Deborrah

Veteran social researcher, relationship advice columnist, author and radio host. Author of hundreds of articles on American and black culture, gender issues, singles, dating and relationships. Author of "Sucka Free Love!" , "The 24 Types of Suckas to Avoid," "The Black Church - Where Women Pray and Men Pray," and "Why Vegan is the New Black" all available on Amazon.Com. Her unique voice and insightful commentary have delighted fans and riled haters for 20 years. Read her stuff on SurvivingDating.Com and AskHeartBeat.Com.

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The Male Struggle for Control of Female Sexuality

| 09/29/2009 | Comments (15)
The Male Struggle for Control of Female Sexuality

A male reader writes in to share his thoughts on his belief that women not only lose value if they have multiple lovers, but that any woman can easily have 300 lovers in one year since all she has to do is have a vagina and give her consent. Why are some men so fixated on a woman’s purity as the sole source of her worth and value as a person?

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The Three Types of Black Men

| 09/02/2009 | Comments (4)
The Three Types of Black Men

After studying Black men for decades, I’ve come to the conclusion that there are three different types of Black men. Sadly, more than half of the Black men in the dating pool are misogynists and truly hate women; their treatment of and the thoughts they express about Black women prove it.

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It’s Just a Woman’s Power

| 09/01/2009 | Comments (1)

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It's Just a Woman's Power

A mature man comments on the female powers of observation and shares a little advice with the fellas… “Men we now have to start coming clean using truth and honesty if we hope to keep our women. This knowledge has me a little paranoid when I meet a woman… now is she looking at me from the inside out? That can’t be a pretty sight because I got issues. Not being as handsome as most and now I know I’m certainly not as smart, I have to be more honest and forthright to attract the opposite sex.”

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Can Dating Standards Be “Too” High?

| 09/01/2009 | Comments (15)
Can Dating Standards Be "Too" High?

Everyone must have standards. Your standards become the criteria used to compare the men or women that come into your life to see if they measure up. If you don’t have standards, you’ll risk becoming involved with married or other emotionally unavailable sorts. You also risk developing an attachment to someone that you know is totally wrong for you.

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Jerks, Assholes, Idiots and Abusive Men: Recognizing Verbal Abuse

| 08/14/2009 | Comments (12)
Jerks, Assholes, Idiots and Abusive Men: Recognizing Verbal Abuse

Five common tactics abusive men use to derail female confidence. The goal for abusive men is to belittle and insult you so often that you shut down. He wants to be able to treat you any way he likes, and for you to take it without complaint because you’re so beaten down you believe his words to be true.

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My Man is Nice and All, But the Sex is Boring as Hell!

| 08/07/2009 | Comments (0)

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My Man is Nice and All, But the Sex is Boring as Hell!

How do women decide between the man that is stable and the man that is a sexual God. In other words, how do women choose between the stable nice guy who may be trustworthy and a good father figure, but who is sexually boring, and the guy that makes her feel like a total woman but who may be a player? The issue is discussed in detail on The Date Smarter, Not Harder Talk Show with host Deborrah Cooper.

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Flying Your ‘Freak’ Flag… Sometimes it Needs to Be at Half Mast

| 08/03/2009 | Comments (3)
The freak flag is flying

I’ve noticed that a great many men seem to have little patience or perhaps its restraint, when it comes to initiating sexually oriented conversation with women they barely know. What is the behind this rude ungentlemanly-like conduct? Why come at someone like a hooker and insult every woman you meet running your same, tired game when, if you acted like you had some sense and manners and graciousness, you’d get what you want a lot sooner and she’d be thrilled to give it to you? Men are dumb.

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The God Virus – How Religion Messes Up the Minds of Men

| 08/01/2009 | Comments (2)
The God Virus - How Religion Messes Up the Minds of Men

Black men feel they deserve to be in charge and run their woman and household without question. Is this truly the relationship that modern Black men expect and feel they deserve… straight out of 1800? Why should accomplished Black women place themselves under the foot of a male that believes he is superior to women? Controversial examination of religion, God, Christianity, and the ego of the Black male.

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We Broke Up – How Can We Be Friends?

| 08/01/2009 | Comments (1)
We Broke Up - How Can We Be Friends?

I have never understood why people insist on being friends with an ex! Why continue to put emotional energy towards something that does not exist? Why torture yourself by hanging around and talking to someone in a situation that has a very low potential to become what you wanted it to be? The clock is ticking! Why not re-invest your emotional energy into the possibilities of finding someone else that wants to direct their romantic energy towards you?

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7 Early Warning Signs of a Doomed Dating Relationship

| 07/26/2009 | Comments (2)

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7 Early Warning Signs of a Doomed Dating Relationship

Do you notice that you repeatedly involve yourself with the same “type” of person over and over again? If so, the reason is most likely because you are either ignoring early warning signs that this situation is unhealthy and dangerous, or you don’t know what to look for. The earlier you notice signs of incompatibility such as these, the easier it will be for you to avoid getting hurt emotionally.

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Statistics on Black Women… Don’t Believe The Hype!

| 07/24/2009 | Comments (3)

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Statistics on Black Women... Don't Believe The Hype!

Are statistics true that show that Black women have a harder time with relationships than women of other races? Think about that and what truths are really exposed by an “average.” I suggest that all Americans be very leery of what is packaged as “statistics” when it comes to Black America. Do not put your faith in what statistics say until you have carefully considered what they do not say.

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Both Dating and Fishing Are Sports

| 07/22/2009 | Comments (1)
Both Dating and Fishing Are Sports

Have any of you ladies ever gone hunting or fishing? You should try it sometimes. It is a study in patience, planning and understanding the male mind. See, we can go to the grocery store and buy perfectly acceptable fish for $6.95 per pound that is already cleaned, boned and ready to eat. But men want excitement, to experience the thrill of winning and the memories and stories of the battle!

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