When a Religious Black Man is Looking for a Wife
Check out what this guy posted on another website under the title “Something Women Should Be Aware Of, That Men Looking for Wives Consider.”
First of all, let me get this out of the way. Why is it that every Negro with a thought tells black women that what HE thinks is universal and applies to every single man in the world since he thinks it? We’ll talk about THAT mess on an upcoming show.
Okay now for the quote:
One specific quality in a woman that spiritually minded men take into consideration when perusing online profiles is rarity.
You may be shaking your head at this point while thinking, “what in the world is this guy talking about?!?!” It’s actually quite simple. When looking at the many female profiles on bp, one thing is quite noticeable. Similarities in hairstyles (weaves and wigs), facial appearance (makeup and “arched” or as I would say, “thinly sliced” eyebrows), clothing (short skirts, or tight pants), and exposed flesh (breasts, legs, thighs and more) being the most frequent offenses, along with an undesirable attitude (statements like “Tired of fake &((*&^$#$^@#&^”, or Imma real (*&(*&@(^. No man in his right mind would desire a female dog as a wife.
The hard thing to find is a woman separated from the look, attitude, demeanor, understanding, and character of the world. Many brothers are searching for one that adorns herself with a meek, humble, and quiet spirit. One who the man and children can call blessed. Who can keep a home (Next paragraph), raise the children, and tend to the needs of her husband. One who has the lines up completely with the biblical “Virtuous woman”. “Who can find a virtuous woman”, is a VERY true, and profound opening.
Speaking of “keeping a home”, some of the pics of grown(over 21) women on the pages have backgrounds that look as if they weren’t cleaned since the industrial age. Dirty floors, sinks, walls, etc, clothes everywhere, disorganized kitchens with dirty dishes about. Are you kidding me? Instead of attempting to poke your behind out for a photo, how about getting a mop, broom, duster, soap, bleach, and water, and going to town on your surroundings? Trust me, a GOOD man has no desire to dwell in filth, or uncleanness. He’s looking for a woman who can keep a home clean, and lives a clean lifestyle herself. Your surroundings are a reflection of yourself. If they are nasty, you more than likely are too.
Last, but not least, REAL men are looking for a woman with the first and foremost goal of living a life to the glory of the Most High GOD of Israel. If you cannot submit and be obedient to the entirety of His gospel, what would make a man think that you will be a faithful and obedient wife to him? In closing, here are a couple of things to consider.
Please read the KJV.
1 Corinthians 11:5-6
Psalm 119:128
Exodus 28:40-42
Leviticus 6:10 (Breeches or Britches are pants)
Deuteronomy 22:5
Ezekiel 44:16-18
Isaiah 3:16-24 (Wrong adornment)
1 Peter 3:3-6 (Correct adornment)
Jeremiah 4:30 (Makeup)
Final Thought: 2 Timothy 3:16
This message was typed out of love for my sisters. Come back into obedience, ye daughters of Zion. Godly men are awaiting you, and ready to take you for their wife. May the desire for peace and love of the Lord abide in you, according to His perfect will and wisdom.
In Christ,
C.
Okay, so what do you think about all this? I will post what I said to him later.
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Thank you for your understanding remarks. It cease to amaze me how a (PIMP) can do as he will, and no one is speaking on that. When a kind descent man comes along, the women still wants, and chooses the so called (BAD BOY) because it excites them!
Isaiah 5:20, 21
Woe unto them that call evil good, and good evil; that put darkness for light, and light for darkness; that put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter! Woe unto them that are wise in their own eyes, and prudent in their own sight!
“But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.” Corinthians 11:3
All must understand, from the beginning there was intended order. Everything is now out of order.
Isaiah 3:12 fulfillment is for our time:
” As for my people, children are their oppressors, and women rule over them. O my people, they which lead thee cause thee to err, and destroy the way of thy paths. ”
It takes a man to make and raise woman.
Proverbs 31:10
” Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. ”
(Read the whole chapter)
What is the remedy?
As men, we must return to God!
” If thou wilt return, O Israel, saith the Lord, return unto me: and if thou wilt put away thine abominations out of my sight, then shalt thou not remove. ” Jeremiah 4:1
Malachi 4:5, 6
” Behold, I will send you Elijah the prophet before the coming of the great and dreadful day of the Lord : And he shall turn the heart of the fathers to the children, and the heart of the children to their fathers, lest I come and smite the earth with a curse. “
@JessicaSimms
I praise God for you my sister. I totally agre with all you have said. Yes there are deceiving brothers out there including in the church but for the most part what the gentlemen was saying holds true. Ephesian 5:22-25 says
Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands(A) as you do to the Lord.(B) 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church,(C) his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands(D) in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives,(E) just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. If this person is a true God fearing man then not only is he expecting his wife to submit to vs 22-24 but he will submit to vs 25 which is saying a whole mouth full. If a man loves you as Christ loves the church. You have gotten the prize.
@JacquelinePope @JessicaSimms
“If a man loves you as Christ loves the church. You have gotten the prize.”
Where in the bible does Jesus ‘actually says out of his own mouth that he loves the church?”
