Valentine’s Day and Selfish Ass Men

| 02/05/2012 | Comments (83)

All over the Internet men are whining about the “fake holiday” that is Valentine’s Day. Even small children understand that this is a day set aside to show someone that you care and that they are special to you!  What is it about that concept that grown ass men don’t get?

Why do so many men resent Valentine’s Day and spend hours bitching and moaning on websites, blogs and to anyone that will listen about why women don’t deserve to be honored on Valentine’s Day?

I’ll tell you why! Because those men are spoiled, selfish assholes!

These fellas want everything their way, they want women to believe what they believe, and they want women to fall in line and not demand much of anything from them. These men want to receive the benefits of a woman’s time, attention, affection, loyalty, cooking, cleaning and body 365 days a year without spending even 60 seconds on the one day set aside to make one’s lover feel special.

A blog post by Marc Rudov advocated “No-Mance Day” instead of Valentine’s Day.  A quote from his page:

I gladly do sweet things for women, including buying them flowers, when I choose to do so — not when radio and TV spots instruct me, not when women expect or demand it, and not if these women wouldn’t reciprocate or initiate the same gestures.

I don’t pay for sex, and I never will.

Check out that last line ladies. He like every other man that cosigned onto his proposal equates a woman’s sole value with sex. That’s it. It’s okay for him to expect or demand sex, but it’s somehow wrong for a woman to expect him to spend time or energy showing — on just ONE DAY now — that his woman, his relationship and the sex you two have is important and special to him.

Wow.



Some of the men griped that a woman shouldn’t expect them to “go broke” on Valentine’s Day, as if doing anything at all costs an arm and a leg. That was their excuse not to do anything – it costs too much.  Really?  But the $59.99 you spent ON YOURSELF for an X-Box Madden game, well hey, that was a life-saving, absolutely necessary purchase! I get it.

Look guys, giving someone a card that you made costs nothing.  Adding one red rose costs a few bucks. Writing your woman a poem or a love letter and giving it to her on Valentine’s Day is free. Cooking her favorite meal and setting the table with candles costs what.. an extra $5 for the candles?

Selfish men go to great extremes and come up with the most creatively bullshit excuses not to do anything  for a woman on that one day.  You stubbornly insist that since it’s “expected” you won’t do it, and you “don’t pay for sex” either.

The guys with this selfish hoarding mentality are always single. The mentality that they don’t have to go out of their way to occasionally please a woman guarantees that they will remain single for many, many years. Even if they are lucky enough to get a woman to date them for awhile, when she realizes how self centered he is, she will leave him anyway.

Another interesting fact that surprised me was how many Black women defended these emotional and financial cheapsters. These women claimed that it’s a nothing day anyway, and that men should not be on the hook or “forced” to show a woman any special attention on Valentine’s Day.

Personally, I think those statements are being made by women that don’t want to get their hopes up about men. Not anymore. They’ve been repeatedly disappointed by men in the romance department, and in response have lowered their expectations of men to ground level. That way they don’t get their feelings hurt when the guy in their life doesn’t do anything for them or treat them like they are special. They aren’t upset because they never expected him to do anything for them anyway.

I say that with confidence, because even as young children in Kindergarten, females love Valentine’s Day!  Women love romance and passion and for men to show that they care in many small ways on a daily basis.  Sure guys might do things YOU want to do for her when YOU want to do them over the course of a year. But to women, Valentine’s Day is a day set aside to show extra love. Why refuse to do it?

Every woman likes to be thought of as special to her man and it started with Little Reggie Smith that brought her a penny Valentine and a lollypop in first grade. He didn’t expect sex – he just wanted to show how much he liked her.

Wise women also know that when a man really loves a woman with his full heart, he jumps at the chance to celebrate Valentine’s Day and is not grudgeful about it either.  A man that loves his woman is proud to bring joy to his woman’s heart and put a delighted smile on her face on Valentine’s Day.

Few woman would verbally check her man about him not doing anything for Valentine’s Day.  But the fact that your woman doesn’t SAY anything to you does not mean she doesn’t FEEL negatively about your behavior.  You can bet that inside she feels unappreciated and neglected and her feelings are hurt.  She wonders why you don’t think she is important enough to show a little extra attention to her  — just to make her feel good.

Your stubborn refusal to give her attention on Valentine’s Day puts  your relationship on the fast track to disaster.

