It’s Just a Woman’s Power
by Gregory L. Towns
This learning process called life never ceases to amaze me. A few days ago I and a couple of women friends had lunch while talking (of course) about the phenomena of relationships and how women and men are attracted to each other. 
The proof that women not only see but hear things differently became all to clear to me. I got a lesson in "the power" of female observation. My friend Tina who I’ll describe as a stunningly attractive, well bred and intelligent 30ish career woman who collects men like a queen bee collects worker bees.
Tina is also known in her circle of friends as the self proclaimed "Coach" not the "The Player."
Tina tried to explain this so-called "Power" that women have. Being a man and a bit cynical, I half listened, so she then proceeded to show me how it all works. Into the restaurant came a handsome young man and his parents at least I thought they were. He was tall, well groomed, nicely dressed and attentive. My friends took a quick look and continued to eat as the trio was seated next to us. My friend Tina with this so-called “radar” began to read this young mans pedigree.
Without another look she told us he’s obviously a law enforcement officer, 34 years old, 6’0" even, 165 lbs, unmarried, no children, and most likely an only child, he works out three (no with another quick glance) four times a week. I sarcastically asked how she could tell all this just by a glance?
She said women have this six sense. Again, we continued with our meal. As a professional at observation and a writer who has for 30 odd years took great pains to make it my business to scientifically study people and situations, I was cynical yet very curious. I waited for an opportune moment and when I couldn’t stand it any longer I politely excused myself from the table.
"Pardon me, Sir. I don’t mean to disturb your meal but I can’t help notice the unusual charm on your necklace?”
He answered "oh yes it’s my badge in miniature." Astounded just a little I turned to my friend and gave her credit for a small observation that was an easy one (her eyesight was good I didn’t catch that one).
“May I ask an other question?” I added. “Are you about 34 years old?” "I’m 33" he retorted sharply. Well, by now I am more than a little amazed and impressed. I looked at my friend and said quietly "You are good!" I took a closer look and noticed then that he wasn’t wearing a wedding ring although he did wear other tasteful jewelry. There was no shadow/ tan line where there once sat a wedding ring.
I became more curious and a bit too embarrassed to ask this man any other questions so I turned to ask my friend, "ok Tina three out of five is a little amazing, now how can you tell from so short an observation that he doesn’t have children and is an only child? She said as she coyly buffed her nails on her blouse “it’s Saturday and a man of his caliber if he were married and had kids would bring them to a restaurant of this type to be with his parents. And look at the way his mother is particularly attentive and hangs on every word he says and everything he does.” His father who now was holding a conversation between mouths full of food was also beaming with pride.
"Damn she is good!" I thought and said as much out loud. At this point I made a comment to the trio about the female power of observation, which brought a response "I hope you didn’t bet her anything?" As we left I looked at her with admiration and a renewed respect. 
This issue of "The Power" of course has stuck in my head. Men, are we so vain to think that women only know about us what we tell them? Now the scary part "what if they ALL have this Power?" It’s like being naked in a room full of strange women! They know about our prowess at sex and what we can do and other things or the size of certain things? Men what if all women since Eve have always known the truth? You know when we said we’re going out for a beer "with the boys" and they knew, or that lipstick on your collar "it’s just where I hugged my Mom." Or (this used to be my favorite) "I had a flat tire that’s why I’m late getting home."
Guys, Tina made a believer out of me. I feel so uncovered! Is nothing sacred anymore? Now I think I know why the divorce courts are so full and why television Judges are so busy – we can’t hide from them any more. The word is out! The "Power" is real.
Men we now have to start coming clean using truth and honesty if we hope to keep our women. This knowledge has me a little paranoid when I meet a woman… now is she looking at me from the inside out? That can’t be a pretty sight because I got issues. Not being as handsome as most and now I know I’m certainly not as smart, I have to be more honest and forthright to attract the opposite sex.
The part that frightens me most is what if they use "The Power" for evil instead of Good?
I shudder to think the consequences. Now I know why when I pass the street corners and parks there are so many lonely and rejected looking men sitting in a daze. Are these the perpetrators of deceit and cheating that have seen “the Power” first hand? I don’t know any way to guard or protect us against this Power lest we submit to just plain honesty and trust that they will know if we are still works in progress and need their help and understanding.
What if women since the dawn of time have had this "Power?" Hmm. Maybe that’s why scientists think the female of the species walked upright first.
Beware "The Power" because as we now know The Force is with women!
Deborrah
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Men just don’t know that women know what they are thinking and what they are about even before the guy gets the thought out of his head good. Even women who are in denial knows the deal. We may not always act like we know but we know. I’m reminded of that line from the movie Hustle & Flow when the white prostitute Nola tells Djay at one point when he’s trying to BS her again, she finally says something to this effect. “Just because I don’t say anything doesn’t mean I don’t know what you’re doing. I know. I let you think I don’t know all of this time,, but I know. Terrance Howard’s character DJay is taken aback. All of this time, he had that girl down as being a dizzy when she just told him, she’s aware of his game and he isn’t fooling her one bit. In the end, she’s the one who pulls things through. (I love that movie BTW).
Yes indeed women have the power and men are afraid of a woman’s intuititve powers especially when that power is turned on them. Men hate getting called on their crap. They hate when a woman can see inside of them like Xray vision that will make superman blind. When men think they are getting away with something, like cheating, lying etc… it’s not because they’ve fooled the woman, it’s because most times the woman has chosen not to make it a point of contention between just yet. But oh yeah she knows. Don’t think she doesn’t. Women are the nuturers, the childbearers, so they are equipped to be more intuitive because they have to read cues and be observant to little babies who cannot verbally communicate during the first 12 months of their lives.
So men, don’t even try it. Your woman sees through all of that stuff. If she isn’t saying anything right away…just wait…she hasn’t forgotten….she knows when you are sleeping, she knows when you’re awake, she knows when you’ve been …. (Santa Claus is a woman didn’t you know? LOL