I was really moving. Then he just walked away and went upstairs. What the %#&$*? I had already left our bedroom. The last time I saw him he named each and everything that I did for him. He said he missed me. Oh really? I said now tell me what you did for me that would make me miss you. Silence. He told his family he didn’t know why I left.
You said it all with this one! Too bad the men who need to hear it and see it, won’t….