Your woman sees that you are a man that cares only about himself and what YOU think. Your woman sees that you are a man that gives only when YOU think she should have something, not when she needs or wants it. Inside she knows you are a man that will resent female expectations of performance, unless YOU want to meet them, and it has to be at YOUR convenience.  She now knows that you are a man that will leave her starving for romance – just because YOU don’t think its important.

Women smart enough to recognize these facts will break up with a guy when he doesn’t do anything for her on Valentine’s Day. You guys want to attribute the break up to unrealistic expectations about “one stupid day.”  In reality, your refusal to participate in a lover’s day celebration shows that you think of her as nothing but a convenience… she feels like nothing to you but a booty call. The realization that you feel so little about her happiness motivates her to dump you on the spot.

Many women feel sad and unappreciated on Valentine's Day

Sometimes I wonder if men are really as clueless as they come across. I’m serious! I look at all the ways they slight and injure women they claim to love – the controlling behaviors, resentful attitudes, the selfishness – and I shake my head.

Men have the power to save their relationships by getting smart about how they treat the woman in their life, and it begins with adjusting their attitude about Valentine’s Day.

It takes you guys as little as 15 minutes to “celebrate” Valentine’s Day, but your woman loves the extra attention for days.  The card you made or carefully chose, the poem or song  you wrote, or the love letter you penned will be cherished forever.

Why is that such a problem?

And why is it that so many Black women don’t feel deserving of that kind of adoration?

What do you say readers?

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gritsandpancakes
gritsandpancakes

Thank you Deborrah,

As a complete and incurable idiot (a man) I didn't realize what a problem I and the rest of the idiots that make up one half of the world's population have been creating for you. Every woman in America is on board with your assessments of this very important holiday. That is why women never complain about anything on Valentine's Day except the gross mistreatment that they suffer at the hands of men (hereafter referred to as 'the terror'). When a woman stands me up for a Valentine's dinner we had planned for weeks in advance and that I spent much time and effort preparing and instead sleeps with my roommate I should have realized that my anger and disappointment was really just unwarranted selfishness. Women deserve romance. All women. As a member of the terror I have foolishly wondered why it is that I have to be vocally observant and complimentary to all superficial changes in a woman's physical appearance in order to keep her from leaving me while neither she nor any woman I've had a relationship with has ever taken the three seconds necessary to say, "You look handsome." Now I know that it's because I didn't deserve it. I probably never will. Women don’t actually owe anything to the terror so why should they be likeable or polite, especially when they don’t receive what the terror owes them as a collective gender? The terror act as a kind of collective consciousness so realistically I have no control over my own actions and all control over the actions of all the terror.

An intelligent woman will know that certain things are expected of a halfway decent terror. Those things are unspoken. This is obvious. When I make a dinner rather than making a reservation at a restaurant that she wanted to go to and never told me about I have no one to blame for her anger but myself. What a dipshit, right? I had thought for years that when I told strange women to have a happy Valentine's Day that I was doing it to make them a little happier. Of course I was wrong. Really, I just wanted to have sex with all of them. I mean I am incapable altruism as is the case with all of the terror. We all just want something for nothing. Women shouldn't have to stoop to same level as the terror and say something like, "You too," in response to such false kindness. Likewise romance must of course be initiated by a terror since a woman spends so much effort all year long to show how much she cares for these undeserving creeps. That’s why no woman would ever gawk or get bitter at the idea of paying her own half of the bill at a café. No woman would ever flock to the wealthiest and most alpha terror in the room along with all the other women because women are incapable of selfishness or superficiality or neglect for other people’s feelings, at least not in same capacity as the terror.

Speaking of romance, we should mention the erroneous connection the terror make between romance and sex. Sex is after all totally irrelevant in romance unless a woman says otherwise. The fact that no woman whom doesn’t want to fuck me would ever dream of entering a relationship with me shouldn’t blind me to the reality that sex isn’t everything. In fact, this article is a stark reminder that I and the rest of the terror are really just lucky when we get laid. Women are just showing them pity. Sex has a higher meaning for women. No terror would think of sex as a break from the harsh realities of great responsibility or the soul-crushing effects of poverty where they get to be close to someone and show unrestrained affection in the arms of another person. We can’t do that. To us, sex is a competition and every morning after is another golden cup in our carnal trophy cases. Jesus, you can just imagine what life is like for gay terrors. They’re both horrible people to begin with because they’re the terror. They probably have to take turns ignoring each other in order to fulfill their duties as dirty rotten Valentine’s Day haters.

