Female Submission in Dating and Marriage: Why Should Women Submit to Men?

| 01/24/2012 | Comments (4)

Have you ever asked yourself why religions around the world promote the concept of female submission? Since it is acknowledged that men had sole input and responsibility for writing these ancient texts, would one not be suspicious at least a little bit that men might set themselves up to be in control? Why do women not question the fact that perhaps men had a vested interest in writing these religious texts in a way that would be favorable for them?

Since its 2012 and the entire structure of our world societies have changed, why do men (especially Black men), cling to the concept of female submission and the word “submit?”  When a man wants female submission, what is it that he is expecting to have happen? And why do Black men believe that submission by Black women is the #1 requirement for a happy relationship and marriage?

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stop twisting
stop twisting

submission is a weapon of selfishness men use against women to get wat they want why the relationship lags behind.if u notice there is a lot of patronizing that comes with submission so as to rule over that person and make that person do what they want.when they discover people whop notice this wicked act they make that person feel insecured as soon as possible yet if u are wise u will know its a weapon and its never a weapon of love.it is wanting to be seen,ego boosting and making others dormant so u get all d praises,it is used to take advantage of people and taking credit for what is not yours.they cant stand when those ppl outshine them they rather be crazy.it is a self aggravating word thar Christians themselves do not know how to check whether men and women are equal anymore they mostly teach about hell so ppl wud repent but dey dnt teach dis men that God hates pride and false egos.women are running away from commitment dis dayz cos of this issue,they are protecting themselves from being victimized by this kind of people ,they hate what tghey do and ppl now conclude they are bitter when they are merely avoiding problems and cant join them in their wicked act.its truly the world of hypocrisy when marriage is turned into payments instead of love for another before u can love one another u have to be equals.

Fuzzy Frisson
Fuzzy Frisson

Since, in the context of Black or African men, a majority of them follow Christianity, I will refer to that for my answer.


The men that trumpet female submission are doing so to not only perpetuate and preserve archaic, patriarchal values (that are essentially obsolete and unnecessary in modern areas of the world), which are heavily exacerbated religiously, but also feed their primordial egos with a self-satisfactory sense of domination, control and leadership.  In short, it's an alpha mentality.  Such mentality places deifying, unquestioning emphasis and 'power' on that very person (the male) and has no leeway or room for consideration of the other (the female).  After all, as many of these men like to proclaim, there can be only ONE head of a house.  Couple such mentality with a fundamentally flawed interpretation and application of religious texts and the submission contention will always be on one's hands.  Unfortunately, societies for centuries - as with any other habit - have rendered their people that way, so it will take another long length of time for attitudes to truly change and there to be an open, flowing relationship of mutuality and equality, particularly among 'Black' and many African relationships.


The thing i find funny with such men is that should a woman dare to request equality in a relationship, that woman is vilified and pilloried as a 'Westernised' pariah - yet those very men are relying on a WESTERNISED religion themselves to justify their ideals.  Hypocrisy, anyone?

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