@Razzy She just said Ephesians 5. Please read the Bible before you make arguments like that.
@JessicaSimms @Razzy Again read the question carefully. I didnt ask where in the bible does it say Jesus loves the church. zi asked ehere in the Bible does Jesus say out of his oen mouth that he loves the church. Ephesians does not state this. this is Either Paul or Timothy a follower of Paul stating what HE thinks. Neither of them are Jesus. Them saying this is the same as anyone else stating their opinion. So agIn where in the Bible is there a direct quote from Jesus himself (you know how his direct eords show up in red in those old KJV Bibles. So where in the Bible is there a direct quote from Jesus’s mouth where he actually said himself “That he loves the Church”?
@JacquelinePope I’m sorry this is just ridiculous. Why blindly follow along with the scripture is saying when the man’s actions obviously is doing the exact opposite? If he wants a “godly wife” why is he looking at hoochies on dating sites? People he would be unequally yoked with? The words coming out of his mouth don’t erase his questionable actions and/or motives. That’s what you keep missing him saying all the scripture in the world can’t make up for walking the walk, and this brother’s is very weak.
Warming! Warning! Danger!
Now if this man and his religious diatribe doesn’t make any woman with good sense know to run and turn their ear from such mess, I would be shocked. Everything this fool talks about strikes me as very self-seeking and flat out selfish, but is thinly veiled behind religion-ese. These types of men are the worst kinds. They take their women through hell in the forms of verbal, physical, and emotional abuse all the while quoting scripture.
I am a woman that believes very strongly in biblical principles in dating, mating, and marriage. However, I am also a wise women to know that this girl doesn’t submit to a fool. I refuse to give my heart to a man that doesn’t honor, protect, share, care, commit, and love me. Just like the bible says he should. However, it’s fools like this that quote scriptures and sling the submit hammer that try to make a woman feel bad for asking for reciprocity in a relationship.
If a man is worth his weight in gold and does what a real man is supposed to, even the strongest, smartest, baddest chick will give him the keys to the kingdom. He just needs to play his position right. No woman in her right mind is going to submit to a man that is all about himself and no one else.
“Last, but not least REAL men are looking for a woman with the first and foremost goal of living a life to the glory of the Most High GOD of Israel.”
Nigga pluueezze. Rolls eyes. Stop the madness and quit lying to yourself. If you wanted a woman like that, why are you on dating sites looking at women tits and ass and scrutinizing their ‘too short’ clothes and legs? Why? Because you are getting off on it. If you wanted a woman of god, you would go to a church and get one and stay your butt off online dating sites. You would join a christian singles group or something. Women see through the “game’ males like him play. This is why christian woman are so easily mind fucked by males. Y’all listen to all that biblese talk and believe it. Men can easily get over on you based on what they ‘SAY” instead of what they are actually doing. Besides, don’t let these males who talk like that fool you. They don’t really want a woman like that. And if they have one, they are probably cheating on her with the type of woman they really want. I believe Ms. Cooper already wrote an article about it here
http://survivingdating.com/men-want-to-marry-ho-not-housewife
I understand that there are men out there that are out to harm women, when God says that men are supposed to be protectors. But this guy is speaking TRUTH. It is our job (as women) to be Proverbs 31 wives. 1 Peter 3 says:
“In the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands. Then, even if some refuse to obey the Good News, your godly lives will speak to them without any words. They will be won over
2 by observing your pure and reverent lives. 3 Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes.4 You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God.5 This is how the holy women of old made themselves beautiful. They trusted God and accepted the authority of their husbands.
6 For instance, Sarah obeyed her husband, Abraham, and called him her master. You are her daughters when you do what is right without fear of what your husbands might do.”
Yes there are men out there that are preying on women, but there are also serious men of God who want a wife that will honor them. There is nothing wrong with that. There are so many lukewarm people sleeping around and believing that they will be able to make a marriage work; or better yet, get into heaven. Listen to what God says about living for Him and not for our own selfish wants. When God has forgiven us for all of our wrongs, how can we not want to live for Him?
The part you don’t get young lady is that he is nobody’s husband! He is not a pastor. He has no right to tell a group of adult women what they SHOULD do with their eyebrows, their hair, their attire, or anything else. If he doesn’t want to be with them, then don’t! Just sit down and shut up somewhere. No one has to listen to him drone on and on complaining and whining about what God said women should do.
And you got caught up in the same drama. Nowhere in his statement does he say anything about what MEN are supposed to do to qualify to have that Proverbs 31 wife. These types think because they have a penis and facial hair, that qualifies them! And a lot of women believe that as well. If he is not married, he has no right to interject his thoughts and opinions about what women online (that he doesn’t know) do. In reality more of those women are happily married than are the church going Proverbs 31 women. Men don’t want that! They say they do, but what they really want is a ho. Someone that will screw their brains out, tell them they are just regular dudes and must strive to be greater, and cuss them out on the regular. That is what men respond to with desire and passion.
The women that listen to men and do what men say? All they get is used, abused and left pregnant and alone. The women that tell men where to go and how to get there are adored and chased by men.