I am so glad that you have the wisdom and courtesy to tell other women to break their relationships up over what is almost certainly one of the most important and well defined holidays in this country. It is appropriate to generalize about tens of millions of people you have never met nor have any data on since that’s what makes good research. I applaud your courage. It takes real bravery to preach to the choir.

-Have a good summer


Luckystrike351
Luckystrike351

V day is about the celebration of a romantic relationship between TWO people. Somehow, over the decades, V day turned into a day where it's solely a man's job to pamper and grovel at the feet of a woman he's romantically involved with.  That said, V day today is no different then celebrating an anniversary....

Guys will stop complaining about V day when women spend their money and equally participate in the V day other then just offering sex at the end of the night. Make us feel special too! Do something for us! Cook us a meal, pay for the dinner,  or buy us a car part that we always wanted...SMMFH! 

Katie005
Katie005

Brilliant article and whole heartedly agree.  I was one of those women who wasn't acknowledged on Valentines day in any way shape or form by the guy I was dating and it felt like a huge kick in the teeth.  However, it was for the best as was just the wake up call I needed to let me know that I was nothing to him other than a glorified booty call and actually gave me the incentive to dump his sorry arse for good!  Very well written and accurate article.

issa24
issa24

Most of the men I see whining about VD are single. Like, you won't be spending anything anyway so why the fuck do you care? Why do you need to whine and complain, rant on the internet about something that doesn't even effect you? That is what baffles me the most. Women will go to hell and back to show their man how much they mean to them but women will NEVER get that in return. I don't even bother w/relationships because most of the 'men' are bottle of the barrel assholes. I just fuck them and show their sorry asses the door. Really it is the only way to deal w/them. No stress, no drama to deal with.

bogobo
bogobo

Sorry, but just like men aren't entitled to sex from women, women aren't entitled to romance from guys.

 

Any woman who DEMANDS romance instead of INSPIRING it has a few screws loose.

 

I hope you get your issues sorted out.

 

Much love,

Anonymous

Alice666
Alice666

Any man who whines about buying a 1.99 flower for a woman he claims to love, saying he'll never "pay for sex", (as if one can even buy a desperate crack ho for that little), will end up paying MUCH more for sex, when he finds himself old...and very much alone.

DirtyVillain
DirtyVillain

LOL OMG A FEMINIST!!!! moaning about men (and only men) not pulling their weight on Valentines day, the irony ;-)

daddySoulpoll
daddySoulpoll

  Although i understand your "feelings" you should recognize the fact that this day is merely just another day. This day is designed to create a wedge between the sexes,especially if the little girl fantasies haven't disappeared. It is time to truly become adults. Please do some research on the origins of this day. Valentine's Day is based on the death of an individual, which in turn has propagated a commercial hoax to force sheeple to spend energy and money . It is unfair  to say men are selfish when he knows this so called "lovers day" is almost always one sided. The very few lucky ones get the love reciprocated. I guess you forgot about the  6 or 7 other big event days  that  go on in the year like Birthdays, Vacations, Mothers Day, anniversary, the day you met.... etc. I agree with you 100% that men should make a total effort to show appreciation to the woman he loves on special event days however the key word is love.To suggest people break up over, as you put it "one stupid day"  sounds like someone who is not interested in helping people stay together. To break up or be angry with someone who has come to the adult realization that love is not something you base on one day is criminal as well as immature.

So if you want to break up with us over one  non-holy day that's fine because now we know the other 350 plus days  you were only pretending to be in love with us. -Daddy Soul

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vsykes
vsykes

i love this article! so sad and yet so true!...i agree that its not only the men that should show affection ..sure the women should too! absolutely!...yes its a two way street...and to all the fellas that have been burned by the kind of women only wanting a 'gift' or bragging rites etc...all i can say is sure those kind of women are out there too!..youve run up on the wrong kind of woman!...there are truly sweet hot women out there that would appreciate it!~...so dont give up your chilvary just yet okay?...but from most of the post im reading?...the woman did/does buy the guy something...her only worry is that he wont and she will feel 'hurt' etc...think about it...

