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Opposites Attract or Do You Attract Who You Are?

. 12/28/2009 . 3 Comments

Which do we believe… opposites attract or you attract who you are? I really don’t think it’s at all necessary for a couple to be like a set of matched bookends or The Bobbsey Twins. Finding common ground with regards to emotional commitment, honesty, respect, and conscientious adherence to your marital ties, no matter how opposite you may be in dozens of ways, is the mark of a truly solid couple.

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Rejection and Dating – Why Rejection Hurts

. 11/09/2009 . 7 Comments

Rejection can hurt like hell and cause wounded singles to bunker down to lick their ego wounds. What these singles don’t realize, however, is that rejection may hurt but never under any circumstances should rejection ever be taken personally. However you were rejected and for whatever reason you were rejected, there are a few key steps to recovery. These steps won’t stop it from happening again but they will make you a better person for your experience!

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The Three Types of Black Men

. 09/02/2009 . 4 Comments

After studying Black men for decades, I’ve come to the conclusion that there are three different types of Black men. Sadly, more than half of the Black men in the dating pool are misogynists and truly hate women; their treatment of and the thoughts they express about Black women prove it.

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Can Dating Standards Be “Too” High?

. 09/01/2009 . 15 Comments

Everyone must have standards. Your standards become the criteria used to compare the men or women that come into your life to see if they measure up. If you don’t have standards, you’ll risk becoming involved with married or other emotionally unavailable sorts. You also risk developing an attachment to someone that you know is totally wrong for you.

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Jerks, Assholes, Idiots and Abusive Men: Recognizing Verbal Abuse

. 08/14/2009 . 12 Comments

Five common tactics abusive men use to derail female confidence. The goal for abusive men is to belittle and insult you so often that you shut down. He wants to be able to treat you any way he likes, and for you to take it without complaint because you’re so beaten down you believe his words to be true.

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Flying Your ‘Freak’ Flag… Sometimes it Needs to Be at Half Mast

. 08/03/2009 . 3 Comments

I’ve noticed that a great many men seem to have little patience or perhaps its restraint, when it comes to initiating sexually oriented conversation with women they barely know. What is the behind this rude ungentlemanly-like conduct? Why come at someone like a hooker and insult every woman you meet running your same, tired game when, if you acted like you had some sense and manners and graciousness, you’d get what you want a lot sooner and she’d be thrilled to give it to you? Men are dumb.

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We Broke Up – How Can We Be Friends?

. 08/01/2009 . 1 Comment

I have never understood why people insist on being friends with an ex! Why continue to put emotional energy towards something that does not exist? Why torture yourself by hanging around and talking to someone in a situation that has a very low potential to become what you wanted it to be? The clock is ticking! Why not re-invest your emotional energy into the possibilities of finding someone else that wants to direct their romantic energy towards you?

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7 Early Warning Signs of a Doomed Dating Relationship

. 07/26/2009 . 2 Comments

Do you notice that you repeatedly involve yourself with the same “type” of person over and over again? If so, the reason is most likely because you are either ignoring early warning signs that this situation is unhealthy and dangerous, or you don’t know what to look for. The earlier you notice signs of incompatibility such as these, the easier it will be for you to avoid getting hurt emotionally.

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Both Dating and Fishing Are Sports

. 07/22/2009 . 1 Comment

Have any of you ladies ever gone hunting or fishing? You should try it sometimes. It is a study in patience, planning and understanding the male mind. See, we can go to the grocery store and buy perfectly acceptable fish for $6.95 per pound that is already cleaned, boned and ready to eat. But men want excitement, to experience the thrill of winning and the memories and stories of the battle!

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When I’m Good, I’m Very Good…But When I’m Bad, I’m Even Better!

. 07/13/2009 . 1 Comment

Whether an angry, baby making hoochie, or a scripture quoting “good” woman, females at both ends of the spectrum of femininity are tiresome and boring. Both need to open their minds to new experiences and embrace the concept that a woman can be both intelligent and fun, spiritual and sexy – all at the same time. Tips for how to be an exciting woman that’s sometimes good, and sometimes not.

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Why Do We Settle for Less in Love and Life?

. 07/04/2009 . 0 Comments

Young women are socialized to idealize marriage as a fairy tale dream come true. Marry your Prince and live happily ever after, right? Wrong! If both men and women had a more realistic understanding of marriage, we’d choose our spouses a lot differently. We’d reconsider walking away from partners that would have made wonderful husbands and wives over some minor stupid thing not on our fantasy list. Instead we leave them behind and look for explosive passion and a Soul Mate convinced we are doing so because we don’t want to settle…

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Men Don’t Understand When They Are IN A RELATIONSHIP

. 06/30/2009 . 0 Comments

Explanation of what women mean when they say “we’re in a relationship” because guys just don’t seem to get it. When a woman is looking for a specific, desired outcome from their interaction with a person of the opposite sex, she labels their regular interaction as “a relationship.” A relationship is much more important in her life than a mere date. A relationship usually includes sex for women. Guys don’t get that if they have sex with a woman more than a couple of times, she is going to consider that “a relationship” whether you want it to be one or not! In other words, you are her boyfriend, with all the obligations and responsiblities that title entails.

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