Black women really need to stop listening so much to men. Most don’t have much sense or their own situations would be a lot better than they are. You all follow around behind them, doing what they say, jumping through hoops trying to please them, abiding by their rules. How does that work when every woman that I have ever met who does that mess has a boyfriend or husband that has cheated on her, that lies to her and breaks her heart. When you never challenge men they see you as too easy, too controllable, too predictable. And he knows if you follow Scripture he can play you like a violin using manipulative words that he says are from the Bible against you.
But again, the #1 problem I have with all this dictating what women should do by black men is that there are two standards. They sex down, impregnate women, drink, cuss and do WTF they want to do. Yet these controlling types will stand around with their nose in the air placing themselves in the position to judge what women do, say, wear, look like, live like, etc. That’s really not how things should be
@JessicaSimms “But there are also serious men of God who want a wife that will honor them”.
What does a wife get out of that deal? What benefit is in it for her to deal get with a dude who looking for honor from a wife? What benefit does a woman receive from a man who wants obedience and honor?
“Listen to what god says about living for him and not for our own selfish wants.’
What does this mean’ our own selfish wants’. Explain…in detail what constitutes ‘selfish wants’. Why isn’t the man considered ‘selfish when he wants obedience, submissiveness and subservience, from a woman? Seems to me it is all one-sided. The man gets is ‘entitled’ to (according to you) to receive certain character traits from women and it is condoned, but a woman is considered ‘selfish’ if she doesn’t comply..
Christian minded women are truly kinda messed up in their thinking. Is it any wonder that they are the most abused women on the planet. Their mindset is ripe for some dude to come along and fuck with them so easily. It’s like shooting fish in a barrel.
@Razzy I’m not arguing with God’s word, that’s all. If you read on, 1 Peter 3 says to men:
“In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered.”
When two people put God first in their life, over each other or anyone else in their lives, then they’ll understand what unconditional love means. It’s hard for anyone with a world-view to understand. So you have to look at it through an eternal perspective. The question for any major decision in your life, esp who you marry is “does this relationship bring me closer to God or farther away? Does this person want to glorify God more than anything?” that’s what’s important. So if a guy truly is a man after God’s heart then he will do as God commands, not whatever he wants. That includes choosing a wife; God should be a part of that decision. It’s not just about picking up the hottest one you see.
@JessicaSimms “It’s hard for anyone with a world-view to understand”
Yes because they have to much common sense to accept this double talking drivel.
“So you have to look at it with an eternal perspective”
What is an ‘eternal perspective? People need to be concerned with life on earth and living here right here now. I’m telling christian women ya’ll talk the same mindless xtian speak. I’ve seen so many playas game on Xtian women because y’all are so easy to game on. All y’all do is bible thump and talk and any playa can come and win ya’ll over easily just repeating the mindless drivel yall say. He had you at the first ‘amen’. He ain’t gotta prove nothing, all he got to do is talk. And ya’ll all fall in.
What the hell does eternal perspective mean?
All ya”ll talk about is god this and god that as if you alone have an exclusive hotline to what god thinks and says. And some dude will pick up on that and mimic what you say and you are hooked. Whatever.. Christian women are mindless androids, with no brain of their own. They all talk the same way, think the way and get gamed on by men.
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Come back into obedience, ye daughters of Zion. Godly men are awaiting you and ready to take you for their wife”
Translation: “Give a brother a chance. I’m like any other dude, I’m a horny muthafucker and I see all yall fine azz women on these dating sites and I wants me some trim.. But I know I can’t compete on a scale of 1 to 10 with some of these other brothers, so I want yall to give me a chance and look past my ‘loserness’ to give me some trim. I might be holy, but I won’t turn down sex before I think about maybe making you my wife, after you’ve proven your wifey benefits to me.”
LOL, learn to see through the biblespeak. Dem horny azz so called christian brothers ain’t no different than the Pookie down by the carwash dudes, they just use bibliology to game on women stupid enough to fall for it.
Here is a dude who hadn’t had pussy since pussy had him… A straight up loser and frustrated so he takes his frustration out on women. He gets passed by on those online dating sites he peruses in the hopes that he’ll get lucky. He won’t. And the only kind of woman who would go for him, would be a low self esteem desperate to have any kind of male woman… someone he doesn’t want. The women he wants on those sites nignores his trifling butt. So since he can’t have them, he puts them down. Typical sour grapes mentality. If he wants a so called christian woman, why the hell is he all up on some dating site looking for a woman? Why not take his butt to the nearest church house? They are full of lonely single horny christian women with that male dominated mindset that he wants, and they would snap him up quick. But see, in reality, he ain’t really wanting that kind of woman. He wants the kind of women that don’t want him. (And I don’t blame them). He knows he can’t get them, so he puts them down instead. Advice dude: Stick to what you can get and stop shopping for women who don’t want you.
Everything he says shouts a warning: he will want you to be submissive to him! Men should not be telling women what clothes or jewelry to wear or how to style their hair. This is just so much evidence that men have been trying to control women’s style choices since Biblical days (if not before). Beware this man.