vsykes
vsykes

i totally agree with you Deborah...and im not a man hater either as some called you...i dont want to hear the crap about it just being 'another day' blah blah...no its not...sure its what happens the other days that matter most but Valentines is a day set aside to show love especially...and it dont have to 'cost' nothing!...a phone call a text a simple 'Happy Valentines'...warms the heart...so what is the harm?...even if someone doesnt traditionally celebrate holidays...? that is no excuse!...perhaps a girl dieting may not of really wanted the guy's well meaning box of chocolates..but it was the thought...and she will always know he tried and he did 'something'!...not doing or saying Anything?...sucks beyond measure...and yes i think it does expecially for a woman because women are just geared that way...they look at it as...while the 'world is celebrating love' and all the love songs playing on the radio..their 'man' got them NOTHING? ...how much worse can it honestly get?...to have someone and still feel SINGLE...! at least if your single the object of your desire may not do as you might have hoped...but at least you know not to expect anything...but to be coupled up and he do NOTHING...oh my God...come on men...you can do much better than that for your lady or even your lady 'friends'...at least show some love...especially if they do you...hell me and my 'only just friends' did as much for each other...if you are a man and you have a lady? ...and you did nothing...you should hang your head in shame...you are foolish and you WILL loose her eventually...dont say you werent told...smdh

vsykes
vsykes

what about just a simple 'Happy Valentines Day Sweety'....would that cost him ANYTHING!...no i dont think so and sometimes that is ALL that is wanted or needed...just a simple acknowledgement...i am greatful for this article because you are 100% right about the 'motivations' for 'NOT" doing anything..or even so much as acknowledging it!...they wont do it because its expected..and so they act like bafoons and wonder why thier woman leaves them for someone that isnt too 'proud' to show they care..may not happen THAT day or even the day after...but you can best believe that it is NEVER forgotten!...deep down they feel you dont really care enuf about them to acknowledge them at all !...and if continually repeated?...Guess what?..she wont Want you to do a damn thing to show you care...she wont want ANYTHING from you...you will be history...! Believe it or not?...but im telling you...women remember and love sentiments...not too many maybe..but come on...Valentines Day?...you men had better do 'something'...and yes...women should also do something for their man as well...but that is not usually a problem normally because women thrive on displays of emotion love and sentiments...they welcome recieving them and they love giving them...so yes if a woman doesnt do that?...she either dont really give a crap about you?..or either she is just already is cold to your chill and she is not wasting her emotions or expectations on you anymore...and trust me...that is even worse....you are already 'history' she is only waiting for someone else to catch her eye her heart and her emotions...deep down she already knows that YOU totally SUCK!...sorry...but its the truth..but hey?...you still got your 'pride'?...and you didnt give into...'conventialism' and/or her expectations and hopes...you must feel so proud right about now..huh?..lol

Doogan
Doogan

I guess I have the advantage of dating a feminist. She thinks Valentine's Day is pretty offensive. Men shouldn't have special privileges just because of their gender, but conversely the idea that men should be saddled with such a one-sided obligation purely because they are men is silly to her.

Think about it: you never hear men talk about what they expect from their girlfriends on Valentine's Day, nor do you ever hear women talk about what they plan to do for Valentine's Day. Valentine's Day is primarily a male responsibility.

So we decided that we would only celebrate it if we could do so in an egalitarian way. So it's not about what I'm going to do, it's about what we're going to do. Most years we plan a special dinner and cook it together.

Neither of us ever complains about Valentine's Day.

AnitaFarmer
AnitaFarmer

TRULY A great article and such a shame too... Im sadly looking at all these states converting over to making gay marraiges legal and like i said this is not good at all not if you follow what "GOD SAID"....COME'ON Men and Women why can't we "Make it Last"!!! 50-60% divorce rates, breakups aft 10,20,30yrs...cheating, games, stupidity and nonsense...(all this lots of times because of LUST) VALENTINE's Day is a fun day but it all comes down to what's in the "heart".....what's in your heart...and ladies this is a 2-Way street as well.....MEN it is about ROMANCE(not the sheets all the time); WOMEN show appreciation...let him know you're my HERO!

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AnitaFarmer
AnitaFarmer

Consider this....there's plenty of freedom in NY, Calif, New Hampsh, Viermont.....

maskedwriter
maskedwriter

I totally agree with Marc Rudov. Men should not only boycott Valentine's Day, but also marriage and any other institution where the deck is stacked against men and boys. The current Feminazi gynocracy that men must endure needs to be changed.

When will men be free?

