Dear Ms. HeartBeat:
My sister is not very close with my mom, my dad and me. There are a few different reasons for this: One is that her husband is an asshole and we can’t stand to be around him. Another reason is that my mom has been ill for the last few months and my sister has only visited her once because she’s “so busy.”
Anyway, my sister’s first baby is due in three months and I’m wondering if we’re obligated to throw a shower for her. Even if we wanted to, I don’t think my mom is up to it, and I doubt if anyone else would even throw one for her. A few people have already commented that they wouldn’t be coming, because they’re pissed that they never received a thank you note from my sister from her wedding two years ago.
On one hand I love my sister and I don’t want her feelings to be hurt, but on the other hand I feel like the gesture would be forced and insincere.
Am I a Hater?
Dear Am I:
I don’t think you are being a hater at all. I think your sister is a self centered narcissistic little bitch. And HELL no you shouldn’t give her a shower! Showers are for people that are kind, giving, and special to you. She doesn’t appear to believe that anyone is special except for herself. And with her mother being sick, she should have come around to check up on her and help out around the house.
I’m wondering how she justifies turning her back on the woman who birthed her like that? How can anyone be so selfish that you never take the time to send people a “thank you” note like you have some damn sense and home training?
No, don’t even think about it. I would suggest that you give her a gift and call it a day. Let her husband’s family give her a shower, or her coworkers, or her friends. And if she should fix her lips to whines about it, tell her you were “too busy” taking care of your Mom.
She will understand that shade, and you won’t hear another peep out of her selfish behind.
Category: Women's Issues