Date Smarter, Not Harder
Lonely? Here are Five Secrets To Meeting Mr. Right!
As Valentine’s Day rolls around again, single women throughout the country are wondering where their Mr. Right is hiding. Why are so many beautiful, accomplished women without the loving relationship they seek? Ms. HeartBeat has five great ideas for how to avoid wasting time on Mr. Wrong.
The Emotionally Abusive Black Man – Part 2
Emotional abuse is the repeated use of negative behaviors by a male to control and gain the upper hand over a woman. When a man is emotionally abusive, every dismissive and critical word he says, every action he takes to make you feel badly, every threatening gesture he makes is being done with intent and malice. Don’t delude yourself into thinking emotional abuse is an accident.
Emotional Abuse and the Emotionally Abusive Black Man
The most abusive men are those that feel the most powerless, least confident, and most insecure about their accomplishments or abilities. In the U.S. those men are for the most part, Black men. Part 1 of 2 on emotional abuse and emotionally abusive men.
Men, I Hear You and Imma Let You Finish, but…
Men must stop overgeneralizing, stop misinterpreting statistics, stop taking things out of context, stop telling women what to do, stop trying to change us, and stop trying to control us.
Deborrah “Aesop” Cooper Tells the Tale of the Scorpion and The Frog
The scorpion and the frog, Aesop’s timeless lesson about trusting those who do not deserve to be trusted is retold with hood flava.
The Pair and a Spare Dating Program
Women need to stop trying to be “good girls” and instead stand up for their rights when it comes to dating. Tell men straight up: “hey, I am dating around to find the right fit. You might be that guy, but until I spend more time with you and get to know you better, I am going to continue dating a few guys. You should do the same.”
If You Didn’t Provide it For Yourself, It’s Not SELF Esteem!
Women with low self-esteem make poor choices in men out of fearful desperation. Women must stop allowing men to impact or control in any way their self image, and thereby damage or control their SELF esteem.
Can Exes Be Just Friends?
Can exes be friends? Sure they CAN, but what would be the point? Someone is just going to try to cock-block or get back in where you don’t want them to be, flip out with jealousy, or be all up in your business. When its over, let it be over and move on.
The “Stupid Muthafucka!” Gene
Some singles are so anxious for love they rush into commitments with stupid people they really don’t know much about. The older and wiser I get, the more I’ve come to realize the importance of taking the time to assess the personality, health history and attitudes of potential mates with a critical eye to their genetics. Why? Because stupidity is carried in the genes!
Sailing The Seven C’s of Love and Communication
There are seven primary behavioral patterns which dictate the success or failure of a romantic partnership. To encourage honest communication, respectful treatment and unyielding commitment to your relationship, try following these seven suggestions.
Should Women Ask Men Out on Dates?
Guest contributor Robert Monroe and columnist Deborrah Cooper debate the issue of women approaching and asking out a man that may not have noticed her or that may be too shy or afraid to take the first step. Though society has changed in many ways, what makes women feel loved and female expectations of male assertiveness remain unchanged. With that in mind, should women approach and ask men out on dates?
Don’t Waste Your Time on a Fearful Defeatist
Some people submit to defeat quickly. Their fear of failure causes them to settle for mediocrity instead of taking the risk to achieve excellence. Defeatist attitudes are easier to assume than facing one’s fears and moving forward. However, the courageous, those that become successful and leaders, those that make things happen never stop, never give up and never succumb willingly to defeat. The #1 goal of the courageous winner is to get to the other side of fear and the limitations fear places on our willingness to seek and then achieve greatness. Whatever you need to do, get over your fears!
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