This is all about freedom and men don't have freedom in Western countries anymore. Men should have psychological and economic equality when it comes to dating, romance and Valentine's Day. Currently, men don't have this equality, so BOYCOTT VALENTINES DAY AND MARRIAGE GUYS!

life blows
life blows

my bf promised me we'd do something this valentine's day and we didn't.... I was home, alone, eating one of the last remaining boxes of low quality chocolate the store had.... Which I bought..... It's July and I'm still depressed about it.... he has not made it up to me..... I some times think it be better to be single.

Jil
Jil

Hi

The first year I met my boyfriend- he made sure to do Valentines with me though in the middle of a divorce- Year 2 the divorce became final on Valentines Day- from then on every year he uses the excuse that it is too commercial to bother . And not a big deal.
So every year I dread valentines Day -am sad, and feel unloved and it hurts.
He is cold and indifferent and insensitive to it .
Says he loves me and does other things for me- like dutyful things but no romance-
Guys- when you love someone- you put aside your childish crap and do something to make the woman of your life happy- you certainly do not deliberately hurt her over and over-just so you can pound your chest like the Big ape that you are

SpecialK
SpecialK

Great article. Women like men should be shown love and appreciation on Valentine's Day. As stated, it doesn't have to be expensive - just a token to say you care.

Lyndon
Lyndon

I agree with most of your sentiment but one huge point....

Men are selfish because women not only allow us to be, but are magnetically drawn to selfish men. Within the safe confines of a relationship is when women release their truest desire.

Unfortunately, up until that point, many women will accept pretty much anything.The frustration for many guys is that these demands were not present before entering the "serious" part of the relationship. So when along with a laundry list of other demands, the woman now feels worthy of a Valentine and for many guys it's not only annoying it's a surprise.

Again, I agree that men are selfish, but it's primarily because in the courting process women allow SOOOO much that it's nearly impossible to go in reverse and have even SEMI high expectations.

jl
jl

You want to talk about selfish and spoiled? In this time of supposed "equality", men are expect to court women, be chivalrous, and honor them on Valentine's Day while getting a bag of dog shit in return and all the woman has to do is decide whether or not she likes what the man purchased for her. Spoiled little divas and princesses, when do we as men get our day to be appreciated? What, when you "put out" for us? Is that not a glorified form of prostitution, having to shower you with monetary gifts in order to get laid?

Beverly
Beverly

That guy Marc Rudov that wrote that was quoted in the article about 'nomance day' is one angry looking white dude. I checked out his site. I wonder if he has a SO in his life? What woman would want to be with him? He writings show he has ultimate contempt and hatred for women. Maybe he hated his mommy or something or is bitter behind a divorce or something and never got therapy. But any man who writes 20 out of 130 articles boycotting valentine's day and talking about how to avoid spending money on women in order to date them,is an emotionally damaged man.

Any man listening to this clown is a man on the fast track to not having long term success with women. Women these days don't have time for that foolishness. They will leave a man with a quickness with a fonky attitude.

This dude though he might be educated and financially successful, he is the very type of male women should avoid. He is dangerous to them. Probably emotionally and verbally abusive too. He might be married, but I have to wonder about the state of mind of his wife. Just because a man is married doesn't mean he is making his wife happy. This is one angry looking Mofo.

Razzy
Razzy

 @bogobo "Any woman who DEMANDS romance instead of INSPIRING it has a few screws loose'

 

Interesting... what "inspires" you to show romance to a woman? 

zipporah
zipporah

The reason men get CHEAP etc. on Valentines Day, is that WOMEN ALLOW THEM TO. Ladies, YOU DONT SLEEP WITH A GUY UNLESS HE'S YOUR HUSBAND..If you go on laughyourway.com, with Mark  Gungor, you can find out why (check out his youtube vids too). He says the most special thing a woman gives a man is her BODY and the most special thing a man gives a woman is his FREEDOM..he also has a radio show markgungorshow.com--Ladies do stuff for men too on V'Day but sex shouldnt be  one of them

zipporah
zipporah

THAT INDIVIDUAL was marrying ROMAN SOLDIERS who were CHRISTIANS. at that time ROME didnt want their soldiers to MARRY but could have all the free sex at their temples. The shape of the heart, if you look closely, is two people sharing their wedding kiss. Maybe Valentine didnt invent the term'you may kiss the bride' but this shows a little of it. the romans had to figure out a way to show where Valentine was, so they made the 'kiss' or heart symbol (its not a butt guys...LOL)Maybe this selfishness could be why women Years ago, didnt 'give it up'..and liked guys who were crooners...it's this c/Rap and c/Rock culture that RUINED IT

