Recently, several articles by single Black women praising Black men and admonish Black women for their criticisms and anger. These rah rah cheerleader Black women are not helping Black men at all, and really get on my nerves.
Contributing author Shadid C. McDonald and columnist Deborrah Cooper discuss a common complaint of black men – that beautiful black women don’t know how to “make a man feel like a man.” Both writers share their views on the issue.
A woman remarks on the institution of marriage, the traditional roles, and the benefits of having a wife. That’s why she wants a wife too!
Many Black men believe that all hell broke loose in America when the 1970s feminist movement came into being. These men feel that the dysfunction in the Black community – the collapse of every institution such as our churches, schools, families and communities – is due to the distortion of gender roles brought about by feminists. Looking back fondly on the apron wearing homemaker of the 1970s, Black men long for the caretaking and attention they didn’t get as children. If a woman prefers a career to staying at home with children all day, shouldn’t she have that right with no problems from her husband? Does marriage still mean property ownership of the female?
Men write me frequently to get my take on why Black women complain that they “can’t find a good Black man” or “can’t find a Black man on my level” when they are surrounded by educated, professional Black men. It made me wonder too. Why a guy, with all the outward appearances of a highly desirable catch (college educated, established, an “on point” Black man) would be passed over by women for romance and marriage. Well, I have some answers.
Though somewhat surprised by the intensity of the debate on my article on The Black Church, I am not at all shocked at the shake up the article has caused. Always a maverick and unafraid of either contentious criticism or debate, who but Deb Cooper would have the gumption to question the motives of an institution held so dear by millions of Black people across the nation? After all, if one is an avid church-goer, how likely are you to question your church on your own?
Single Black women sit in church every Sunday being brainwashed and placated into waiting for love. The true reason that there are so many single, never married Black women in the U.S. is Black churches that promote female submission and subjugation to men, to the detriment of female achievement and happiness.
Why is it that professional, educated Black women aren’t married like White women are? Why do Black men feel Black women didn’t know how to get and keep a man? Women should not get married. Marriage is basically a bullshit mind game played on women for generations. Until a woman is married and gets first hand experience, most do not understand that being a free maid, cook, breeding stock and social secretary is not a goal to strive to achieve. Marriage is for chumps and suckas!
The brainwashing of females by men in their lives as fathers and pastors, deacons and ministers is complete when women make statements that women should be submissive to men because it is a woman’s nature. It is not in a woman’s “nature” to be anything but great and powerful self-actualizing citizens of the world. Yet various cultures and religions have limited female options and choices based strictly on gender. Women of today, their mothers, and their mother’s mothers have all been socialized by men to believe that men are superior and that women should subjugate themselves to males. But that is nothing but a lie.
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