Heavy, Fat and Obese Single Women and Dating
The media is filled with stories about the high rates of obesity in the United States, focusing on the States with the highest rates of obesity and “obesity related illnesses.” What if I were to tell you that associating a dozen or more illnesses with obesity is nothing but a scam to enrich the coffers of the diet and weight loss industry? What if I were to suggest that focusing men, by focusing on a woman’s weight as one of the top criteria for selecting her as a date or a mate, are doing themselves a great disservice and allowing media to control their thinking about the female body and what is sexy or attractive?
Tonight we will take a look at the issues of weight, specifically focusing on how it affects women of color. From their perceived sexual attractiveness and healthiness, to social, romantic and employment opportunities – being overweight or obese affects every part of a woman’s life. No matter how educated and successful she is, men and women and society continue to judge women by their physical appearance. This attitude also affects how a woman views herself.
But what if a woman should lose the weight that has been plaguing her for decades? What (if anything) changes about her self-perception, her personality, her dating options? What opportunities might be presented to a woman that fits the national height and weight charts that an overweight/thick/phat woman would be denied?
Do men see a fat woman that has lost a great deal of weight as attractive now or just a skinny fat girl?
Tonight we’ll address questions such as:
- What emotional problems might an overweight woman be hiding?
- Do slim women have more success and better relationships with men?
- How heavily influenced are men by the images they see online and in girly magazines in assessing a woman’s sex appeal?
- There are men that prefer fuller figuered women – do they hide out of fear of ridicule by their male friends, or admit their preference openly?
- Does a slim woman make a better wife, partner or lover than a heavier woman?
- What changes occur in a woman when she has bariatric surgery and loses 100 or more pounds?
Please join us for what is sure to be a very interesting discussion on Saturday, November 27th, 2010 at 7:00 p.m. (Pacific) / 10:00 p.m. (Eastern) on The Date Smarter Not Harder Relationships Talk Show.
Deborrah
Veteran social researcher, relationship advice columnist, author and radio host. Author of hundreds of articles on American and black culture, gender issues, singles, dating and relationships. Author of "Sucka Free Love!" , "The 24 Types of Suckas to Avoid," "The Black Church - Where Women Pray and Men Pray," and "Why Vegan is the New Black" all available on Amazon.Com. Her unique voice and insightful commentary have delighted fans and riled haters for 20 years. Read her stuff on SurvivingDating.Com and AskHeartBeat.Com.
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Lose the weight.
Argue with a man all you want about what you think he should like but he knows what he likes.
Some men will hit it with a fat girl on a jump off but a relationship is a no go.
This is in the same way that some women will get with a broke man on a jump off but will never consider a relationship.
Well, like I said on the show, that is an individual thing. Some men like super boney women like Paris Hilton, and others want to give her to a dog to knaw on. Some men like plumper women with a build more like Queen Latifah (brothas say they want warmth in the winter and shade in the summer or some such craziness), and some will not be satisfied with anything less than a Gabrielle Union look-a-like. Even though they themselves look rather troll-like. Some men like big breasts and some like fat asses. Some are more into legs.
What is so funny is that each man that likes a specific thing states his case like he is the ultimate authority on what ALL MEN LIKE. No homey, all you can talk about is what YOU like. Interestingly enough, many men prefer heavier women but they are ashamed to publicly admit it because of all the flak they get from guys like you.
Lastly, there are many women that have their own money these days and are not looking for a man to “take care” of them. If their guy has ambition and is working towards achieving his goals, they have no problem getting with a broke man for a relationship. Why else do you think these Brothas are all over You Tube complaining about women not picking them for love and marriage, but getting with Pooky and Ray Ray instead? That’s because your statement is false. It applies only to a select group of women, but certainly not most.