Razzy
Razzy

 @daddySoulpoll 

This day is created to show your love for your significant other whether that be a man or a woman.  A fool like you that would attribute a negative connotation on Valentine's Day is an idiot that is probably not getting anything and if you are,she must be a desperate woman.

zipporah
zipporah

Hey, a $1.50 rose is a good present along with a card; I bet these dudes wouldnt be this way if he had to EARN HER.....

topaz627
topaz627

 @Doogan I guess if many women expected their man to do something they would plan for Valentine's day. I know if I did get surprised with a gift, I would reciprocate some way.

topaz627
topaz627

Wow men aren't free in America anymore? That's a stupid comment. You're "free' to get a job and "free' to have an opposing opinion with the government publicly and not be  jailed for it so stop bitching. Your so called "freedom' is only under attack when you have to actually put effort and care about a woman in a relationship. To you freedom is to have unlimited and unquestioned access to women, to treat them however you want to and not be called out for it. Which is probably why you're a lonely troll on a relationship website. lol

eLLe85
eLLe85

@ Troll aka masked--->You sound like a natural, 100% grade A, certified FOOL.

AnitaFarmer
AnitaFarmer

Maybe...maybe not...re -evaluate what kind of rela you have and if you truly want to stay in it....

Deborrah
Deborrah

Not necessarily single, but definitely not in a relationship with that chump! You should have broken it off with him on that day. The fact that he made a promise to you then didn't keep it is reason enough to get him terminated. A man's word is supposed to be his bond. If the people that he claims to love cannot believe in him, trust in him, have faith that he will do the things he promises and be the man he claims he will be, then what is the good of being in a relationship with him? Why love someone you cannot depend on, that lies to you, or blows you off as less important than whatever else he decided to do ON VALENTINE'S DAY!?

zipporah
zipporah

I notice, when men and women share sexuality IT BINDS THE WOMAN MORE THAN THE MAN and this could be why it's harder for woman to break up. Women lose pitocin and cant bond with a man who could love her later--aka, a GOOD MAN

Raz
Raz

Jil are you still with this knucklehead boyfriend of yours? If so why?

Raz
Raz

I think 'expense' is relative depending on the generosity of the people involved and the size of their wallet. One man might take his woman on a romantic B&B getaway or a ski trip, or a long weekend trip to Bermuda and think nothing of it. After all, it's once a year and men can plan and save ahead of time for it. Just like they plan and save ahead of time for that 55 inch HDTV Flatscreen High Def #D TV they've been longing for and the many xbox 360 games they buy, and the expensive tickets they buy to attend sports events. Suddenly when it's Valentine's Day men want to cry broke and it's too expensive. But it's never too expensive for him to buy the things he wants for 'himself' and if he can't afford it, I'm sure he hits her up for money too. So I say, for Valentine's day, if a dude has planned well and saved his money towards it, he can afford to expensively indulge his Sweetheart on Valentine's day.

Raz
Raz

Lyndon: "Men are selfish because women not only allow us to be, but are magnetically drawn to selfish men"

A lot of men just don't care and have learned to tune out the disappointment he sees in his woman's eyes when he doesn't show her romance on Valentine's day. The women copes, by telling herself Valentine's Day really isn't important. I do agree that more women need to quickly dump these trifling fools instead of bending themselves into a pretzel to please them when they aren't getting pleased in return.

Deborrah Cooper
Deborrah Cooper

You either didn't read the article or you have very poor reading comprehension skills. Nowhere in that article did I say anything about "showering" anyone with "monetary gifts." Wow.

I specifically outlined the ways such selfish men as yourself can spend 15 minutes showing the woman you think is gonna be screwing your dumb ass that you at least appreciate her. A $3 card and you bitching about that? A $10 bouquet of flowers and that's too much? Cooking her breakfast and serving it to her on a tray in bed costs nothing, since you were gonna eat breakfast anyway. Writing a poem or love letter is free unless you go buy fancy paper and a pen with special scented special ink or something.

You are just an angry cheap ass fool. No woman wants to be bothered with you because you are selfish and stingy. That's why you are resentful and angry. That's why you are single.

CaliforniaLA
CaliforniaLA

@Deborrah @Luckystrike351  And where did you get the idea that men aren't doing anything for women for those 364 days a year?


That's why V-Day is unfair, because it's based on many (bitter) women's false assumption that men do nothing for women 364 days a year. Men are still the ones who have to jump through hoops and pay for everything for their partner. Men also love their partner. The notion that men do not love during a relationship is a lie, and offensive to men in relationships.

topaz627
topaz627

 @zipporah sorry not everybody's going to follow your advice because they may not harbor your beliefs. Nor should you perpetuate the idea that a women's value is sex and nothing else.

Chris4267
Chris4267

 @Razzy  @daddySoulpoll Typical response from the typical self entitled narcissistic modern woman. You have no argument so rely on insults. If your first sentence was in any way remotely true then men and women would spend equal amounts on Valentines Day but they don't. It's men paying twice as much, it's women like you that are the reason men are rejecting marriage in droves. What man what want to be with a self centred woman like you?

Chris4267
Chris4267

Do feminists like you have nothing but insults? How much money do you spend on your partner on Valentines Day? Silly me, why am I asking? It'll be the typical female amount of "fuck all"

Raz
Raz

Deborrah: "You are just an angry cheap ass fool. No woman wants to be bothered with you because you are selfish and cheap. That’s why you are resentful and angry."

Yup pretty much. Jl and Eric and Bob Stoops are three he-motional fools with nothing going on, which is why they were whining on Valentine's Day instead of out handling their business in the arms of a woman (or a man). Instead they are in cyberspace whining bitching and moaning on your blog... LOSERS all of them.

CaliforniaLA
CaliforniaLA

@Razzy @Chris4267 @daddySoulpoll  The notion that women do most of the work in a relationship is an absolute lie.


What kind of relationships are YOU in to imply that men don't do anything except on Valentine's Days and anniversaries? Relationships involve men doing things for women 365 days a year.


Therefore, the notion that only women deserve a special day is unfair and sexist towards men.

Chris4267
Chris4267

@Razzy @Chris4267 @daddySoulpoll you're an idiot. Me and my girlfriend share the chores and we both work. One day she was feeling down so I took her out to cheer her up, I don't need to be coerced into spending a ridiculous amount of money on one particular day to be romantic. Relationships should be a partnership not one sided. Your comment about women doing more is bullshit. Self entitled bitches like you don't deserve a relationship because you think it's all about you. Have fun dying alone with your cats.

Razzy
Razzy

 @Chris4267  @Razzy  @daddySoulpoll 

Oh pluueeze, men who whine about doing something to show they love their woman on valetine's day don't deserve to have one.  We all know that most times in most relationships, women do much of the work 99% of the time. Women give far more to men 365 days of the year than they receive. So a man can set aside a few days a year to show her she is special. A woman isn't being self centered and entitled to realize that and expect it.

Chris4267
Chris4267

Typical selfish woman. I notice that women like you can never rely on anything but insults. Women don't have any obligation to be 'romantic' on Valentines Day and expect men to lavish gifts on them so they can brag to their equally vacuous friends. Funny how feminists suddenly throw it to the side when they think it will get them one big advantage. Maybe if selfish women like you actually did something on Valentines Day for a change us men might treat this grubby little day more seriously.

zipporah
zipporah

he's jUSt SPOILED by women, hey, men dont go what women go through when pregnant--a hard 40 WEEKS!  plus PUSHING  Some women do better and dont get sick. I wonder how many babymamas does he have. maybe he has none IDK

Deborrah
Deborrah

A typical selfish ass man. Resentful that women don't have to bow down and do his bidding or kiss his ass just because he is a male. A jerk that considers giving his woman a card and romancing her to be treating her like a spoiled little princess and that he is giving her privleges, like she is supposed to be grateful he is even looking at her. Continue to whine and be by yourself. That is why YOU are single.

Grow Up! Girlzzzz!
Grow Up! Girlzzzz!

You are lamenting like babies for more than 40 years to be 'equals'. You are now. You are in fact mutch more than equal, you are spoiled babies little princess who are allway crying for more privileges and more this and more that. But what do you give bakc, nothing, no gratitude. You are only doing more Shaming and Crying for more. You are never happy!

You can run on stupid non-argument like 'he-motional fools', 'no woman want to be blahblahblah', 'Thats why you are single' blah, blah blah. Grow Up!

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